There are some things you think only ever happen on TV, you know that channel that plays bad sound quality Latina soap
operas. Yup, those channels that everyone skips over because the shows are usually ridiculous. That was how I felt my life was right now. I sat there for a moment and looked at her like she was joking but when she did not blink I knew she was telling the truth. He wanted to humiliate me in front of her and this was his way of doing it. What kind of man would I be if I allowed my wife to sleep with another man in front of me? Come on now. I know we say it’s her body nowadays she can sleep with whomever she wants but does marriage mean nothing. Can your wife or husband sleep with anyone they want with no consequences? If that’s the case why do we bother getting married in the first place? There was something else though as I also had to play my cards right because with the Yizo Yizo guys in the cell I don’t think sleeping here would be wise.
“You are joking right love; did he really ask for that?”
I asked her.
“Yes he did. He really does not like you neh?”
She asked me like she was asking about how many sugars I want in my tea.
“That’ request is a bit much though. He is asking to sleep with you in my presence, is he mad?”
I asked her. Look I won’t lie, at this stage I was angry at him but on the other hand, something I can’t say outwardly to Londy I was relieved that at least there was a solution.
“Was there nothing else he asked for? Does it have to be this?”
I asked her concerned about what this would do to us.
“Vusi I know you and your pride. This is just sex and we are done. We don’t lose money and more importantly you get out of jail. That’s the most important thing to me. I don’t want my baby, our baby to have a child in prison or who is an ex con because he was too proud to take a simple deal!”
She said to me. I am not the perfect husband, I think that’s something I have started to accept but even for me this sacrifice was too much. You know when a couple has a threesome it’s something they consent to and enjoy together but this one was different. I am not saying I wanted to sleep with Simon nor that I wanted to be part of this, no, all I am saying is the consequences of this will be bigger than the moment.
“This is your body and you say you hate Simon so much how are you going to allow him to sleep with you? It’s going to hurt you down the lone!”
I told her.
“It’s my body, you are my husband! You are the most important thing to me. I took the deal and I agreed to do it.”
She said. So all along when she was consulting me she had already taken the deal. See why it was easy to suspect that she was already having an affair with this guy.
“How can you take the deal without consulting me first?”
I asked her getting a bit angry now. I was not being a hypocrite here because I was the one who had to sit and watch his wife being defiled by that sleazy bastard.
“And you how can you go beat up my ex boyfriend to the inch of his life without consulting me?”
She asked me. Ok in the world of come backs that was a good one because after that I was stumped I did not know what to say.
“I don’t know what you want me to say. If I say thank you I am thanking you for wanting to sleep with another man. On the other hand if I get angry I am being ungrateful to you trying to save my life!”
I told her exactly the conflict inside me.
“I did not expect you to like it and don’t make a mistake though saying I want to sleep with another man, I do not want to. I am doing it because you have a child to rise!”
She told me. It was at that moment that my mother and some guy I had never met walked in.
“Vusi are you ok?”
She asked me. She ran up and hugged me.
“I am ok mum!”
I told her not really accepting the embrace. I could see Londiwe through the corner of my eye. They shared a cold greeting between them which was nothing new.
“This is John he is going to be representing you!”
She said introducing me to the lawyer. The cop walked in and said,
“Only two visitors are allowed so can one of you come out?”
He said. My mother immediately looked at Londiwe as to her having to leave.
“I am not going anywhere, he is my husband!”
She told my mum immediately crossed her arms and looked the other way.
“I am his mother and I have brought the lawyer so who do you think must go?”
My mother also said defiantly. They both looked at me as though daring me to choose one. Goodness these people just would not give me a break.
“Mum it has to be you. Londiwe has very important information the lawyer has to hear. I can always see you after!”
I told my mother. It was like I had insulted her. The look on her face was as though she was sucking on a lemon. It was one of disgust that I could choose my wife over her.
She said as she walked out defeated I guess. Londiwe smiled.
“Do you realize that this is the first time you have chosen me over your mother and whilst that is nice, it simply because you want something from me!”
She asked me and told me at the same time. The drama never ends.
I started but she cut me off and said,
“John, the guy pressing charges says he will drop the charges if I sleep with him. I have already agreed to do it so if you call his lawyer or him, he gave me a number he will drop the charges!”
She told him without even blinking an eyelid.
“I beg your pardon?”
John asked confused by how candid she had said something so sordid.
“John its just sex! It lasts 5 minutes and my husband does not have to sleep in this filthy place. You get paid and you go home!”
Londiwe said taking charge.
“Are you comfortable with this Vusi? I mean right now you are in jail there is no way you can’t say no to this but it’s under duress?”
He asked me.
“Eh John, why are you asking my husband? I am the one who brokered the deal and I am the one telling you not Vusi? Do you have a problem with women being in charge?”
She asked the hapless lawyer who was not expecting a Londiwe on the war path!
“It’s just that I was not expecting this Londiwe, that’s your name right, I was not expecting it that’s all. I have had of such deals happening but never under my watch!”
He explained to my wife.
“Londiwe calm down love. Please don’t cause a scene everyone here is trying to help!”
I pleaded with her because I could see she was in one of her moods.
“I am sorry I bit your head off. My issue is that I had to broker this deal and sit and smile with the sleazy arsehole whilst the agreement was made. I don’t like it as much as you do but it has to be done!”
I think it was the first time since she came that she shed a tear. I could see a tear roll down her cheek but she quickly wiped it off.
“He says he wants it in writing so John can you please start writing. I have to get to the hospital ASAP so he can sign. Right now he thinks he has won!”
She said. She had a plan. It was already late though.
“Will I be able to sleep at home?”
I asked him.
“Well technically no but with the right people spoken to yes you will be able to!”
He told us. I am very certain that he meant a bribe. This is me, I hate corruption and even when the police stop me I feel as though it’s wrong to bribe them rather pay the fine. I get angry at corruption in government and so on but right now, I would have paid anything and everything they wanted. Here is the reality; corruption is only corruption if it does not benefit you because the rest of the time corruption is opportunity.
“I will make arrangements for…”
Before he even responded Londiwe was on him,
“Dude when will the letter be ready? I want to take it for him to sign now before he changes his mind. If he sleeps on it we are screwed!”
She told him emphasizing it. There was a sense of urgency to it. I had not seen Londiwe this proactive in a long-time.
“We have to go to the office because…”
John started to explain but again she cut him off,
“So why are you still sitting there? Let’s go! I will send your mother in I am sure she is dying to see you!”
Londiwe said extremely sarcastic in the last part. With the way john jumped up it was clear this woman terrified him and me too to a certain extent. I had never seen her like this.
He said trotting after her. I looked at her walk away with purpose, hips swinging from side to side and I must say I fell in love right over again. She could not sleep with that dude now ah!”
“Since when does Londiwe make deals on our family behalf?”
My mother asked as soon as she walked in. She was angry at me clearly but ah sometimes you roll with punches.
“I am so glad to see you mum, thank you for coming!”
I said changing the topic immediately.
“I am happy to see you to but…”
She started but I was ready for her,
“But nothing mum. I heard what you said about Londiwe, I will deal with it on my own don’t worry. I am not just going to be hasty and not have a plan. For now let everyone trying to help me out of jail help me!”
I told her with a smile.
“You should never have married that lowlife but ok then, I will support your decision. Where did they go?”
She asked me.
“To the office to sign documents!”
I was not going to tell her what the deal was!
“This is my entire fault. I should never have trusted someone who drives a yellow car in the first place!”
My mother said and then something triggered inside me.
“Mum how do you know Simon drives a yellow car, I have never told you that?”
I asked her. She immediately sat up.
“Say what? I never said that!”
She back tracked immediately.
“Yeah you did mum! Tell me the truth!”
I told her angrily.
“I have to go. You are being irrational!”
Immediately she stood up and she left.
What the hell was going on?
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I finally get the courage to write to you. Thank you for the wonderful platform.
I am 28 years old and at 23 I got married to the guy I had been dating since high school. I got pregnant in matric which was shameful and I got in trouble for it. He was older than me but I did not care because we were so in love. Two years ago he passed away in a car accident leaving me with a son to rise. It was the most painful thing to experience. I was a widow so young and he was the only guy I had ever been with. I went on a date for the first time after I lost him six months ago. It was not a pleasant date. The guy got drunk and he groped me. I blocked him. My next date was with a colleague’s cousin only to find out he was engaged and I was to be the side chick. Recently I started seeing a new guy and a month into the relationship he hit me. I had never been hit before by a man. He said I was disrespectful. I blamed myself for all three experiences. Is it too soon for me to be dating and is this what I should expect if ever I was to move on. I feel like my deceased husband is punishing me for wanting to move on. I just don’t know what to do.
Please advise me on how I can move on with my life and make better decisions in men.