Sometimes we do things we don’t want to do all because we want to prove a point to someone or because we want to hurt or get approval from a person. I am the kind of person who acts impulsively at times and I don’t think about the consequences of my actions thoroughly before I do act. I would probably burn you in your house if you made me angry or hurt me, I wouldn’t be doing this because I want to do it or because I like hurting people but I would be doing it because I want to show you that I can also hurt you and I can do more damage to you than you did to me.
When I sent Philani the text, I wasn’t really breaking up with him because I expected him to behave like a normal boyfriend. Normal boyfriends beg, and force you to speak to them and eventually you wouldn’t break up with them because they would persuade you to overlook all your problems and focus on all the good that you had in the relationship.
Whether you really want to break up with a person or not, we always expect the man to grovel and beg. Naturally I expected Philani to call and beg or just send a sms asking me to calm down or just something along those lines, I didn’t expect him to say ‘Okay it’s fine.’
I put my phone away and I broke down and cried. I was really heartbroken and I wish I didn’t send that message to him because now there was no turning back for me. I couldn’t even text him and say I was joking because that would make me feel like more of a fool than I already was. Sihle came to my room and found me crying, she asked me what was going on and I just gave her the phone, she went through my phone then said
“Hlengy I still don’t understand why you are crying. I read your text to Philani and he responded. What did you want him to say?”
I wiped away my tears and stared at her in shock. I was shocked because I felt like she expected me to be happy with his response. Just because I broke up with him doesn’t mean it’s something I actually wanted to do, I wanted him to realise his mistakes and try to rectify them.
I said to her “Sihle you can’t be serious. I didn’t expect him to respond the way he did, I thought he was going to ask for forgiveness and then everything was going to back to normal. I didn’t want to really break up with him, I only wanted him to notice that his actions were hurting me and I couldn’t take it anymore. You know very well that I love Philani and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, how can you expect me to be fine with his response.”
Sihle looked at me with confusion, then read my texts again as though she was trying to find clarification on what was I was saying. After reading the texts she said
“The text I am reading tells me that Philani apologised, maybe we aren’t taking about the same texts, can I read them to you?”
I nodded then she said
“You sent him a text complaining about his treatment, and you suggested that you guys should break up, then he responded and said ‘No baby, I’m sorry if I made you feel that way. I love you and I never want to lose you. I will come later after work and we will talk. I love you Hlengiwe, I really do.’ This is the message he sent you, so I don’t understand why you are so upset.
I was confused now because that was not the message I received from Philani, I snatched my phone from her and read the messages. She was correct, Philani responded to my text by apologising and asking me if we could talk later on. The message I received written ‘Okay it’s fine’ was not from Philani but from a client who I sent a message the previous night confirming the time we were going to meet.
I felt really stupid but I also felt a sense of relief because I still loved Philani and I couldn’t imagine how my life would be if I were to lose him. I explained to Sihle what I actually thought happened and she laughed at me for being so stupid. I got out of bed and did the normal morning routine then I went to my client. When I was done with my client, I went to the mall. I treated myself to a lunch and a movie. When I was done I received a phone call from Thandiwe informing me that she was on her way to my house because we needed to discuss the bridal shower for Thando.
I quickly drove him and luckily we arrived at the same time. We couldn’t make any final decisions without Sihle because she was part of the bridal entourage. So we just chilled and brain stormed some ideas until we ran out of ideas.
After a while Sihle came back home with teary eyes, I didn’t know what to say or do. She sat down and said
“Hlengiwe and Thandiwe, Tshepo told me that Tsiamo has been asking him out. At 1st I didn’t believe him and I thought he was joking but he showed me the texts she has been sending to him. I don’t know what to do, I’m very weak.”
I already knew so I wasn’t surprised, but Thandiwe on the other hand was very shocked.
Thandiwe asked “What? Are you talking about the same Tsiamo that lives with you guys?”
Sihle nodded, then Thandiwe continued to ask “So Tshepo also flirted with her or he rejected her?”
“According to the texts I read Tshepo rejected her, but you can never know with men. Maybe he deleted the parts where he was flirting back and is he is trying to ease his guilt by telling me all of this. He has probably slept with her and now he is trying to throw all the blame on her. I don’t believe that he would reject a woman who even sent him naked pictures, Tshepo is lying to me, they had sex I know it.” Sihle said.
I had to intervene because poor Tshepo was being honest to his girlfriend because he loved her and didn’t want secrets between them, now he was accused of being guilty of sleeping with Tsiamo and the only reason he confessed was because he was guilty.
“Uhm Sihle, Tshepo didn’t sleep with Sihle. I’m sorry I didn’t let you know but I found out about this 2 days ago, but it wasn’t my place. I’m glad that Tshepo told you, it proves that he is an honest guy.” I said.
“Hlengiwe why didn’t you tell me?” she asked “you are my best friend and you were supposed to let me know, and how sure are you that he didn’t flirt back or that he didn’t sleep with her?”
I went to sit next to her and held her hand just to assure her that I was sure of my facts
“I am a 100% sure that he didn’t sleep with her because I saw the texts from her phone and he made it clear to her that he loves you and only you. If there was anything shady going on between them, I was going to find out from the conversation on her phone. I didn’t want to tell you because I felt that it was Tshepo’s place to tell you. If I took it upon myself to tell you, you were probably going to assume that the reason he hasn’t told you was because he was entertaining her. That guy loves you and he wouldn’t do something stupid that would threaten the existence of your relationship. You know he went through so much just to prove himself to you, why would he mess that up now? The only person who is wrong in this whole situation is Tsiamo.”
Sihle smiled a bit after I said that because she knew that everything I said was true.
Thandiwe said “Guys I know Tsiamo is your friend and all but this girl needs a serious wiping. First it was Thando’s man, now she wants Sihle’s man, who is next? Hlengiwe or me? We can’t let her get away with it. I say we teach her a lesson she will never forget. This girl must learn to respect people’s relationships. She thinks starting, nurturing and protect a relationship from people like her is easy. To think that I always thought she was a good person, but she has really proved that she is a snake.”
Thandiwe was right, Tsiamo needed to be taught a lesson and to think that she was acting like a ‘miss goody two shoes’ and the caring friend while she knew that she was the opposite of what she was pretending to be.
“I am all for teaching her a lesson but I don’t like violence Thandiwe, so if we teach her a lesson, we have to use less physical ways.” Sihle said.
I laughed because Thandiwe believed that the only way a person can be disciplined is through violence.
“What other way can we discipline a slut like Tsiamo? We need to get physical with her because if we don’t she is going to cause major problems for you. She will allow herself to fall in love with Tshepo knowing very well that he loves you, then suddenly she will want to commit suicide when he wants to marry you or he does something good for you. Then everyone will feel sorry for her as if she s the victim, meanwhile she is the cause of her own pain. She got off lightly with Thando and Mlu that is why she is continuing to do this, mina I am going to beat her up when she gets here for the sake of all the women in the world. I am tired of women who destroy beautiful relationships.”
We tried to convince her to not resort to violence but Thandiwe had already made up her mind, unfortunately Tsiamo walked in while Thandiwe was still angry.
She walked in and had a new hairstyle. She did a pony-tail, a long pony tail and she looked very beautiful.
After she greeted , Thandiwe went straight to her and said “Ya wena rubbish, you probably did this hairstyle for our men ne? You thik you can lure our men to you with your cheap hairstyles?”
I saw Tsiamo was getting nervous because her last encounter with Thandiwe wasn’t very pleasant.
“I don’t know what you are talking about Thandiwe” said Tsiamo with a hint of disrespect in her tone.
This angered Thandiwe and she said “You will know what I’m talking about once I’m done with you. When I’m done with you, you will be afraid to even befriend guys in relationships, you will learn to stay away from them.”
With that said she gave her a clap, then pulled her to the floor with her pony tail, then started to kick her.
We watched her moving from Tsiamo to the kitchen counter then she took 2 knives, one for herself and one for Sihle.