Have you ever read those whatsapp forwards which say, “If you don’t forward this to 15 people you will die!”? Yes those ones, a lot of people actually believe them. No joke. Usually they are preceded by such a beautiful prayer which makes you sit up and appreciate. No one ever questions who wrote it but clearly Jesus must have Whatsapp if he knows who to kill for not forwarding it. Funny enough, that is what it means to be a single mom especially at the beginning. When your baby daddy who has resources threatens to take your baby away you actually believe him because much much as you say you will fight for your child, with what? No matter who tells you what and when, money makes the world go round. Yeah every now an again we allow ourselves to dream that there are things more important than money but who are we kidding? Oscar Pistorius is going home not because he is innocent but because his money saved his ass so yeah keep telling yourself that money is not that important! My boss had made it clear that they were no off days especially if you are new the way I was. I had to go to this maintenance court if it killed me. Being a woman at times is punishment!
Lunga asked me with a concerned look on his face. I guess the shock of what Mudenda had just said had revealed itself there.
“It’s the father of my child. He wants to take my baby away!”
I told him with a defeated voice. You cannot expect people who do not have kids to understand what it means to have this happen to you.
“I am sorry to hear that but I am sure you can fight for it!”
He said. I knew he was being sincere but I ddont think he understood. I felt like calling Tidimalo right about now for advice as I was about to burst into tears. Orapeleng arrived and said we wwere going to the factory to see how the process works and she. Needed to introduce us to the sales team. Now was not the time for a road trip, I needed to fix my things.
“Can I drive my own car, I will follow you guys from behind!”
Lunga said. Orapeleng said a snappy no and explained how for all company related business we use the company Quantam as it was part of the marketing. It had all the branding and insignia of the company. Lunga looked in discomfort. I guess he was so used to driving himself that being driven in a taxi was not his thing. It was not just our team that was going. Another three people were coming with us but they were there for different reasons all together.
I sent Tidimallo a message telling him what Mudenda had just said. He did not respond. I realized that telling Thulare would only make him think I had too much baggage meaning I would drive him away.
“Faith, I see your personal life is keeping you busy must we stop the car and drop you off here?”
I heard Orapeleng say in the distance. She was right my mind was so far away. She had been explaining some things and I totally missed it.
“I am sorry I got distracted!”
I said in response and she snapped,
“Well pay attention! I am not here to baby sit either of you!”
I was so embarrassed. The other people in the taxi who had introduced themselves Portia, Boipelo and Shami. The driver and Lunga were the only guys with Lunga sitting in the front. The girls laughed at what she had just said giving me my first taste of office politics.
“Some of us didn’t get our jobs because we screwing the boss!”
One of the girls said and they laughed. Thank God Lunga was there because he turned aand said,
“Say that again!”
The girl who had said it, Boipelo, said out loud,
“Why are you protecting her? Girls like this bring other girls down. Some of us work our butt’s off and she rocks in here and gets favours! You know I picked up after everyone for six months before I could even be allowed to look at a project. Look at you?”
She said to me with so much disdain I could literally touch it.
“It’s my first day too so do you think the same about me?”
Lunga asked her,
“Ok guys calm do…”
“No Orapeleng shut up!”
Boipelo was one of those ‘I know my rights’ kind of girl and instead of listening to Orapeleng she continued!
“You protecting her like she is your sister or girlfriend. In the work place we look out for each other and don’t get ahead because we can suck dick better than the next girl nor because we can open our legs faster than the next! Sies!”
She said mimicking a spit,
“But what makes you think I am sleeping with him? What gives you the right to say that?”
I asked her and at this stage all her friends were giving me looks.
“No girls wind it down. It’s done Boipelo come on. We all don’t make the same life choices so drop it.”
Lunga was not done though. He went after Boipelo,
“What is it you saw? You have all the answers and you are both judge and executioner!”
He said glaring and she laughed and mocked him saying,
“Look at this little boy trying to impress a boss that’s. Not even there. Little does he know that most male stuff get fired. How many guys did you see in the office? What do you think happened to them?”
The girls laughed,
“You talk too much Boipelo, drop it!”
It’s funny but actually I had not noticed that there were way more females than male at the office. He was definitely complying with BBBEEE requirements that’s for sure.
“I was just putting this little boy into his place!”
I got my chance,
“Well this little boys father happens to be the very man you call boss and are insulting!”
I said out loud. You could hear a pin drop. I was surprised because I thought Orapeleng had known. She acted like earlier on.
“I… I… didn’t know. Shit!”
Boipelo said and not one of her friends backed her up. Not even the feisty Orapeleng. Getting a job is as hard as getting a man to marry you in this country. It’s damn near impossible and every girl in this company car knew this. They had not realized that there was a potential spy amongst them. I started whistling because oh well, what else could I do. The tune,
“His got the whole world, in His Hands…”
I don’t know why it just came to me but it felt appropriate to remind Boipelo that Lunga’s dad owned her ass and for this moment, as long as she was under his employ, she was to worship him! With all that had happened though it was so tense in the car. When we got there the taxi was super quiet.
“There is load shedding unfortunately guys meaning that what we need we can’t get now! We have two hours to kill!”
Orapeleng said. She could not look him in the eye though. She went to speak to the girls leaving us together.
“I don’t like the way that girl spoke to you. That was uncalled for and she made you seem cheap and easy! You are my friend and I will never be comfortable around her!”
He said looking her. She kept on looking down but I could see she was looking at us. I was not expecting that from but what’s worse, his father was paying me to seduce him. I felt so cheap. A part of me wished he was just saying this to make me help him get back in Aurelia’s good books I don’t know.
“Don’t report her. Imagine the tension in the office if you do? Everyone will hate you and us! Let’s go make peace”
I cautioned him. I had to convince him even further but eventually he agreed and we walked back to the girls. They were surprised when we got there and went quiet.
“I am not going to report you! it was never my intention anyway. Yes he is my father and I am one of the workers just like you. Contrary to what you think Faith is not sleeping with my dad either. I know his mistresses!”
He said so casually. The girls I think we’re confused by this because no one responded. I got an sms at that moment. It was from his father. Now I was so ashamed.
“I won’t be in the office when you get back. I have put the money in your desk. Do not let me down. I want results!”
This man was serious. I walked away and called Aurelia. She needed to know what was happening.
“Hi, it’s Refiloe, Aurelia is in fittings. Will tell her to call you when we are done!”
This girl doesn’t listen! I am tired of begging someone to listen!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Good Day Mike,
I’d like to remain anonymous. Thank you for reading my letter.
I have a 12year old son whom his father only sends money when I threaten him or report him to his bosses.
My problem is that he is a Mozambican citizen, we met when we were studying together. I would like to know if is there a way that I can get him to support his child through the court even though he is outside the country?
I have asked around before but told that due to jurisdiction, the court cannot get him to pay maintenance. His parents used to send some money for school fees (which happened for a few months) and because of his lack of responsibility they stopped helping him with that. Beginning of last year I reported him to his bosses (sent an email to the chairman of the board in his company, yep Faith tendencies) explaining my situation, he did not respond but he sure got the message because a few days later he sent me an email saying “thanks to you, I’ve been suspended from work”, of which I responded that “not good enough, they should have fired you”. 2 months down the line he started sending money but in September 2014 he stopped again.
I have been begging him since then, he kept making promises that he will send it, he is currently having financial problems and now he is neither answering my calls nor responding to my emails.
Please, if anyone has info on how do I go about getting this loser to support his child through the courts.
Thank you for your help