This was not the right time for me to make a fuss. Amongst women no matter what an idiot your friend was you can’t give it to them straight because that could cost your friendship. Dating is calming and for most people, cheating just adds that extra spice! However if you live in a country like ours were HIV is very real you always have to use a condom but who is listening surely you would not not use a condom. Her man was married meaning the likelihood of sleeping with his wife were probably hundred percent and I did say Lungile was so hot I am certain he was player. If this was political you would say this was like being given only two choices to vote for either EFF or UDM and guess what, you are a chartered accountant! What on earth was she thinking? People think HIV is only for poor people which indeed it is not and with the way these rich sugardaddies are chowing these so called model c girls it’s a wonder it’s not on the rise again. I called her back!
“You can’t be serious Aurelia!”
Come on now! She was not!
“What do you mean you do not know who the father is kante how many guys are you sleeping with?”
I asked pretending not to know about her and Lungile.
“Eish, I know I have been reckless. Please don’t judge me! You remember Lungile?”
I said yes I did but dwee I just met her this afternoon and I told her about it.
“Is he the other suspect? How can you be sleeping with both father and son Aurelia come on you are better than that!?”
Aurelia is my friend and I love but for this moment here, she was wrong. It’s like she was chowing the whole family because now she had clearly intersexted. Women don’t like to be judged. In fact they don’t want their friends to know the truth about what they get up to in the dark for fear of exactly this! However and this is true, usually being judged is being told the truth. When someone judges it’s because you are doing something wrong and usually your friends are trying to help. Aurelia was wrong and someone had to tell her.
“I knew you were going to judge that’s why I was scared of telling you!”
She declared! Yeah she better be scared because I was going to shout at her for being so reckless!
“Aurelia, you are my best friend in the whole world! I will not sit back and watch you ruin your life. Look at the facts, your baby daddy will be a married man if it’s him. He has a wife and a family. Door number two, if it’s his son, he will haunt you two for life! I daresay he will get violent on a level you can’t even possibly imagine because to him that betrayal will be so close to home! Thirdly, do not forget how the wife sitting at home will react when she finds out you shagging her man and having a baby by him?”
That was the cold hard truth and I don’t know if the truth qualifies as judgement.
“Ok I get it fucked up so what should I do?”
I know what she was getting at. She wanted me to decide for her whether she should abort or not! Girls do that a lot. They put life altering decisions in the hands of others so that they will in future have someone to blame. For example sleeping with those two men with no condoms means she put her life at risk not theirs and now she had the consequences to show for it.
“I will sleep on it. Tomorrow morning, yeah Saturday I know am going to drop off this forms at the office. We must hook up.”
I told her. She asked me what time I was going and I told her at 9am. We hung up but this was a heavy decision.
In the morning I went to my sisters room and I panicked when she was not there. I had not told her I had to go to the office last night because of the scene I had witnessed. I couldn’t take Amo to the office, imagine! I called her and her phone rang in the lounge. It was then she walked in from outside in her skimpy pyjamas.
“Are you the one calling me?”
She said looking at her phone! I told I was I thought she left.
“I was walking KG out that’s all!”
My sister is brave! He had slept here just imagine. I did not want to shout at her again because she had to baby sit for me.
“I have to go drop some documents I will be back soon!”
I told her. She said it was fine she was not planning on going anywhere. She said she needed some sleep because if they had not made a bbaby last night the way they shagged so many times then they never will. That’s her kind of a joke. I pretended to laugh but she is too much. A car pulled into the driveways,
“Is ma coming today?”
My sister said no and she asked me why. I told her I heard a car in the driveway. She ran so fast to my mothers room, I think to clean up as I went to the door to check who it was.
It was Aurelia!
I thought we had said we seeing each other later but oh well.
“Thought I would give you a ride!”
She said cheerfully. I think she was hiding the pain. I could see she had cried all night because no amount oof make up can hide that. I did not tell my sister who was hear and just slipped out. Maybe she will do a good job cleaning after herself.
“Are you ok?”
I asked her. She said we should talk about it after we finished with the office because she did not want to get there crying. It was a Saturday morning so I thought the office would be empty but she said that he often works Saturdays. Was she coming to see him? I was a bit confused. When we got there she parked outside and we went in together. The receptionist greeted us and she said I must hand in the forms to him directly but he had someone in his office. I got the impression, maybe I am wrong, that she did not recognize Aurelia. When we got there his door was wide open but he was actually in the boardroom meaning he saw us walking in. He froze a bit but continued with whoever he was with. Not two minutes later entered this beautiful woman! Goodness she was probably early 40s but the way she was stunning. I want to be like her definitely at that age. She greeted us nicely and asked if we were also here to see him. We said yes.
She sat with us and started talking. She actually spoke a lot. She complimented Aurelia on her hair and Aurelia complimented on her shoes. They started talking salons and fashion. She was so nice and so knowledgeable. They swapped numbers and actually agreed to have lunch so the older woman, Refilwe was her name, could introduce her to her brand. I won’t lie she focused more on Aurelia but isn’t it always the case, they all focus on the prettier one and that’s male or female. It was the he finally walked out and casually said,
“Girls I see you have met my wife. Morning baby!”
He said and gave her a peck on the cheek!
Ladies if you are going to sleep with another woman’s husband, you need to know what she looks like, know your enemy because one day you will be stabbed in the street!
Aurelia and I just looked stupid!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I have been working for government for 15 years now and I think I have seen it all. Sex amongst colleagues is a daily game regardless of whether they are married or not. Recently I changed churches and befriended the most wonderful lady there. Turns out she was married to one of the men who works for my department. He has slept with half of the department (figuratively) and one of the girls he was sleeping came out and said she was HIV positive. I don’t know if he knows but my friend from church speaks of him like a saint meaning for certain she has no idea. I don’t even know what am asking but should I tell her? I know I would want someone else to tell me in such a situation. Her life is definitely in danger.