A lot of women know that their men are cheating but because they have never actually caught him in the act, it is hard for them to just walk away. When you are married this feeling is worse because you are trapped by so much and it will take one hell of a push for you to actually get a divorce. Seeing your wife or husband having sex with someone else is like that someone taking a hot knife and piercing your heart with it. It is more than a betrayal as it actually hurts as though it is an open wound. That is how I felt. That moment you walk in and find someone on top of her. Now I understand why they are so many cases of murder after one partner has been caught in bed with another person. I thought I was going to go mad really. It’s hard to come down from such heights of anger in seconds, it really is. I could feel my breathing eventually start to get lower and lower but it was still higher than normal. I hated this woman! To think I had thought of protecting her from the fire incident. To hell with her, she was dead to me! I know I was not overreacting because much as I had started the divorce proceedings, the papers were not even completely drawn up…or where they? This was a new man mind you, in her bed that is, which begs the question, how many men exactly was she sleeping with when we were married? I would not be surprised if it was more than the one I already knew! She had said she was pregnant, she was possibly HIV and yet here we were! She was dead to me and I meant that! Zimasa had to get a transfer and I was selling this house! It was not an overreaction I really wanted to leave Cape Town as far away from this memory as possible. Imagine walking into your wife, in your bed and catching another man in the process of fucking her like a dog. It’s called doggystyle because when you sit down and are honest it’s degrading and exactly how dogs do it! They did not name it that because they thought it was so sexy, they named it that because the image it portrayed was filthy! I called the lawyer I had seen, the one who Yolanda worked for and he said that the papers were actually complete and could be served that week. I asked him to make sure that happens. He asked me where they should be delivered to and I realised that because I had chased her out that could prove tricky. I am sure he will make a plan though. I needed peace and this was it.
I told Zimasa to pack all of Asthandile’s stuff. She was pretty stunned to be fair when I said that. I didn’t smile.
“Are things really that bad where now you are moving her out?”
The kid asked me but very cautiously,
“I know she is a bit of a whore for what she did but surely there is a way back. You slept with us and nothing happened to you? She deserves to be punished because she got caught but that does not make it right!”
She continued. I am not sure if she was saying that I should dump her or what. I was quite stunned by her reaction as a woman. I am the one who had left the house, I am the one who had moved in with another woman and I am the one who like her had cheated on her making another woman pregnant yet she was adamant that the bitch or whore in this situation was Asthandile! Do women even know when to stand up for each other? I am certain if Dalu was to hear this he would tell me that by starting divorce proceedings against her I had made the first official move into breaking up with her. It was not my fault though, women are known to judge it’s other more harshly so why should I care. The bitch was out that’s all I wanted.
“Just do what I say!”
I said calmly. I went and lay down on the couch but I felt compelled to do something to make sure that there was no turning back. I called her father. I told him exactly what had happened and that his child was out of my house for good. He always acted as though his daughter was made of gold but for the first time I think after the disappointment of her marrying me, she broke his heart when he realised how cheap she was. I don’t think he meant to say it but he responded by saying,
“Eish, how are we going to finish the wall at her grandmothers house if you leave her!”
I hung up!
People don’t usually don’t get it, their parents can be gold diggers too! I was not too perturbed about the father though because I knew that they were like that. Note how he did not even ask about Zimasa. Around 10pm I got a call from Bulelwa. I had not spoken to her in a very long time but I was quick to do the maths, she was with Asthandile.
“Is it ok if we meet tomorrow?”
She asked me on the phone. She sounded sombre. I told her that If it was about Asthandile then no I was not interested because that door was closed now. The divorce was happening and it was final. She said she understood that much but still we needed to be civil and discuss before we make a mistake this monumental. I could hear Asthandile in the background crying.
“Ask her why she burnt down Khanyi’s house with me inside it?”
I said angrily.
“She did what?
Bulelwa asked in shock!
“Oh so your friend did not tell you that she burnt down her other friends home? That is just great. Now you can sleep with one eye open!”
I said to her. I heard her say,
“How could burn down Khanyi’s house? Get out of my…”
The phone hung up as she was screaming. I wonder what was going to happen next… no I lie! Fuck her..
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I got married three months ago, white wedding and all. We are so happy and my husband is perfect or rather was perfect. The night before our wedding my fiance at the time had his bachelor party. Obviously I know better than not to ask questions. Last week we had a braai at our place and one of his friends who was there passed out drunk. I wanted pics from his phone as he had taken a lot of the braai and I had his permission. Buried deep in the pictures I found a video of three of the guys there, my man included getting blowjobs at the bachelor party. I then searched for conversations between my husband and him of which they discussed “how thick the girl he fucked was” meaning my husband. It was so humiliating. Imagine you husband being in sextape! I want a divorce because those girls were clearly prostitutes and he risked my life as we were trying for a baby soon after marriage. Am I overreacting?