“Tidimalo did not tell me that you would be coming with!”
I said smiling. At least I was not wearing a doek. Usually when I am in the house alone I wear a doek especially when I am doing chores. Amo likes to play with my hair. I have braids so they get in the way of me doing things.
“He did not tell me I was coming here either he just gave me directions but now that I am here and meeting you for the first time I have no doubt that he did the right thing!”
He said smoothly. I was sold yet because my heart belonged to another but I had to indulge him.
“You don’t say!”
I said with a weak smile. Maybe as you grow up even when a guy says the sweetest things it feels as though he is making up lines. Older girls don’t like lines it’s cheesey!
“Oh I do say! Will you come out with us? It’s rather rude for us to sit and chat in front of your mother’s house like this!”
He said. I could hear that much as this was a light hearted conversation he was very firm in his decision making.
“I look an awful mess and you know girls take hours to prepare right?”
I told him trying to dodge him. I did not want to go hey.
“O come on girl stop trying to play hard to get!”
Nozipho said! Fuck! She was talking to me! I could blacksem her right now. She is a girl she should know what this meant but no, she was a liker of things and trying to hang out with me. I did not want her to embarrass me further but fortunately Thulare jumped in.
“Ok let’s see, I know you have bathed, every decent girls baths in the morning…”
He said in more of hope than anything else. Dwee I had bathed of course but I would be the first to admit that this mornings bath had been one of my record breaking ones as I had been in a rush to go make that phone call. Normally I am a typical girl and take almost an hour washing parts most men don’t know exist!
“Yes I have bathed!”
I laughed uncomfortably at that question. It’s not something you ask a girl.
“Awesome then! We going to a tshisanyama so no need to dress turn up!”
He said smiling. He had cornered me very nicely…well played.
“Let me ask my sister because she will have to baby sit for me!”
I said and skipped into the house. I told her what was up.
“You have become the new me. You always up to something but it’s cool. I have so many envelopes to stuff in any case so you will find me on this couch!”
She said walking away as I picked up my bag. I freshened up a little bit more and then I came out. They were already sitting in the car but Thulare jumped out to come open the door for me.
I said. I wonder how Nozipho saw that since she had already complained that Tidimallo does not open doors. A lot of girls are hard on black guys for not opening doors but realistically, why can’t you open your own door? It’s not like it’s heavy nor will make him less of a man! It’s those girls that act as though they shit chocolate that are adamant on this. No ladies, let him be him. Why get angry it’s not like he left you behind.
“I was thinking the Centurian one because it gets a good crowd and less shady people!”
Thulare said telling Tidimallo. The latter did not refuse. In the car the guys spoke to each other and I had to speak to Nozipho. As Tidi’s best friend I had to be nice to this girl so I did my best.
“So how long have you been here?”
I asked her. She explained that she had not been here that long but she had gotten a job through her cousin at a time she desperately needed one. Isn’t that story of everyone though. She said her mom was not that supportive of it but she came around and now here she was. Her phone rang and she answered. She spoke to someone and I heard her tell whoever she was on a date and she will call when she is done. The person didn’t sound too happy about it because I think they had had plans before but I pretended not to care. When she hung up she immediately said,
“It was my cousin, she is into sugar daddies and wanted me to come out with her and her sugar! That I can’t do. Imagine! Sies!”
She said telling me. I was not sure what to read into what she had just said but ok, maybe too much over share too soon! Have some chill.
“We are going to order some meat and pap does anyone object?”
Tidi asked. I was not against it nor was she. We decided what meat to have. He asked what we would drinking. I settled for a coke but Nozipho opted for a Savannah Dark… very classy indeed. The boys split. One went to buy drinks the other went to order the food. I was no longer much of a drinker not that I ever worse. A glass of wine maybe, Nederberg Baronne to be exact but who drinks wine ko shisanyama!
“Please tell me a bit more about Tidimalo?”
She asked me as soon as they left. It was not a hard question but I had to seem had to seem thoughtful with the answer.
“That’s a bit hard I have known him for years. What would you like to know?”
Ok won’t like that suddenly felt like I was on an episode of Date My Family eish.
“Any and everything. I hardly know him and if you ask me all I can say about him is that he is seems nice!”
She said. I know girls. She was doubting him. Maybe this was my chance to make it not work for them by making him sound bad but if he found out he would hate me forever so oh well,
“He is nice that much you are right. He is sweet and he is caring. We have always been friends but the way he stepped up when Amo, my son, was born even I did not forsee. He is amazing!”
Goodness I sound like I was blushing as I spoke. Hope she did not see it but I felt it.
“Is that all?”
She asked. This was a tough cookie to please!
“Yes that about it. His mom is cool too meaning that he comes from a good family. He is very respectful and is one of those guys that if he has your back, it’s for life!”
I said to her. It’s how I saw him. He was an amazing guy and he was loving and caring. He was everything I needed in my life and more but now here was this Mafikizolo trying to take all this away from me. I had a lump in my throat! I could choke her if I could hey but I decided against it. I did not not want more blood on my hands.
“How come you and Tidimalo have never dated?”
Wow so that’s what he told her? Now I was not an ex just a friend. Makes sense though because which girl would want you to hang out with your ex. It will look like you not over each other.
“I guess it never came up. We friends and we cool with that.”
I told her.
“Have you ever kissed him?”
She asked me with a stern look on her face! What the hell? This girl was fishing! I was the one that was supposed to be asking her questions and now she was turning things on me!
I said sternly even though I was lying. Did she really want to hear I had fucked him too? Did she want to hear how much I wanted him back and how I hated her for being here? Come on! Why do people ask questions with answers they truly do not want to hear? If you want a man, date him and don’t go digging into his past because definitely you will find things you do not want.
“It’s obvious that you like him a lot? We are both girls and we all have tell tale signs. He is mine now though so please back off because I really like him too!”
She said with a fake smile on her face. Bury me now please! Did she just say that, this girl though? I smiled back uncomfortable and said,
“You got it wrong but ummm, ok I guess donno what to say to you!”
And thank heavens at that moment Tidimalo came back.
“How are my two favorite girls getting along?”
He asked cheerfully! Poor choice of words I tell you!
“Oh we just peachy!”
She said smiling at me. Who was this bitch? Thulare then came through. He had placed his order. My phone rang and it was my sister!
“Eh dude your baby daddies father was here to talk to mum! He just left. They spoke for about thirty minutes and it was tense!”
She said! She hung up. She didn’t have airtime.
“Is everything ok?”
Tidimalo asked when he saw the look on my face.
“I am not sure hey that was my sister!”
Ten minutes later I got a call from my mother and as soon as I picked up she said,
“Come home now!”
Shit was real!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I am unhappy in my marriage. I have been married for seven years and it’s harder than I thought. I am 31 this year and married my boyfriend when he was 27 and I was 24. We had that love at first sight romance and dated five years before we got married. When we got married things just changed. I got pregnant and gave birth and we started building a home together. He was suspended from work without pay for about 3months and that when the problems started. Money has always made our relationship go. Whenever we had problems we would literally buy each other out. Go on a date or shopping. That three months showed me that he is immature and unreasonable. I won’t lie I played a big part in him becoming this stranger. We tried counselling but he never took it seriously. Now he is drinking and seems angry all the time. Mind you he is back at work and so am I?
Am I being too hasty in asking for a divorce?