There is nothing a mother will not do for her family and I was no different. If I had to swallow my pride and accept this new child into my home then I had to. No use being obtuse with the way things had just gone in my home because of it. My husband ironically seemed to be of the opposite opinion. People always talk about chemistry in a marriage but more often than not they do not know what it is. I loved Sizwe when I first met him and I believe I still love him today. It’s been a long time and with time the so called Chemistry mellows. Yes we try new things every now and again but the reality is, it’s more of the same. Some people say that sexual chemistry is what keeps a marriage together but really, is him putting his dick inside me enough to stay in a marriage! If it were true then I will have a young stud doing me as they have more stamina than these older guys! No. I was in my marriage for so many other reasons than just love and sex. Familiarity is one such thing because I knew my husband through and through. I did not have to pretend around him because he had seen me at my worst so many times. Overreacting to the situation was better than under reacting. Never allow a man to see that you can easily forgive his bullshit! Most women have this thing we’re they absorb so much before they explode which explains why some end up killing their husbands. When you call him out as soon as he does something it means you keep him in check immediately. This means you don’t allow yourself to do something stupid. Another thing is most men don’t like arguing so if you call him out everytime you can rest assured he will avoid things that tick you off.
My husband came to me and asked me if it was a good idea because it was too soon. He had just met her himself so he needed time. I asked him time to do what and he responded that to get to know her. I asked him if she wanted money! Let’s be honest, most of these kids who crawl out of the woodwork it’s because they want money! Every wife knows this that’s why we are defensive about the matter! He said that was not the case but then I asked him why now? Why had she not been introduced to him all this time? I asked him how he had come to know of her existance and he said the mother had called him. He froze when he said that because my next question was obvious, how did she get his number if they were not in contact. He looked stuck! I know when my husband is lying and when he said he had no idea how, I knew he was. I did not want to push him any further on the lie, argument for another day. Men lie! They are the worst. They will lie for you even when it’s not necessary. I kept my calm and I told him that because he too had no answers it was important we both meet her so he must make it happen. He went downstairs again, this time clear to his purpose!
There was a knock at my door, it was Lintle. She really needed to learn how to calm down this kid!
“Mom can I have my phone back please! I need to get my homework from someone!”
She said calmly and I ignored,
“And also the wifi is not working! Maybe it’s run out!”
“Go ask the police for a new phone! The one I bought for you does not count anymore since you wanted me in jail!”
I said to her coldly!
“Now get out and go to your room!”
I said. She had not expected that! How could she have forgotten so quickly! Did she think this was some kind of a joke?
“I am sorry mum I was just angry!”
She said as she walked out. As far as I was concerned tonight should never have happened the way it did.
I heard my husband talking on the phone. He sounded scared oh whoever he was talking to. For a moment I was lost but I realised that he was talking to the girl. I heard him asking if she could come over and I think she refused because I could hear him beg. I guess I don’t blame the girl because I doubt I would also readily come over to a father I had just discovered.
“Don’t worry, we are a loving family. Nothing will happen to you! My wife is the sweetest woman and it is in fact her who insisted on meeting you. She is a great cook too so it will be a very good meet and greet!”
He said bringing on the charm. In spite of all the anger in me I wanted to laugh. I was definitely a bad cook. I know a woman is not supposed to say that but I honestly could not cook like other women do. My husband had never complained before so I was fine with it. I was basic at best but I could bake at least not that was a bonus. As for being the sweetest person I doubt that very much. Being a doctor you deal with life and death, blood and broken bones all the time meaning you become less sensitive about things with time. I therefore doubt him very much. It made me feel kind of bad because it meant that at some level I was not a good woman.
Again my daughter came and knocked at my door. She was relentless! I told her she could come in and the audacity of this child!
“Mom can I please don’t go to school tomorrow because I have done the homework as you will not allow me to get it!”
I looked her for a moment then replied,
“You didn’t get it because you were not there after you were dropped off. That’s not my fault so best believe tomorrow I am dropping you off myself! You are going to school and I hope you have a hangover at that!”
She looked at me like I was evil but I didn’t care. She needed to learn a lesson and at school I was certain that she was going to get punished for it! I should never have allowed her to go to that Chris Brown concert because now she thought she was grown.
I turned in for bed! My husband came into the room and said that it was arranged, Nelisa was coming for dinner the following day.
Good! Let’s see what his bastard looks like!
“Good! Close the door behind you!”
I said indicating he was couching again!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
hello Mike, your team and fellow readers
im a women aged 27 and dating a guy aged 32. we are blessed with a 1 month old baby, we have been togather for two years and his living with me at my apartment because when we started our relationship he was broke and he was staying at his home. I made him partner in my business because I believed he had potential but boy i was so wrong, i literally bring home the bacon all he wants to do is play with the bike and act all monied amongst his friends ngamandla wam… things started going south when I fell pregnant…he cheated on me and I found out, made peace and moved on, now again his cheating on me with two women and worst part is when I was home during easter weekend I found my things hidden and I can bet he brought a nyatsi in my own house…I don’t know what to do anymore and note he is a man of God whom his excuse is that when you accept Jesus temptations grows stronger blah blah blah…I bought him a car and a bike but they both in my name, what do you do in a situation like this with a person onganeliseki and not appreciating what I do for him? do I leave this relationship that I have invested so much in? the love I have for him is turning into hatred now because of what his doing to me. what about my child now is she also going to be a statistic?and he always tells me that his not afraid of going back to his home “ezilalini” and his not scared of lossing everything and start from scratch.! Jackzorro please be brutally honest as always