Women can defy logic at times, they allow their friends to fool them into believing that there important things in life than their marriage. A person who is not married, has never been married will almost always give you advice that pushes you away from putting your husband first. She always has that feministic approach. They almost always that “really” comment when you do something that they think is not worthy of a woman doing for a man. That was Zethu. She was not for or about marriage. I had a friend who wants told me that if you are in a steady relationship, the last person is you need in your life giving you relationship advice is that singe friend of yours. I have no doubt that Zethu had my back when I needed her most but returning the favour would most certainly end my marriage. What she was asking me to do was jump on my own sword and that was not an option. Did I look like I was Brutus in Julius Caesar? Falling on my own sword is definitely not something I wanted especially now that I was about to get my family back. The only thing standing between me and rebuilding us was me and I had to get it out of the way. I had to make some kind of a plan and at this point I had no idea what.
“Nothabo please, I need you right now!”
She begged me. I told her that I will see what I can do but I would not throw her under the bus. I would have a back and will fix everything I had destroyed. She breathed a huge sigh of relief but I could still see that she was anxious. Who can blame her though with all that was going on?
“I think we need to speak to George to change his story!”
I told her.
“You think I have already not tried that. He said he would have considered it if you had been more amicable to him after you did what you did.”
She explained but I immediately responded,
“But what do you expect me to have done? He was calling me when I was with my husband! Sizwe and I have turned a corner. Even the things I used to complain to you about have changed. I need to fix my marriage and if this thing comes out I will be divorced and I will lose everything including this job!”
I explained. I could see she was sympathetic but she too had issues of her own.
“I know that but this grant is my life and my job is on the line too. We both have so much to lose so we must do something together. We need each other and we must work together on this.”
She said and she was right. I totally agreed with her. How could things have gotten so bad so fast in the time I had left?
“Where is he? Let’s go talk to him. We agree to what ever demands he has so we move on and he leaves our lives!”
If you are a beautiful woman, a rich one or a powerful one, never ever make the mistake of sleeping with someone who is beneath you. They will never let you forget that because they get to brag and tell whoever will listen. I had learned my lesson a bit too late. A female doctor sleeping with a nurse was almost taboo. Men no matter how old they are will brag about their conquests and they love nothing more than to reduce a women in power to sound and look like a common whore. Don’t settle for the help ladies, believe me now I know.
“She is over here!”
I heard someone say from behind us. It was a nurse and behind her was my husband. Ok now I did not expect that.
“Hey love, I just thought I should drop in and check on you to see if first day back has not killed you yet!”
He said jovially. He even had a box for chocolates with him.
“Aww you are so sweet!”
Zethu said to him as she greeted him with a hug. They had met several times before so they knew each other. The most recent was when she had stood up foor me.
“Hey baby. You are sweet. I did not expect this at all!”
Zethu stepped away and went into the ward to do something.
“Yes, I am checking on my girls today. Went to school to check on my girls. I even got a chance to speak to the teacher and she told me that one of the students found Lintle crying in the bathrooms and she has been sitting alone at break. I was not sure what to tell them but you need to look into it.”
He said with so much worry in his voice. I was grateful he had gone to school for me I never would have had time. You would never have thought we were that family that has been fighting so much. He hugged me and said he was just passing through. I walked him to the car. He told me that he still had to go see the lawyers because there are some papers he still had to sign. He kissed me a bit longer than the peck I was accustomed to and left. As I walked into the hospital I was blushing and one of the older nurses commented that my husband and I had that love she wished she had. We even had a small chat but she impressed by my hubby no doubt. As soon as I saw Zethu I realized that now more than ever we had to do what ever it took to get George to help us.
“You see what I mean with Sizwe! We are perfect and I will lose him!”
I told her as soon as I got to her. She agreed and said we should go find him. We found him in the nurses office sitting alone eating his sandwich.
“Doctors, what can I do for you?”
He said as we entered. He did not have a smug look as I had expected but looked rather dejected.
“We need your help or rather Nothabo needs your help!”
Zethu said as soon as we sat down. She was not wasting her time and making it clear why we were here and who was being thrown under the bus.
“I am sorry about how things turned out between us but what were you thinking George. I gave you what you always wanted and instead of enjoying it, you turned it around and almost destroyed my family. Why would you do that? Imagine, we could be having something now at work but now we can’t even be seen together!”
I said. I know exactly I was doing. I was jumping on my own sword. I was going to make it seem as though we would have had a relationship had he not been too eager.
“I am sorry. I thought… I fucked up didn’t I?”
He said and he meant it. Men are so predictable if you handle a situation right.
“Its done. Now we have bigger problems. You know that Zethu could lose her job for covering for us and if you could change the story for us all this will change!”
I explained to him.
“What if I lose my job covering for you? What happens then?”
He asked. I was not happy about the answer I should give even though it was true. He could get fired for all I care as long as my friend and I were safe.
“Why would you be fired? You are the subordinate and they will say you had no choice. It’s not a good story to tell but that’s the one you using now. You have the unions to back you up, I doubt very much they will take it that far with you!”
I reminded him. Only people who don’t work do not fully understand the power of the unions. I know for a fact that he was one of the coordinators so he could actually get away with it. I could sense that he was allowing this to happen because he was still hurt by what I had done. This was revenge meant to catch my attention.
“Look, I will go to the bosses and say I slept with Zama from oncology. She left the hospital last week and moved to Mafikeng with her new husband. No one will say anything about it if I do and I can’t be fired, the unions will never allow!”
He said confidently. It sounded like a plan. A very good plan but I could see he was expecting more. I know this because he gestured for me to ask him with his heads. I could not help it but roll my eyes as I obliged. He was treating us like children and was enjoying it.
“What do you want in return? Must I pay you?”
I asked him. I was ready to pay him. Zethu looked at me with so much hope and she said,
“I will help you pay too. Please make this go away, please!”
She begged. He looked at us thoughtfully then said,
“No, I don’t want money. I want something else.”
“What do you want? Just say so this way we start working on it.”
He smiled and again with his hands he gestured. I could see where this was going. What a sleazy bastard!
“George. Come on, we did it once already and look at the amount of trouble we are. In. Your way is a bad idea!”
I protested. I was not sleeping with this man again. Once was enough.
“Look I know how much your marriage means to you and your grant what what. I don’t care really because in all this I lose out in any way! I might as well go out with a smile”
He said. He stood up and said he was leaving.
“Please do it Nothabo. He wants to get laid. You do it once, away from the hospital and we are done. We get rid of this thing and move on!”
She said. She was a fine one to speak. To now have sex with this men under these circumstances just felt wrong. How was it a decent man could make such a request and now Zethu was cheering it on.
“This is our only way out unfortunately, please think it through!”
She pleaded. He was smiling now because he could see I was cornered,
“Zethu, I never said I want her alone. I want you to. I am going to have a threesome with two doctors!”
You could have heard a pin drop at that moment.
Zethu said. Was she not the one who had just been begging me do it now.
“I will not do it. I will rather go and confess and lose my job before I agree to such terms!”
She said and stood up.
“I will wait for your answer tonight. The hearing is tomorrow at two!”
He walked out and left us staring at each other!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
Good morning I trust you well. I got your number on Facebook I always read your books they so interesting, educational and they motivate me. I need to take something out of my chest, you know sometimes it’s not easy to talk to people that you know because I’m scared of being judged and all that. I dated this guy in 2010 but then we broke up because at that time I was still very young as he wanted me to sleep over at his house everyday so I told him I can’t he then cheated. I moved on with my life though I loved him, in July this year he started chatting with me on whatsapp telling me how much he misses me, he believes that I can make sense of everything in this life as he is not growing any younger so he want us to try again. I won’t lie to you I wasn’t in a relationship, I still love him and I missed him so I said yes let’s try again things were fine for a week after a week he started to be cold like no calls? WhatsApp or text. I sent him a message asking him what’s wrong he told me that he’s busy at work and most of the time he’s always on standby which he mentioned before but then he apologized and I understood. After he was fine again remember we stay in the same area like he stays 5min away from my house (driving ) 20 min (walk) again he was cold I again sent him another novel asking if he has second thoughts about us he never replied instead after 2 days he started to be lovey dovey and we were fine again. Last week on the heritage day he was off so he told me that around 20:00 he’ll come so I’ll sleep over in his house I waited until 21:00 he didn’t pitch because I still respect my mother I don’t like leaving the house very late I then sent him a message asking where he was he told me that he’s still chilling with friends apparently they were drinking. 22:30 I sent him another message telling him that I’m going to bed I’ve been waiting so is he still coming he said “goodnight ”
I cried myself to sleep that night. Following day he didn’t call, text nor whatsapp that happened for 3 days I again being stupid or desperate that I am I sent him a message on whatsapp telling him that I didn’t want to send him that message because uyadika but I miss him he replied by “so ndiyadika” I asked what he was doing, he said “sebenza” I again said “I miss you ” he replied with “?” later that day I sent another whatsapp saying good night babe he replied “nytooo” I never heard from him again until now he’s online on whatsapp. I miss him so much I know I’m stupid because actions says it all that he doesn’t want me but how do I accept it, I love the guy.
What can I do to get over him if we are through?