When you panic you tend to make the wrong decisions. I don’t know why I wanted to get rid of him but somehow it made sense. If Mudenda was really trying to break up with me for a text message I got from an ex what more of. he saw the ex in my flat on a weekend he knew I thought I would be away. I am not stupid and no matter how innocent of the situation I was he would never see it like that. It will be like I waited for him to leave town to bring my ex home. There then is men and their ego. It often gets in the way of reason yet were the situations reversed he would expert you to understand and be very surprised if you do not accept his explanation. That car parked in my parking lot I knew his ego would never handle! Men! Stupid and childish at the same time! I explained to Tidimalo the situation as quickly as I can and thank God he understood. He said he would try again some other time. He listened to my instructions and took the other stairs. I went downstairs and told Mudenda to park in the visitors parking bay which he hated because they were not covered and were under trees so he often argued that the birds shit on his car. As soon as he parked I hugged him as he got out of the car. From where we were we had an obscured view of my parking bay but I think I saw Tidimalo’s car pull out.
Mudenda was no longer concerned about that. He seemed very happy to see me. We went upstairs holding hands even something we rarely ever did anymore. He said that he realized that I was not happy yesterday and the way he left had been quite hostile. He apologized and said own taking his shoes. I asked if the trip was cancelled and he said just for him. His colleagues had left without him because he would rather be here. I got a phone call and it rang so loudly. I had left it on the counter as we entered. I stood up to go answer it and the number was private. As soon as I picked up the person left,
“Sorry I left my keys at your place. I think on the couch where I was sitting.”
I would know that voice even in a crowd. It was Tidimalo. What the hell was he talking about? I looked at the couch in question and that’s exactly where Mudenda was sitting. He was not paying attention to me but I know he was listening in. A lot of guys do that. You can’t touch his phone by they go all out to try find out who is calling you. I said bravely and loudly,
“Here in my building? Who are you visiting?”
I asked. I knew what the answer was but I had to make it seem like he had just arrived.
“Ok fine. You must come meet my fiance because you have some explaining to do!”
I said. Mudenda turned to look at me and gestures with his hands to ask whom it was. I hung up the phone.
“It’s my ex the one who sent that text. I want you to ask him for yourself why he sent it and ask him when last I spoke to him and the works.”
I told him. I could see the annoyance on his face immediately. Men don’t want to be made to confront other men. It makes them look weak and insecure!
“Ag is that necessary! I dont want to meet him. He is a loser so why should I entertain him!”
He asked me.
“No please don’t Mudenda. He is already here and I told him he should come. Am not cancelling. I am tired of you looking at me like I am some evil person because I am not.”
He was cornered. He stood up and came to the kitchen where I was.
“You said you are the one who wanted to fix things so this is it.”
I said moving away to go to the couch. The keys had fallen behind the cushion and I picked them up discreetly and put them in my pocket. Mudenda was super uncomfortable but I tried my best to put him at ease by talking about other things. I even tried to sound happy as I spoke.
Ten minutes later Tidimalo knocked. The moment of truth. I went to open the door for him and he entered. The shook hands and I offered him a sit. I shook his hand as opposed to hugging him. When he sat down Mudenda surprised us all by saying,
“Sorry mate, which one is your car because the parking lot is packed?”
Before I could even react Tidimalo answered as any guy would,
“The white mercedes with no plates…”
Mudenda then continues,
“So what I would like to know is that, was it a coincidence that you parked in her parking lot? Secondly how did you know where she stays let alone her flat number because she tells me you guys do not communicate at all yet you seem to clearly know your way around?”
He had set us up!
I was out of words at that moment but Tidimalo spoke and said,
“Her mother told me where she stayed. I have always known so it is not like it was that much of a secret. You can call her to ask. Listen my man, I have no interest in your girl. I have not seen her in ages. She told me that my message to her caused problems and what not. I can show you that it was not meant for her at all and n fact the person it was meant for laughed about it when I told her what had happened.”
I think Tidimalo knew that he would never ask my mother. She was a fearsome woman like I said at the beginning. Secondly, most guys are so used to calling the shots in the relationship so when confronted by another man in front of their woman it because awkward. Mudenda walked to the door and said,
“I am not stupid. Faith you can have him!”
And he walked out.
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
How are you and your readers?
I am a 23 year old guy and am still a student. My girlfriend is two years older than me and started working last year when she left university (we met in my first year). She bought a car and moved into a new flat and through all that I supported her. Obviously I am not financially stable to help with her bills but we discussed this because of our age difference. The problem is she started going out with colleagues for drinks and stuff. She does not answer her phone when she goes out and at times I don’t hear from her entire weekends. She has become secretive and snappish on the phone. The other day I told her that if she does not want me in her life she must tell me and she got angry saying that I am trying to abandon her now that I am about to graduate myself. She says she was there to support me all through last year when she was working and I was not. I pointed out all her changes and she said I am being paranoid.
We haven’t had sex in three months and even then the last few times it was terrible. She was tired and uninterested. Should we just break up?