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Marriage is tough guys. People who are not married think it’s easy to just commit to one man and things will be perfect. It’s hard work and you can never ever get complacent because the better you build your man, the other women find him attractive. It’s easy to say that he must be more vigilant about who he must associate with for the sake of the marriage but truth is, as a woman there will always be someone younger or prettier than you that will target him at some point. It’s a simple fact we are often taught to put at the back of our minds but if it were true why would we bother getting jealous. Jealousy and possessiveness stem from the fact that we are always in constant competition with ourselves. I know I am expected to go crazy on him but how many women do that? With the way these men have a wondering eye when you are married you almost get the impression that you are waiting for your turn to come! I was furious though. I wanted to kill him if I could but kill him for what. When we got married I under stand it ended up being a shotgun marriage because I got pregnant but there is no denying that we were happy. He was my first, goodness I just realized I have only ever slept with one man, but being my first meant I loved him more than anything as he was the only one I knew. I grew up being told that sex was exclusive, one man one woman that type of thing but I was not naive to the world. Half the girls at my school back them, some as early as primary school were sexually active. That was a long time ago meaning now that statistic should have risen hectically. It’s funny how we as parents act shocked at the level this little whores are promiscuous yet back in our day, without social media we too found a way to get laid and were just as bad!
I called my daughter to have supper. I made sure I dished for him and served him like normal. I refused to act like a jilted baby mama! I am a married woman and I will behave in the manner that one should. Keeping up appearances is one of the fortes of marriage. You can not show the world that your marriage is going South. At least I had the comfort that my husband never went missing nor was he a drunkard nor a cheat in my face. How many women can truly say that? I have a confession to make, once upon a time I had a friend who had told me that my husband had a kid. I had broken off the friendship with her because at the time I thought she was just trying to hurt me because her boyfriend had made a move on me. Note at this stage I was already married so I felt she had too much drama in her life so I did not want it to be brought back to my house!
Lintle asked me why there was tension on the table. These kids of today, they simply have no chill but I could not help it,
“Ask your stupid father! He has brought home a present!”
I said. Yes I was mad! I could not help it. What the fuck?
“A present daddy wow I am so excited! What is it?”
She said. Fucken 16 years old has to be the worst age to have a girl child. Her breasts have developed and peverts of all ages start turning to look at her wrong. What’s worse she had a biggish body meaning she could pass off as 18 or 19 but to me this was my baby! She wants a phone she can’t get off from me but worse, the worst thing, she has started to appreciate what money can do for her! That is the greatest evil at this age because even a 23year old guy who has a basic car to her looks like a god!
“Your father brought you home a sister!”.
I said coldly. She looked confused, then realisation set in and her eyes widened.
She actually said that. See why I say they have no self control button! She even did a slight whistle at the end but when she saw I was dead serious and was amused at all she turned on her father,
“Dad, how could you? What about mum and me? She is not coming to our house otherwise I am moving in with Aunty Nokwanda!”
She declared. Lintle had a temper! I know parents are not supposed to entertain such but my daughter had this evil in her I always played down and managed. I don’t know where she got it from because I was fairly calm and my husband was a bit of an idiot, or at least I thought!
“It’s not something I planned to happen guys and besides you are over reacting!”
Bad mistake which men don’t get from teenage years to old age! Never tell a woman she is overreacting! Is he crazy! He is the one who brought a child home and now he has the nerve to say am overreacting! I am normally mild and passive like most wives are. I allow my husband to do what ever he wants, within reason of course whilst on the other hand I tend to stay in after work. It’s not like I am not allowed but a good woman stays home.
“I think you should not sleep in the house tonight!”
I said very calmly trying not to raise my voice in the house.
“O come on, she is a child I did not know I had, you cannot blame me for that!”
He said in his defence.
“And what other secrets do you have? You don’t tell me everything you get up to yet you are always the one who says that we should have no secrets!”
I shouted! It’s funny how hard I was trying to keep myself from boiling over but it was not happening!
“Now I have secrets! Do you see how much this escalating?”
“Just get out!”
I shouted. I think he saw that I was not kidding because he sluggishly walker out. There was something missing in his story, the way he was so calm about it! As soon her left the house I locked the door.
“Mom please don’t get a divorce! I don’t want to be like all my friends at school. I kinda had the cool spot of having both parents!”
Lintle said. I had forgotten she was even at the table. I laughed through my tears actually because I did not expect that from my daughter. I did not want a divorce either I just needed to think. I told her to go to bed. I took out my phone and called my brother,
“Nothabo it’s late what’s up?”
He said as soon as he picked up. My brother was a dick most times so I was not surprised at how he asked me that at all! In every family, bless you if yours does not, there is a black sheep, he was ours!
“Where can I get a private investigator?”
I asked him of which he paused for am moment then he said,
“I know a guy! Why?”
He asked curiously.
“Just get me his numbers!”
I was going to investigate my own husband! Deep!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Good morning to all the readers and ofcoz you mike as well, I need advice on how other women think
Here is my story
I am 22 my boyfriend 26 and we in a long distance relationship. it is hard but we cope, or rather I thought we coping! A few days a ago I received a phone call from my boyfriends new girl telling me to back off her man and am old news they happy n expecting a baby. The insults this girl said to me left me stunned, when I asked my boyfriend about this he told me its not true, but later admitted that yes he got a girl pregnant! My questions ls what possess a women to call another women about what her man is doing? why do we as women blame each other and not the man in this situation? I mean this girl knew of my existence even before they started dating yet, she confronts me and not her man thats been open about two timing her, it really has me wondering about women logic
Thank you for reading my letter, I look forward to your replies