I had really messed up and I thought he was going to do something to me. I cried in the shower and I believe that is the only place that a woman should ever let her tears run free. Crying in front of your man sometimes portrays weakness. In our case though I did not want him to feel guilt for what had happened because I knew that was what he was going to say. He was going to say I was trying to emotionally blackmail him. I still wanted to know who the lipstick belonged to though. I was not going to let that go. It was there and I saw it.
I called out when I came out of the shower. I was only met with silence. I walked out of the bathroom and the flat was quiet. He had left. I can’t believe he left without telling me. I went into the sitting room in my towel.
“I can’t believe this guy!”
I told myself as I held my waist in disbelief. I went to the bedroom where I put on my nightdress. My phone rang and it was my sister. I could hear that she was still having fun the way the music was pumping.
“Did you get home ok? Is he still angry?”
I asked her.
“What do you expect? Why did you bring Simon to the party?”
I asked her angrily.
“I was not thinking I am sorry.”
“Why is he still your friend and your phonebook?”
I asked her angrily.
“We were friends before you met and we will be friends after. I was not part of the relationship!”
She said defensively.
“This is the man that used to abuse me your sister and he is still your friend! Are you hearing yourself? He used to beat me up properly and you would wipe the blood off me and you tell me that he is your friend! How can you even justify that?”
I asked her again because maybe she was not thinking straight. My sister never thought straight in any case. You always had to explain something to her ten times before it clicked to her.
“I was not justifying that. He said he was sorry and I believed him. That’s why he was even trying to get you back. He has changed I promise and deserves another chance!”
She said pleading.
“Deserves another chance? I have a husband now are you crazy!”
I told and I don’t think when those words came out she had thought them through. It’s not impolite to call some people dumb or stupid because often dumb is dumb. My sister was both stupid and dumb.
“Well the way I see it you must chow his money and never give him any. That’s the way you will punish him for what he did to you. You once told me that the one thing you always regretted about him was that you never made him pay for it. This is one way!”
She explained to me. I just looked at my phone and I hung up on her without even caring. Sometimes the family God gives us looks as though he had been trying to make a prank on us and at some point will jump out of the bush and scream with a camera crew,
Nonjabulo was a disappointment. I was angry at her for what she had done and I was going to deal with her later. For now however I needed my husband. As I already had my phone in my hand I called his. It rang on the other side of the apartment.
“Just great! You left your phone!”
I said out loud to myself as I walked towards it to pick it up. In my marriage we were allowed to go through each other’s phones not that we always exercised that right. Phone politics are always the most complicated in any relationship. To touch his phone or not to touch his phone that is the question. We had decided early on that the moment we had passwords was when the lies would start.
“Let’s see who you have been talking to!”
I said out loud again. I had a reason to be suspicious so I had a right to check. There were no text messages but whatsapp messages and one of them had a number with no name. It had that accept or add contact thing in it. It was also a voice message. I listened to it.
“Hey you. Thanks for this afternoon. My party would have been a bore had you not come through! See you soon!”
It was female voice, perfect English and yeah that was that. I was boiling right now. He said he had gone for a meeting with his mum but vele now I know he was lying. The reason why he had not wanted to go to my sister’s party was because he was already double booked and had to go to this other girl’s party. See why I always men are terrible liars if you know your man.
He clearly did not have her number saved.
“Thank you but that was the last time we are talking. Please don’t call again. I am married, my wife is pregnant and angifuni izifebe around me!”
I responded and I blocked her number plus deleted the message of course. He was never going to see it or hear from her again. I checked his dialled numbers and received calls to see if she was there but she was not. There was no trace of her. Somehow now I felt satisfied with myself but the anger did not go away.
I cursed. I made a mistake. I should have taken the number down and called her to find out who she was. That would have been better logic! As I thought that I heard the key and enter Vusi.
“Where were you?”
I asked him angrily. I had originally planned on ignoring him when he came but clearly I was too angry for that.
“I was at the Nigerians, he asked me to help with his computer!”
He started to explain but I was hearing none of that.
“Since when are you friends with him? Where were you really Vusi? Did you go meet up with the girl who gave you the makeup and lipstick? Is that the reason why you asked me to go bath so you could sneak out?”
I asked him angrily. He had never told me to go bath before the way he had and the next thing he had snuck out. It was suspicious.
“Love calm down. Firstly I was at the Nigerian’s you can go ask him if this is true, its a ten second walk!”
He said sitting down taking a deep sigh.
“You know I am not going to do that because I am not an insecure wife that’s why you are daring me to go!”
I responded to him, raising my voice!
“Why are you raising your voice? Now you want people to hear that we are fighting?”
He asked me. See, I knew I had done that and I also knew he embarrassed easily. He never wanted a scene even if it was just the two of us.
“Vele my voice is raised now because you are lying to me.”
I told him without backing down. As a woman what would you do if your man came with lipstick on his clothes and acting shady around you at that. You have to ask. Its easy to say I was being unreasonable and annoying but if you love your man and that was on his clothes you would not sit back and do nothing.
“I was going to secondly, the lipstick and make up for that I apologize. At the meeting I went to with my mother if you remember there was a girl I knew from way back, she hugged me. If you want we can go meet her tomorrow so that you can see for yourself that she really is just an old friend who even my family knows. I am sorry however that I made you suspect something!”
He said to me! See I hated and loved this about him at the same time. I was trying to vent and be angry at him but he was so calm and was making me look stupid at every turn.
“Yeah arrange that!”
I told him defeated but obviously I knew he would not be able to. I had deleted the numbers and I don’t think men had a right to bring “new” old friends in the middle of a relationship. These are the people they cheat with.
“Now tell me what Simon was doing there?”
He asked me masterfully changing the topic.
“It was Nonjabulo not me. I really did not know he was going to be there. I told her in no uncertain terms that it was unacceptable!”
I explained. There was a knock on the door and I went to open. It was a woman wearing very little,
“Hi, please tell Vusi that they say you guys can come and join next door there are lots of drinks and its just the three of us!”
No worry in the world and she ran back. She might as well have been wearing a bra and panty the way she was so under dressed. My husband was angry at me, I was angry at him, perhaps we needed some letting loose. I turned around and he was in the kitchen.
“Vusi, your friends next door are invited us over for drinks!”
He looked at me like it was trick question. I could see he wanted to go badly. So he was not lying then about having been there. Eish, I should trust him more.
“There are women there who…”
He tried to explain. I don’t think he realized that I had seen her already.
“Let’s go then, they have invited us for drinks and it will be rude to decline!”
I said to him and he just stood there frozen. He really thought I was tricking him into getting in trouble.
Let’s see what he does!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Your stories have been my daily dose of entertainment for a long time now and I love them till today.
Guys I cheated on a great man. I dated ‘Mike’ for three years and he did everything for me and for us. He is a slow guy but not really a church person. Whenever there were parties he would allow me to go by myself because he hated crowds and how people got when they get drunk. He is not a big guy so I suppose he avoided violence. He was a gentleman all the time and all my friends loved him. Unfortunately I was bored all the time because he never ever wanted us to do anything together that was fun. The mall was the best we could do and we could not even do weddings because he hated them. Anyway those are the excuses that led me to cheat. I am so stupid I should say so now. I met a guy through a friend of mine. He was fun and daring. I am ashamed to say I slept with him the same weekend I met him. It was supposed to be once off but with ‘Mike’ being ‘Mike’ and me bored it happened again and again. Eventually ‘Mike’ found out and he left me. That relationship with the other guy did not work out because he told me that he wanted me when I was in a relationship so that I would never end up wanting to control him. Imagine. Its been four months since ‘Mike’ left me. I have been on a couple of dates but my heart wants to go back to ‘Mike’. I messed up and I know you guys will shout at me for it. I deserve that. The question I have though is how do I get him back. I have learned my lesson and I really do love him. I messed up and everyone messes up. How do I make it right? I don’t party anymore by the way, even stopped drinking.