I am going to take a moment and explain something. If you have never been pregnant you would never ever understand what true fear is. Fear is carrying a child inside of you and the thought that one small mistake can either harm or kill that child and for nine months it haunts you every day. To carry a person inside you might be the most precious thing in all existence but it is also the most fragile and scary. Think of all those girls who you know who drank or smoked a lot and when they got pregnant the literally stopped overnight, yes, that’s the power of fear and a mother unborn child bond. When you first go for prenatal care, the give you so many warnings and things to look out for when you fear your pregnancy is in distress. Bleeding definitely is very high up there! I was a mom, I went through that stress hence I was scared for her. I had to call Mudenda. I looked at the couch and the blood was a lot. Blood stains. There is nothing more impossible to remove than that! Ok I lie, red wine but you get my point! When I was pregnant I was warned that bleeding could be a sign of miscarriage so this was bad. I immediately called an ambulance. At this stage she was panicking and screaming. My sister came to assist. She was panicking and she actually asked me if I had caused this. Judith is just stupid. How could I have caused this?
I knew Mudenda was not going to pick up my phone so I used hers. He picked up immediately and angrily said,
“Where are you? You are so fucken stupid! You never listen to me and now I can’t find you! What the hell is wrong with you?”
I don’t think he had ever used that tone with me when we were dating because much as he was an idiot he respected me during the relationship. I won’t lie though, there is not a single baby mama that does not take pleasure when she finds out her exes relationship is not working out. Hell if she was not dying on my couch I would have thrown a party but let’s leave that for another day.
“It’s not Meladi it’s Faith. She came to my house to shout at me and now she is bleeding. I have called an ambulance. They are going to ask for her medical aid details and what not so where do I find them?”
I asked him before he could get a chance to say something stupid. He was obviously still angry at me about what had happened but I did not want him to be distracted from the task at hand.
“Your house, what was she doing at your house?”
He asked me! See what I meant!
“Dude focus! I need to know where to take her!”
All he had heard was my house and he didn’t even ask how bad it is. If this was love then I am ok with it.
“In her glove compartment. That’s where she keeps it. She says it’s safer than her purse!”
He said. Didn’t really care about all that. I told him that I will tell him where they take her and hung up.
Put yourself in my shoes for a moment, here I was taking care of my once friend, now who hates me the most, stole my fiance and now bleeding out on my couch. God has a way of humbling you. I hated this girl but I could never want her to suffer this. No.
The ambulance came and they asked who was coming with her. My sister and I both said we would come. She quickly packed up Amo and we went with them. We followed in our own car. When we got to the hospital they took her somewhere whilst we waited. My sister said it was best she go outside with Amo being she should not be exposed to the hospital like this. We had not thought about this in our haste to run to her aid. I agreed with her and actually felt like I was a bad mother for not thinking of this first. Maybe we should not be here! About an hour later her boyfriend of the year arrived. I decided to call Tidimalo because I did not want to be alone with him. He agreed to come and said he was not far. In a short time we were four. Tidimalo deliberately ignored Mudenda because he knew who he was.
My sister came back inside and said she had called Kagiso to tell him where she was. I think they had plans for later am not sure. She told me he said he would come see her later but he also wanted to talk to me. To me? What about? I didn’t want to talk to him. It was awkward enough I had seen him naked now what could he possibly want to stay? I was certainly not interested in this moment. I just nodded my head in acceptance. It was at that moment one of the nurses that had been taking care out.
“Good news. She just had a slight tearing but the doctor said she will be fine.m she has to be careful from now on and stop over exerting herself.”
She said. You could see the relief I believe on all our famous. I immediately said let’s go home to my sister but she instead that we should go in and see her. Really? Was that really necessary! I had saved the day so I must see her and ask her never to come ober again especially now that the doctor had insisted that she needed not to stress herself. It was like I am the one who was inviting her over when she was the one who was just showing up at my house at will like this was a brothel. Now I had to worry about how on earth I was going to clean that blood! I was so irritated by this because I knew my mother was not going to understand. Why couldn’t she just have bought the couches all our grand mothers have that are wrapped in a plastic so they last longer. This was going to be a huge problem. Her first question was going to be what Meladi was doing in our home in the first place so what was I going to tell her really? Why is my life so complicated though?
When we entered Meladi was lying on her back facing us.
Boyfriend of the year said as we walked in. She looked at me in horror.
“What the hell is she doing here?”
She asked immediately.
“She is the one who brought you here so she was checking if you ok!”
Mudenda said I think defending me. How noble and unnecessary.
“Faith pushed me and I fell. That’s what caused this!”
She said with tears running down her face. Everyone turned to look at me. What the hell?
“Are you serious right now?”
I asked her!
“I just saved your baby’s life and maybe your life now you accuse me of something so bad?”
I asked her!
Out of the blue Mudenda came for me and started throttling me. He called me a witch and said I was trying to murder his baby. Men are funny though. Yesterday he wanted to fuck me yet today I was a witch. When a man calls you names honestly it’s baffling.
Out of the corner of my I saw a punch pass my face and land squarely on his jaw.
He flew across the room and landed on his ass.
Tidimalo had punched him!
Why was this man not my man mara?
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Thank you for taking my letter. I have been married for 17 years. In that time my husband has cheated on mme several times and I have forgiven him. A year ago he was transferred to Durban and I remained in Kimberly as I am working here. During that time a male colleague asked me to dinner twice and I went. One of my husbands nephews saw us and reported me. My husband did not say anything about it for three weeks and I didn’t even know his nephew had seen us. The colleague and I did not have an affair we literally ate and went home. However my husband thought otherwise. When he came back he beat me up (it was the first time). Now I want a divorce. All my friends seem to be saying I am the one who is wrong in the first place for having gone on those dates even if nothing happened. My family and his family also blame me. I am having second thoughts and he has been apologizing asking for me to come home.
What do I do?