“Make no mistake about it, as long as women do not support other women they will never succeed. Donald Trump is winning the US Election because female voters voted for him even after they know how much of a sexist, misogynistic and racist white man who thinks women are sex objects! Remember Mmatema from Idols … poised to become the first female Idol winner and what happened? Women voted for the guy… love yourselves enough to know that you can trust each other!” Mike Maphoto
There was no triumphant walk as i walked out. This was not a victory for me because I loved my job and I was being forced to give p what i love by these people. I would like to say growing up I was a fighter and stood up to bullies but that would be a lie. The truth is circumstances had brought me t this moment. They push you until you break then they turn around and blame you when things don’t go right. I could see them sitting there plotting their next move on how to place the blame on me but there was no way the recordings had not taken them aback. They had not seen that one coming so I know now they would try and stop all this. I was done though. You cannot continue being someone else’s punching bag n life. Find your pride and move on. I had not even gotten to my office when Nthabiseng called me. She had actually managed to listen to my voice note which made me feel so relieved.
“Friend what’s going on? This is some deep stuff are you ok?’
She asked me as soon as I picked up the phone. I know I have said this before but l when you make friends you need to have a set of the right friends. Yes we all don’t end up in university to make these friends but even at church you can make the right connections. If you are working a lawyer is very important. Why do you think Scorpion or Legalwise or Clientele is always advertising? It’s because they know that somewhere somehow no matter what corner you are in these things will happen. I was not special in any way I know that but you need always have a lawyer on standby. People take advantage of those people that act like the world is perfect and they will never get caught with their pants down. Stop being stingy and go pay r80 a month because it could save your life!
“I have just resigned. I sent you a copy of what they said to me and what I said to them.”
I told her. I thought she would say something to stop me or warn me against it but she did not do so. Instead she went into full lawyer mode.
“Ok listen to me carefully; take a video of you walking to security…”
I asked her a bit confused.
“Yes to security. Go get one of the guards to take you to your office so you can pack your things. It’s very important you do what I am saying. Companies like this have a tendency of coming back and saying you stole something so I repeat go get a security guard and video tape your exit. It might come in hand.”
She told me. I would never have thought that on my own but it’s true a llot of people have been accused of theft.
“I have a friend who was working for Coca Cola who was accused of stealing r134 after he resigned accusing them of racism. It’s a true story so don’t make that mistake!”
She warned me. I wanted to laugh but I had so many emotions right now. I was actually doing this. I hung up the phone and starting taping myself.
“This is Lungile Mbatha, I have just resigned from my job and am now walking from Ms Du Toits office the woman who told me I was suspended to the security desk to ask for security to help me take my things.”
I said this as I was getting to security,
“MAKOTI what’s going on in just got a call from the bosses saying we must not allow you into your office without being accompanied?”
BRA Hugh, no not the one from Assupol I was not dead yet but the security guard who was friendly with me said as soon as I got there.
“Yes it’s true. I resigned. I need you to escort me to take my bag so that I can leave please!”
I told him confidently
“What’s the video for?”
He asked me.
“I don’t want to be accused of stealing something so it’s important.”
I told him. I never thought I would be confiding in the security guards but realty is in white owned companies they tend to be the closest thing you have to home and you talk to them like family.
“That’s a good idea it’s something I would never have thought of on my own! Why are you leaving though? This place won’t be the same without you!”
He said as we got into my office.
“It’s how things have to be unfortunately. These people think that they are the only people with a job in the world. You can’t keep on trying to please people and they still treat you like you are dumb and uneducated!”
I told him and it’s true. In the private sector most of your white management people do not have academic qualifications yet they sit all day deriding Jacob Zuma for not having any. In fact Julius Malema is more educated than them as he has a degree and they don’t yet they make him sound down. Mmusi Maimane has a theology degree which technically all our mothers have because you know how much they read the bible but when you hear white people speak they make him sound like he is a genius, the voice of the black educated and the last black hope. I know so many more personal assistants who have degrees so much stronger than their white bosses but your fate is tied to your skin colour.
“I guess you are right! Sometimes I wish I had your opportunities and could have gone to school so that I can get a job where ever I want but look at me!”
He said. I don’t know whether he was sympathizes with my situation or lamenting his own but I did feel for him. Imagine being in a situation in which you know that even if you wanted a job you probably can’t go anyway. It cannot be nice.
“Focus the camera on me and everything I pick up please!”
I told him as I picked up my bag. I really didn’t have a lot of personal things. The files belonged to the company even though the work had been done by me. I had backups on my laptop at home in any case. I was done in less than five minutes and before I walked out Mr. Gold came to the office.
“Lungi, this is a bad idea. Stay and fight from within the company as opposed to fighting from the outside! Don’t listen to those two; they don’t know what they are doing.”
He pleaded with me.
“No sir with all due respect I cannot. I have left all the files pertaining any project I have been working on. I have not taken anything that does not belong to me.”
I informed him as my superior and with those parting words I walked out. I did not even look back even though I wanted to. I sent Nthabiseng a message saying all is done I had left. Yup, Elvis has left the building!
When I got home it took about 15 minutes before Nthabiseng also got there. She was very worried about me and it showed by the way she walked in. She gave me a hug and held me a bit longer than she usually does.
“Are you ok? How are you holding up?”
She asked me.
“I am fine hey. I thought I would fall apart and panic after the adrenalin settled but actually I feel like I was long overdue to do this.”
I told her.
“Ok that’s fine but I want you to brief me of everything that happened in the last couple of days that led to today.
She told me sitting down taking out a tape recorder of her own and a note book.
“Do we have to do it now? I am so tired!”
I asked her.
“I am afraid we have to. I want you to be able to remember everything. It’s better for our case!”
I told her.
“I thought the things that I sent you were enough though? What are you saying?”
I asked her that panic coming back. I was not about to go through that walk again. For the record I loved my job it’s just that I hated the people I worked with. When people disrespect you and belittle you it drains you emotionally. It’s the worst feeling ever. I then recited to her everything that had happened that afternoon and how things had ended. I also told her about Mr. Mawela and Nicolene reaction. I gave her all recordings I had.
“So what are you going to do?”
Nthabiseng asked me.
“Well I want to do my MBA! You are saying this will take time so I think if I have a year off to push it I can probably get it! They are doing me a favour and they don’t even realize that!”
I told her defiantly.
“I need to call Mr. Tizora because I was working on a contract with him. I think I owe him an explanation about what happened!”
I said reaching for my phone.
“No don’t. He needs to hear it from the company because if anything happens to the contract they will say that you sabotaged it. Block his number for now so that there is no record of you having a conversation from today forth!”
She told me. That was a bit drastic but I did as I was told and blocked him.
“So what are we doing?”
I asked her.
“Well its simple really, we are going to sue them for r5million!”
She said so casually I literally fell out of my sit!
“I beg your pardon?”
I asked her totally shocked by that amount.
“Yes! You are suing them for discrimination, nepotism, constructive dismissal and creating a hostile environment to work in. They don’t have enough black employees to satisfy any BEE quarter in any case and I know that they have about two government contracts last time I checked meaning they lied to get those contracts making it fraudulent! Moreover you are in management now meaning that your package is much higher than you think. You not leaving because you have a new job you are leaving because they pushed you out. We suing for r5million and don’t be shocked, in the real world r5million is not money!”
She said standing up. She seemed so confident as she said this. I wanted to smile but I was not sure why I could not.
“I have to go back to the office!”
“Don’t forget, r5million!”
She said laughing and hugged me before she walked out.
My head was spinning!
Did she say r5milliion is not even money?
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I was in a relationship for the past three years and I really loved this guy but the problem was that the baby mama was constantly in the picture and I felt I was competing with her,so this year January we decided to break it off cause the baby mama was now living with him.To say I was heartbroken is an understatement,but I decided that instead of dating someone else I should heal on my own and that’s exactly what I did.For nine months I was single and I went through all the emotions in order for me to heal,well after that through my best friend I met a guy and my best friend and I would chill with him sometimes.During those times of being with him I started falling for him,then there was a day where we decided to go out for drinks(my best friend and I and him with his friend)so we were chatting and suddenly my best friend asked him if he was in a relationship and he said it was complicated,my best friend asked how it was complicated and he said he didn’t see a future with her I was disappointed that he was in a relationship so I decided to forget about the feelings.The following week he invited my friend and I for drinks again but my friend couldn’t make it and I went alone,that day it was a cold rainy day and instead of drinks,him and I decided to watch movies.We watched movies and just chatted about general things,when it was time for me to go home he kissed me and I was shocked cause I really didn’t think he liked me.Three days later he invited my friend and I to his place again and he asked to talk to me in private,he told me that he had fallen inlove with me and that I was everything he wanted in a partner and he asked me to be his girlfriend.I was so happy but I didn’t show it and I told him straight forward that I didn’t want to be the other woman cause I know how it feels to compete with another woman and he said he’d sort that out.After that him and I started spending a lot of time together getting to know each other and everything,this guy was everything I wanted in a man.We eventually started dating and he spends most of his time with me,he calls when he’s not with me just to say he misses me or he’s checking up on me,he even talks about how our future will be one day and how our kids will look and act,he makes me happy and feel loved.I’ve even asked him if he’s serious about us and he said he’s serious about us and that he’s in this for the long term.I just don’t feel comfortable knowing there’s another woman in the picture and she’s forever calling him when I’m with him and I understand cause she’s the girlfriend.But I’m scared he’ll just leave me and go back to her because I’m a really insecure person after my past relationship and I’ve told my friend how i feel about this but she told me that since this guy and his girlfriend have been together for so long(about 5 years)it’s going to be hard for him to just leave her and I should give it time.But I’m scared that after I put in the effort to make the relationship work,he’ll just leave me and go back to her.Must I just give up on this relationship before I get hurt?Or should I just be patient with him and see where this relationship goes?
I’m sorry for the essay