Disclaimer: I have read the last chapter several times and I still cannot see what the confusion was about. Chapter One to Three gave a background as to how they met. Chapter Four jumps 3years to when they are in a proper
relationship as the story is not about them dating but what drove her to being a jilted baby mama. It was important to establish background so as to see how they fell in love. Chapter 4&5 show how the rift in that relationship started and we continue…
I hope the explanation makes sense as in a story like this drama does not happen every day, it builds up.
Mudenda, my man, always said to me that we never walk away from a fight. Those were his rules, his laws not mine. Now he was doing exactly that. He was willing to leave me here at his place, six months pregnant to go somewhere. I was emotional, my face looked as though I had been stung by wasps and he wanted to do this. How could he? I was carrying his child for crying out loud! He was crazy if for one moment he thought I was going to do this alone. I followed him!
“Come back right now!”
I screamed at him. I was never one to raise my voice because I always found shouting out loud as beneath me. You know how those girls that bump into each other and shout from across the street, which was not me. At this stage however this man was driving to that point! He was so shocked he came back in. He like me was very self-conscious of what people thought of us! What kind of man leaves his pregnant fiancé, yes I had no ring but I was certainly halfway there!
He came back upstairs and closed the door behind him. He was ready for a fight and so was I.
“I can’t believe you were screaming like that out there! Who did you want to hear that you can raise your voice?”
He screamed back. I don’t what difference he thought it would make though because now he was yelling just as well as me.
“Why are you angry at me really? Is there something else I did?”
I asked him because it just felt as though there was more to it than this. He looked at me and confidently said,
“This whole weekend you have been acting shady. For example you never delete your whatsapps but this weekend you don’t have them. Why?”
I looked at him incredulously. He was right, I always left my whatsapp messages there. Two days ago I had deleted them because I felt my whatsapp was slow and Meladi had said it was because I had all that history so I must delete. I never minded him going through my messages because I went through his. If this was the problem then it was not a big one. I actually smiled as I explained what had happened.
“Why didn’t you ask me though?”
I then asked him at the end. I am not sure what answer he had expected but by the look on his face I could see it was not it! I know why he had no asked, ego! He never wanted to show when he was being insecure so he would bottle it up until it became an issue. This is not to say I gave him a reason why to be insecure. I had not cheated in this relationship.
“The way that guy spoke to you like you are his…his..”
He seemed not to find the word probably because it was offensive (I know my man),
“…girl and with everything with you whatsapp it was the logical conclusion!”
Men are like dogs, they pee on one tree and they never want anyone else to pee on it! Mudenda was behaving as though I had never dated before him. He is the one who had said he did not want to know any of my exes names and considering I had so few exes he would have known who Mudenda is. All of a sudden I had become this big cheat he did not trust. I had been doing this for a long time if he was right. Why oh why was this happening? Here is the irony, every now and again an ex of his would pop up in his life and he would laugh about it. He sat down at the edge of the bed and I sat on the chair in front of it.
“You know I have never cheated on you and how do I start cheating now when I am so pregnant?”
I asked him.
“Which guy would want me?”
I know I was saying that but there are some guys who had already hitting me even though they saw I was pregnant. Men are weird it’s as simple as that. How do you hit on a pregnant woman really? Should have used the word girl but I doubt I still qualify.
“I was just saying…”
He said stupidly.
“If I cheated on you where would I go! You know my mother is not talking to me! My sister I don’t even know where she is! All I have is you so why would I try and destroy that?”
I asked him. It was a bit of emotional blackmail on my part but it worked just fine.
“I am sorry then. I guess I overreacted!”
He said. That was good enough for me I guess. I did not want to continue the argument. I felt a sharp pang in my stomach just beneath my belly button. I think I had over exerted myself in all that shouting. I tried to stand up but the pain was so much.
“Baby what’s wrong?”
He asked me when I doubled over!
“Something is wrong! Mudenda aaah!”
I screamed. He went into panic mode!
Was I losing my baby?
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
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I am a 27 year old male. I have been with my girlfriend for four years now and everything was fine until probably four months ago. I work for government but in a junior post. My girlfriend would visit me a lot at work which was cool. I started hearing that people were seeing her driving around town with an older man, going out and having dinner. Eventually I confronted her and she denied her. She accused me of allowing people to enter our relationship. The rumours continued and even though I watched her closely from now on I did not see it. Three weeks ago one of my friends saw her at Cubana with the same man. He called me and I drove there. The older man she was with is one of the General Managers at my Department. Imagine. She had met him whilst visiting me. I confronted them. He laughed at me saying how could I expect to satisfy her when I was still starting up. She told me to go home, she was with him now and if I wanted her I should not cause a scene! Satani! Cubana has bouncers. I waited for them to come out and I beat the crap out of him! I did not touch her. She dumped me! I swear I thought I was getting fired but he did nothing and obviously I can’t afford to quit. Last week Thursday she came to the office, to my office and she told me that she was pregnant by my baby. I told her that’s a no no but she said she never slept with the GM. I don’t believe her but she is adamant and even the dates when she does the calendar suggest we were together at conception! I have already cut her out of my life since she dumped me but I am not the kind of man who will leave my child on the streets.