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This had to be one of the most surreal moments of my life. My husband’s love child sitting with my father’s mistress and both of them attacking me. For a moment I was stunned. Of all the bad luck in the world mine had to be the worst. I won’t say I am surprised that they were friends though because they both liked old men.
“Why didn’t you tell me this was the woman who was doing all this to you? I would have come and helped you!”
Nelisa was saying to her with such confidence. I tried to think of one moment where I had either been rude to Nelisa or mistreated her. When she was first introduced to me I had opened my doors to her and she had even stayed with my own daughter. Now here she was saying I had treated her like shit.
“We are not getting out so stop shouting and embarrassing yourself!”
My husband said very calmly and instead went and sat down. Well I wanted to go. I was not going to be humiliated by two sugar daddy loving girls but the fact that he was sitting down meant that I had to sit down too. Ah!
“You can stay dad but she can go!”
Nelisa said calmer now. She emphasized the dad part and I felt a pang in my heart hearing someone else, another child call my husband father. It had only been Lintle and now this.
“She is not going anywhere, now sit down and stop acting like a child!”
My husband said still very calmly. She went and sat down across from him.
“I want to know, when did my wife mistreat you? I was there when you came to our house! She did her best to make you comfortable! It might not have been easy for your but do you think it was easy for her?”
He asked her. She opened her mouth as though to argue but caught herself because I think she realized that he was right. I honestly don’t know how else she had expected to have been treated by me though. She was a child who had showed up out of blue.
“Well i didn’t like how she reacted when she saw Rodney. She had no right to judge!”
She said defiantly but much calmer.
“Rodney? That old man you are dating?”
My husband asked and she nodded. Before she could say anything he spoke.
“And you think it’s normal? Such an old man calling you baby?”
He asked her very calmly.
“When you go out with him does he hold your hand proudly and show you off to the world that he is in so in love with you? Has he taken you to me his family and said this is the woman I would like to marry some day? Does he come and stay with you for days, no, even for a day without worrying that his wife will find out?”
My husband asked her all these questions and she looked down at her feet definitely embarrassed. He was right though but I was not going to utter a word. It has become so common nowadays and very normal too for old men to date young girls. I am sorry; a 35 year old has no business dating a 20 year old girl for example. Think of it this, when her mother was in labour he was already in grade 10 experimenting with girls if not fucking them! How then is it remotely okay for this to be condoned by society? Nowadays you hear all these girls; especially the ones in universities with a bit of education justify it. Yes the world might have changed so much that it’s ok to suck your grandfather’s dick but that shit can never be normal I am sorry. I was now called proud and judgemental for disapproving of such behaviour! Has the world gotten so fucked that I was now the one who was not normal for supporting this?
“But why would she kick out Sibongile the way she did?”
She asked I think trying to turn the tables on me. She was losing this argument and it was largely because my husband had maintained his composure. Instead of matching her in a verbal war he had spoken to her calmly like a parent does to a child.
“What would you do if your father… the one in Bloemfontein… showed up with a 19 year old in your mother’s house?”
My husband asked her. She looked a bit confused by the question because clearly it was a trick question.
“I would probably kill the bitch!”
She said. I thought my husband would reprimand her for saying bitch but I guess we had bigger fights to fight at this moment. That was trivial in comparison to that. It was fascinating to see that these sugar babies are so quick to want to destroy other people’s family but hardly ever does the shoe ever fit if the tables are turned on them and it is their family on the line.
“Sibongile, you came into my wife’s family and you caused all this drama. She did not blame you alone in this as most people tend to blame the girl. No, she blamed her father too. She kicked you both out. I don’t know where you get the balls to think you can come live with the daughter of the man you are sleeping with when her mother is at home waiting for her husband? I mean come on now! You are lucky she didn’t kill you because I swear to God I would have! It’s an insult and a slap to her face and family. I know you might not care about this but her own mother isn’t talking to her because of you! Because she opened the door for you! You just showed up like it was your house! We let you in!”
He said his voice becoming a bit harsh now. Finally he was saying something about the matter. All along he had played Switzerland and not gotten involved but this was the Sizwe I wanted. The one who tells all of them to back off.
“Ok fine I get it; it’s just that I felt for my friend. Imagine her calling me saying that she was stranded in Jhb. Your father dumped her at a Formula One and said he was on his way to Mafikeng and would be back in a week. Where have you ever heard of such nonsense?”
She said trying to garner sympathy from us but she got none. So my father had bailed on her typical man. What the hell had he been thinking though?
“How do you know each other?”
I asked a bit scared I guess because I was not sure whether she would snap at me. Nelisa ignored me but Sibongile responded.
“We went to school and are best friends. I am really sorry about how all this happened. I know I am wrong and I can never apologise enough for your father and I. He scares me and I am trying to break up with him so I can move on from this bad chapter of my life but it’s not easy. At least here I can look for a job and make something of myself because school might be a bridge too far!”
It was not my problem really to be honest. I just nodded. I told Sizwe that we had to go because I am sure the girls had a lot to catch up on and educate each other on. It was a bit of a snide comment but after the way they had shouted at me they had earned it. I had my dignity still intact but more importantly I had a baby at home to worry about as well. Everyone has problems so let me deal with my own not these manufactured ones.
“Nelisa, never talk to Nothabo like that again. She is not your friend. She is an adult whom you must show as much respect as she has shown you. You say you are ready to be with older man then grow up and act it!”
My husband said as a partying salvo! That one none of us had seen coming but the way I was gloating inside at this moment. He had finally put her in her place. It’s not that I was looking for it but it’s nice to know that your man has your back. When we got to the car he apologized about what had gone down but I could see he was really troubled by it all. I was not. I just wanted to smile as all was fine with the world. Jesus take the wheel, hallelujah.
When we got home I was tired. There was still food from that dinner so I had that for supper. Lintle was later than usual but it was because she had sports. When she came back though she came and asked me if I could exempt her from sports. They needed my signature. I asked her why she wanted to get out of sports.
“Duh mum because I am pregnant!”
She said annoyed at my question.
“Well for the duh I am not signing and nor will your father. As long as you stay pregnant will treat you like the adult that you are so you don’t need my permission!”
I said to her. I was tightening the screws now on this whole matter. I will make her cave in just watch.
“Mum come on. You can’t hold this against me!”
She said but I ignored her. I had quite the emotional day so I was not prepared to haggle with her. Sizwe came into the room and we discussed Sibongile. I don’t like gossiping about kids but eish this girl just did things to me. He said he wanted to go to Cape Town for some tender briefings. He took out the documents and it was 3 in all and they were staggered in days. It meant he would have to go for a couple of days. I don’t know why but I actually minded him going. He has gone for many briefings in his time and I never cared but now I felt uneasy. Is this what happens when you cheat? You transfer the guilt on to someone else.
“Can I come too?”
I asked him. He was a bit surprised and said yes be it hesitantly something which made me even more suspicious. My mind was playing with tricks with me because now the hesitation he had made was making me suspicious. Not trusting your partner is the last thing you want in the world of marriage so I immediately put it at the back of my mind but I couldn’t shake it. When he went to bath, I decided to go through his phone, there was nothing in it. I felt bad. Something made me go check his briefcase which I had noticed lately he left in the car. As soon as I opened it on the top a file caught my attention.
The title was,
Sizwe James Makgofa
Nothabo Makgofa (Dr.)
It was dated five days ago. The lawyer was,
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Thanks Mike for such amazing stories
Im a 29 year old who’s been in a relationship with this guy for 8yrs the problem is I think im falling out of love with him, everytime we have sex I get bored and not interested but his very special to me so 2 years back I started having sex with a guy friend of mine it was the no strings attached type of situation, he was and still not in a relationship he only lasts with girls a month or two and he gets bored by the sex but with me it’s been going on for 2years and we recently stopped using protection”i know I’m being Irresponsible” problem is im starting to develop feelings for my friend with benefits so I wana come out and tell him, my question is, is it possible for a guy to sleep with a woman for so long without developing any feelings or attachment to the girl
Thanks for yo advice in advance