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Why did I not see this coming though? You know, if you have a group of friends that are all close to your man, at some point one of them will sleep with him. Any university girl will tell you this. Usually we tend to befriend a group of guys so that we are one big crew. It’s simpler because the guys usually act as your brothers, drive you around, security at parties and all in all fun people to hang with. In your first year especially you have such a friendship. With us because I dated in the two crews it meant that we were even more bound but it is people like Mudenda and I that often mess up things as if we break up there is tension in the two crews. This thing of being cheated on though by someone so close ah was different. It’s something I have heard before but also something I always said was not true. Here I was. In the group Zama was my closest friend. She was the talkative naughty one but I never thought for one moment I would end up a victim of her ways. She was like a sister to me. She had had a few boyfriends since I met her and Mudenda knew all this because that’s how close we all were as a group. Even Mudenda’s friends knew Zama and I know for a fact she had shagged one of them after a party in the car. This also Mudenda knew. Where was that stress attack the doctor said I was supposed to get because I just wanted to die right now. When Aurelia had said he was with Zama it had just clicked. I don’t know why at that moment but it just made so much sense. He had been distant lately yet he seemed to be cheerful when he spoke to her. I had made nothing of it because as a crew we were close like that. I had never even bothered to ask him what project they were working on together because I never had a reason to. I trusted them both completely.
Now here she stood in front of me and quite oblivious to the fact that I knew what had taken place. I think they had come together and because of the way I had confronted Mudenda he had not had a chance to warn her that I had done that. Zama sensed the tension straight away though.
“Why are you acting as though someone died up in here?”
She asked cheerfully but sceptically.
“…wait? Did you lose… no!”
I think she meant to ask if I lost the baby. How perspective of her? I don’t know if her concern was genuine anymore because clearly she wanted my man. Bet they had shagged before they came here. The nerve! They even came here together for crying out loud. How could two people be so cruel?
“No Zama, the baby is fine!”
Mudenda said in what again was barely a whisper. She smiled again now clearly confused about why the tension and before she could say something he said,
“Zama, Faith knows about us!”
His voice was so low but we both heard him loud and clearly. You could hear a pin drop. The way the room got so quiet at that moment is just something else.
“This is awkward!”
Zama said I think to herself but came out outloud. She turned to look at me and she saw the tears rolling down my cheeks. I did not have the energy to fight them. I wanted them to both leave. Imagine after all that had happened that is all she had to say. She was one of my best friends for crying out loud and she technically hooked us up! Of all the guys in the world why him? I was not the type to share my bedroom details meaning I had not give her reason to envy me. Mudenda was ordinary I guess, I don’t know what a great man in bed is so I had no need to exaggerate my man’s prowess. I hardly spoke about our relationship because Mudenda always insisted that what ever we did was private and had nothing to do with my girls. He often reminded me that this is how we lasted so long so again there was nothing I could have said to make her like him. We had not fought nor had we argued so why would she do this! Why would he do this? I was a good girlfriend, loyal, faithful and loving yet here I was left holding the stick alone. I felt so stupid really because I had worked so hard to have the perfect relationship. We had sex all the time meaning I never denied him the cookie so there what excuse could he possibly have.
“Babe, Faith, I am so sorry it was… it is…”
She tried to say something but the words woul not come out. Guess she had more words through her legs then because that had not been hard. I turned around to give them my back. I did not want to cry but I am human. The tears just started to flow and I could not stop them. I could hear them in a distant place in my head say something but I was too far gone. Heartbreak is real guys. I once read in a book that, ‘you are never truly a woman until a man has broken your heart’ and at the time I had thought it presumptuous of the writer, men don’t makes us who we are I said strongly and bravely but who was I kidding. Something in me changed at that moment and I think forever. My innocence in relationships had just been shred to pieces.
I don’t know when they left but they did not even have the decency to live separately. They left together at the same time. I called Aurelia but her phone was off now. The thoughts going through my head though.
The doctor had said he will discharge me at 1oam in the morning and when that time came Mudenda was not there to pick me up.
….my pride would not let me call him to be honest but at 11am when I felt it was getting embarrassing I dialled him.
His phone was off.
I had to take the bus! Having a boyfriend with a car really spoils you at times. I felt lost and confused but I managed. I went to my place. I felt empty and alone. Mudenda had not called nor even asked me how my day was. He had not asked how I felt.
I still remember so clearly this, around 1pm I got a text, it was from Mudenda. It read,
“I think we should take a break!”
After so many years of dating, I am pregnant with his child and he dumps via sms!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
Dear Mike and readers….
Thank you for posting my email.um a 22years Old lady I’ve been seeing a 23years Old guy for 3years.my bf is very insecure he’s gOt my bbm pin cOnnected tO his laptop and he even has access tO my text messages via his laptOp.gOes thrOu my whatsapp,blOcks my cOntacts and deletes my conversations sOmetimes.this guy goes thrOu my brOwser histOry tO see what I’ve been up tO.he’s nOt intO sOcial networks he’s Only gOt a Facebook accOunt .he’s says I expOse myself On sOcial netwOrks and he hates all my fwends.when ever we fight he keeps bringing up something’s frOm the past… Such as myself receiving a call frOm my ex and nOt telling him,he can bring up anything things that I’ve even fOrgOtten.he tOld me several times that I must leave social networks and I must tell him everytime I gOt a call Or text frOm my ex.buh I don’t dO that cause I don’t see the pOint.I like sOcialising and making fwends unlike him and during this 3 years he has committed suicide 3 times and um scared that One day he will succeed and his family will blame me fOr everything cause already they ae saying um selfish.the last time he cOmmitted suicide I was at his place and he started telling me Of hOw my male fwend cOmplimented me On a profile picture I had on my whatsapp.I never even saw that cause the time the dude was texting me I was asleep sO he tOok my phOne and deleted the messages.sO I was cOnfused then I tOld him he must stOp this nOnsense,he gave me his phOne and said I can gO through it anytime then I ignOred him.and started bringing the past the tOok a dOzen Of pills,beers and car keys and left.came back in the mOrning I was sO stressed and I couldn’t even sleep, mind yOu it was two days befOre my exam.I couldn’t even study cause he was sick in bed.buh I wrOte my exams.I tOld him that I want an end tO the relationship cause um living in fear Of what he’ll dO next and nothing I dO is satisfying tO him cause I can’t even gO Out with my fwends. worse that he’s been abusing me emotionally and even started being sexually abusive. So now its been a month after this occurrence and he’s been shOwering me with text messages nOn-stOp and I jus look at them…. I lOve him buh um jus nOt happy with him anymore and um fed up with him.my fwends say I must give him One last chance…. Is he even wOrth it? Will he stop this Obsession and madness?