A lot of parents don’t know this, it is illegal to beat up your child! A lot of kids on the other hand, those who went to the right schools of course, know this all too well! Education therefore comes with a price! At times don’t you ever wonder where you were when some of these laws were being made? Imagine your thirteen year old daughter being allowed to have an abortion without her parents consent? How then will you ever know that she is sleeping around and you need to intervene? That’s why I have issues with some of these things! How can a parent not be allowed to discipline her own child? We all wonder why these kids are so promiscuous, smoke wonga\nyaope, abuse alcohol and are rebellious to authority, well, there is your answer! A lack of discipline created by the fact that they know there is absolutely nothing, ZERO, you can do about it! Some of these laws need to be revised because only a parent with teens can fully appreciate what nonsense these kids can become. This morning I woke up a normal mom now I am headed towards jail, all in one day! I was too shocked to be angry at her! That is what my precious daughter had reduced me to!
Police no matter how old or young you are scary hence I why ad reason why to be concerned. My husband started talking to them and asked them how he could be of assistance. When I heard their voices I knew I was screwed, it was a white police officer! Black people know, it’s much more difficult to bribe a white officer than a black one because you don’t know how they will react. A black officer you can talk down and plead with but a white officer it’s totally different. It’s because a black officer usually can understand circumstances because at some level you can relate whereas with a white officer they usually know nothing about your culture.
“We got a call from a girl saying that she was being assaulted!”
He said sternly! Even his voice was harsh and unfriendly. How was I going to get out of this? I was not built for this!
“Assault? That’s a harsh word officer, disciplined yes most definitely. She is my daughter!”
My husband said. He tried to looked shocked to sell the ignorance but I knew as well that he knew the law.
“May we see her please!”
The officer said and without invitation stepping into the house! He totally disregarded what my husband had said because him it was irrelevant! My husband called her down from our bedroom but the spoilt brat refused to come out saying that she was scared I was going to hit her again. It sounded so bad coming out like that! I had not even hit her that much so what was she on about. In her privileged little life I doubt I had ever hit her, that’s how much I loved her. The officer went upstairs and knocked. I could hear him saying,
“This is the police, you don’t have to be afraid please open up!”
And the door key turning. She opened for him.
“Thank you for coming, my mother is trying to kill me!”
She said immediately as. The door opened and in between sobs! She immediately jumped into his arms to hug him. This was just getting worse! I looked like that abusive parent we are all warned about. I bet you if I lived in a village or township this would never happen! I had allowed my daughter to grow up like this. He came downstairs with her and we all stood in the lounge.
“How old are you?”
He asked her.
“I am 15 turning 16 in a month!”
She said to him. She could have said 16 but am certain she was saying it like that to even sound like an even bigger victim!
“It smells of alcohol in here, where you drinking!”
He asked her. She said yes she was earlier on and when she came back to sleep I had beat her up for it! She explained to him how she had cut school and said it was because of stress and family pressure. She told him how her father was being denied the right to bring home his other child because I was so controlling and how they were both so scared of me. How on earth could that be a reason she did not even know that girls name! She was milking it and for a moment it seemed as though it was working.
The officer and his partner went outside for about two minutes then he came back in. This time he came to me and addressed me directly. His hands were on his gun and for a moment there I thought he intended to shoot me!
“I am not going to arrest you at this occasion because I have a teen of my own and would probably have done so myself.”
He said to me. I was totally shocked! Had he not heard that sorrowful story she had just given about this monster mother she had. The relief that swept through me at that moment!
“I should warn you though, next time it won’t be me who might come so refrain from hitting her!”
We thanked him and he walked away. My daughter was indignant! She could not believe I was not punished! Who was this child? Had I raised her so bad she hated me this much. I wanted to confront her but my husband was the voice of reason and stopped me saying,
“Let her go to her room! Fighting with her now will not do us both any favors!”
He was right. Me chasing after was what she wanted would just make things worse.
“I think you should bring Nelisa over so I can meet her!”
I told him which by the look on his face was something he did not expect.
“Tomorrow if you can I want to get this over and done with because it’s haunting me!”
“I am not sure I can! She is the most stubborn person I have ever met!”
He said very uncertain!
“Well make a plan otherwise don’t come back! This family is cracking because of you so fix it!”
I said as I walked upstairs to the bedroom!
I locked the door!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I am a 24 yr old new single mom with a 2months old beautiful baby girl, my baby daddy left us while i was 6 months preg when i caught him with his ex, ever since then we stopped dating but because im unemployed he kept maintaining my pregnancy and now still supporting his baby and recently married his ex just last month, i was deeply hurt coz iv been with this man for 2 years nd few months and i never wanted kids before i met him but because he loved kids and always wanted a child since his a doctor and pretended to love me i didn’t know he was gona walk way from me while carrying his first child! Mind u his 30 years of age! problem is i no longer want him back, how can i when he rushed off to get married? I just want to cut him off and support my baby but the problem is i am unemployed, he just bought me a new phone, sends money for me nd my baby and pops in my house twice a day and calls all the time! Its very hard to forget about someone when they are always on yo face! If we really was not good enough for him then why is he still up in my ass all da time, im tired and need to let go and forget about him!, i graduated last yr September with an environmental and water science degree and no luck in finding a job since i started applying from February this year, i really want to focus on my career nd my child but how can i when is hard to get a job! I need help!