There is this misconception perpetuated in society that a baby mama is the scariest thing that can haunt a man after a relationship gone south. I beg to differ, an ex wife is scarier because she does that whole ‘last kick of a dying horse’ thing. A baby mama fights out of desperation and usually the case she still loves you and hopes you will see the light and stop your nonsense. This is why most men in spite of all she may do, still get the occasional shag out of her and this is even when she knows you are with someone else. To a baby mama what causes the drama is that she feels as though you tricked her into leaving her with a baby that’s why she knows what drama really is. She actually fights for you and the child you share. An ex wife on the other hand hates you, pure and simple. You will have embarrassed her in front of her family and friends by leaving her and that my friends is an unforgivable sin. In her head she failed after crossing the finishing line. That’s like having a heart attack the day you won the lotto. Imagine!
She caught me on the arm. Fortunately because of the tight space we were in she didn’t have enough swing room to cause too much damage but it hurt nonetheless. I immediately jumped on her and held her. She fought me trying to wiggle herself out of my grip. In the process the bat fell. She started screaming that I should let go of her. I knew if I held her longer it will cause the neighbors to come and we could end up having an Oscar situation where people start claiming to hear things that never happened. I shouted at her to calm down and talk as opposed to shouting without purpose. That angered her even more! She told me she had more than just a purpose. I made the mistake of letting her gone and a half a dozen of punches landed on me. She was stronger than I thought. Eventually I managed to secure her again but this time the anger in her I think overwhelmed her and she broke down into tears. I let her go. Look, I know I was divorcing this woman but the way she was crying now just made my heart sore. It is not weakness it is human. I gathered my soon to be ex wife in my arms and this time I held her and allowed her to cry in my arms.
“What has possessed you?”
I asked her. I told her that this was not her because this violence would land her in jail. I warned her that there would be no coming back from this because she seemed hell bent on destroying herself.
“I told you once that I do not think I want to live without you but you thought I was joking. You don’t take me seriously. You think I am dumb and cannot think for myself. How do you think I feel right now with all this?”
She asked me.
“I am not having an affair with Khanyi. I never did and never will!”
I said when I managed to get her to calm down. She looked confused because she had been so convinced at that end.
“I came and I asked her for a place to sleep for a couple of days. I can show you the papers from the rental agencies. I can’t move in now!”
“Then how do you think I feel knowing that my husband, the man that I loved, left my house and moved in with my best friend, the very woman who could have led us here?”
She asked me. Tears rolling down her cheeks.
“I don’t know what you are talking about! Remember you chose not to tell me the whole truth about Khanyi and you so that’s not my problem!”
She looked at me and tensed up. It was as though she wanted to say something but she really was stuck.
“I want to tell you, really I do but if do this you will never forgive me even in your sleep…”
She said and walked to the door,
“Please let this go, please I beg you!”
I did not follow her. The curiosity was killing me because much as I wanted to ignore it, what really had they been up to. My arm was sore though where she had hit me. It was starting to swell. I went and put some ice on it. She was really angry when she had hit me. It’s true though, what would you do if your man dumps you then moves in with your bestfriend? It’s easy to say she had lost it all on her own when truth be told I had cornered her into desperation.
As I sat down to lick my wounds my phone rang. Goodness what is this thing with phones almost always being the bearer of bad news. I had noticed that almost everyday my phone was the source of my misery and this time it was my father. Yes I have one of those and he is as scary to me today as he was when I was growing up. Thank heavens he rarely called.
“Ndandiyobona uTat’ Matshaya wathi ukuba unyana wam wayezokwenza eyona mpazamo yakhe yankulu ebomini bakhe.. Ushiya umfazi wakhe.. Isgiqbo sakhe sasizo hlukanisa, sixabanise usapho lwakhe lonke”
Really! Sorry in English he had just said that he went to see Mr Matshaya and had been warned that me divorcing my wife would bring havoc and destruction to my entire family.
Mr. Matshaya was a sangoma and very respected in my father’s world!
Not my world!
He shouted when I did not respond. I hung up!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Thank u for reading my story
I’m a huge fan of Memoirs.
Nd iv been reading stories frm other readers which mostly come of as being sad.
I just want to let the whole world that I’m in love with my man Mzimkhulu Maduna,he still takes me to cloud nine.We have been together fr 5 yrs now and have a baby boy who is a month old.Our journey together hs been both bumpy nd smooth making our relationship where it is today.
No man in this world has ever showed me so much love like he showed me,we have been through a lot ..He’s one of those guys titled as being “a keeper”, we planning to get married as soon as we are settled as we are both new graduates.
Reading this blog has given me more reasons to appreciate my man..its a cruel world out there…
I’m so in love,we’ll we so in love even the sex,I still feel like its our first time everytime we do it,he still kisses me passionately and holds me in all the right places ,its so good he leaves me
wanting me to thank him after we done.
People I’m not bragging I’m just in love and want to tel u that true love still exists and I thank God daily for blessing me with such an amazing man and a beautiful son. Nd I pray that God continues to bless our relationship.In this month of love to me its just another month bcz we never stopped showing each other how much we love each other.
I love my man!! My lover,my babys father