A lot of married women can readily tell you how man can be the most unthoughtful creatures in marriage and tend to be selfish in their decision making. He expects you the woman to always think and put the family first, wants to be consulted all the time but don’t expect him to do the same, hell no! He is the head of the house remember hence you must treat him like a king. I was livid! This morning was turning to shit so fast! I tried calling my husband but his phone was off. I recalled at the back of my mind that he had mentioned something about a meeting but I did not know where he had said it will be. I would have gone there myself to give him a piece of mind because what he had done was wrong! His meetings though! Normally that takes about two hours. I did not even know whom he was meeting so I could not call them. I tried to call her phone but she kept on hanging up on me. At least the phone was ringing. I was not happy with this situation but I decided the best thing to do was go to my rounds he will call me back! Periodically I called Lintle hoping she would answer but she did not pick up. Her father was brainwashing her probably but let him, I was going to bash him brains in that’s for sure. I was now regretting not getting those APPs which they always tell us to get that can track your kids! It’s a black people thing educated or not! We do not want to use technology which favors us because we are so quick to say it’s so difficult yet a 13 year old can use it. It’s not because we do not want to invade our kids privacy but rather that we are ignorant. We are content with the little information that we know yet forgetting that the world changes every single day. If I had the APP all I would have done was check her location. Zethu found me pacing up and down my office!
“Zethu I can’t believe he will do that?”
I said as soon as she entered.
“You can’t believe he will do what?”
I explained to her the situation and she just shook her head and said I am going to have to keep on trying him. She said as long as she was with him she was safe. Two minutes later he called!
“What the hell is wrong with you?”
I screamed at him as soon as I picked up!
“I told you already that the child was before our time! Come on you over playing this!”
He said in a snappish tone! Why was snapping already? He was in so much trouble!
“No am not talking about that! I want to know why you took Lintle out of school without telling me! Was she sick? You should have told me!”
“What are you talking about? I didn’t take Lintle! You know I had a meeting today. I was even late because I didn’t have clothes and had to go home because someone kicked me out!”
Why was he telling me all this? If he didn’t pick her up then who did?
“Where is she Sizwe? This is serious!”
I said to him that shouting turning into fear. I could hear though that he too was panicking!
“This is all your fault! If you hadn’t mentioned that Nelisa all this would not be happening!”
I screamed through the phone!
“My fault, are you serious! You are the one that insisted on us fighting in front of her like we were kids! I always say we don’t fight in front of her but you never listen!”
He retorted but continued,
“Look let’s try find out where she is! I will try calling her but I think you must go to the school and speak to some of her friends!”
He said. He was right! Now was not the time for this fight!
“Eish Zethu where do I even start though? These schools have a tendency of putting a black mark on your child if your storm in like that!”
Ii said to her and I was right! Black schools I could go to the principal and everyone I needed would be brought to me but in a white school you needed their parents permission first to even talk to them otherwise lawsuit!
“I should go!”
I said to her looking for my keys. I rushed out the hospital like a woman possessed but Zethu chased me down and asked me to breathe first. She asked me why I had my keys in hand because I took the Gautrain! Imagine how stupid I felt at that moment! There goes the lack of convenience I mentioned earlier!
“Before you go to school aren’t there mom’s you are friends with that you can call?”
I thought about it and remembered Tsakane. Zethu was telling me that when your child goes missing one of her friends will always know. Fortunately for me she was not really close to her white snorty friends at school but two of the girls who lived in our complex. One of the mothers of the girls I had her numbers because we often arranged sleep overs and jogged together when I had the time. That’s Tsakane. She picked up and I immediately told her what the problem was. Our daughters were roughly the same age so it was not a difficult conversation but what she said rather took me off guard,
“You are joking right! Sandra’s school also called she is not there! She left in a black mercedes!”
These kids! They thought this was a joke. The irony is she did not seem too disturbed because she had older daughters. She told me that we can look for them until we turn blue but that does not guarantee us finding them. She told me that we should wait until the evening because they probably will assume that we don’t know they are at school. It’s when you make them panic that you have problems. I was in awe. Both our kids were missing and I was falling apart and she was as cool as a cucumber. This motherhood business really is different depending on whom you are.
I told Zethu who just laughed and said kids of today but I did not find it funny at all. I called my husband and told him of these latest developments. Like me he was not sure what to do next. I think because he was already in my bad books he agreed with my recommendation that we do nothing until the evening. Hardest decision ever. My daughter normally got home around three so the plan was to wait until then. I asked my husband to come see me at the hospital to discuss this Nelisa girl because clearly we could not have this fight at home again. He refused and said that we should rather do this away from colleagues or friends unless it ended up as a fight. We are actually not a fighting couple and maybe I had overreacted I guess. I agreed. It was already mid afternoon. I called my husband and told him I was on my way home. An hour and a half later we pulled up in the driveway together. We were both tense.
Tsakane had been right!
When we walked into the house there she was passed out on the couch, reeking like a brewery!
My 16year old daughter was drunk out of her skull!
I am going to kill her!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I am 14 and my mother is sleeping with my friends father. My mother is a single mom and on Saturday she thought I had gone to the movies but there was load shedding so I came back early. When I got home I found them having sex in the lounge and I even saw his thing. My friends mother has cancer and she is very ill. We have been friend since grade one and we do everything together. We attend the same church andd because she is sick we even went to pray for her with the church which makes me feel so rotten. How can my mother do that though? We all go to the same church and we are from a small neighborhood meaning it’s only a matter of time before everyone finds out. I am so ashamed. When they saw me he tried to bribe me with a r100 to keep quiet. What should I do?
Please advise me