How do you tell your sister that your husband has just killed her husband? Most of all how do you tell your sister that she is the reason that your husband killed her husband? Just telling a person that someone has died is a process, you prepare and even though you know the end results will be tears, you still need to plan your words properly and easy them into the pain. I was not prepared so instead I said, “Mthobisi, you are breaking I can’t hear you, can you move around.” Mthobisi said he could hear me clearly and I kept saying I couldn’t hear and he said he would call me back. “No, no, it’s fine I will call you back, the network must be terrible where you are” I said, trying to think of a way to spin the story for my sister but there wasn’t any better way to put it.
I still don’t get why people don’t just say so and so is dead because at the end, that is exactly what they are going to hear. But I guess it’s just good manners.