Every office, especially government ones have cases of sexual harassment. It is what us lawyers live off, that and divorce. Every office also has that one female who refuses to follow proper dress protocol as mandated by company rules. It’s easy to say that “I can wear a short dress or a skirt so tight it’s about to burst in the seams because I am a woman and I have my rights!” But in an office environment, doesn’t matter whether you are in America or in Umtata, that causes a lot of tension and at some point some stupid male will make a comment that could get him into trouble. That’s just how it is and this is in no way a justification but the new society is teaching women especially not to accept the role they play especially when they break the rules of dress protocol. I once read a case, an actual true case, of a woman who made a living off suing her male bosses as well as government for harassment. She had four cases before she was 30 and in legal terms that’s a lot. Most eventually get settled out of court. All men sighted provocative dress code and their problem was that they had reprimanded her on several occasions for it. It was only when other women stood up for the men and testified that the woman was more of an exhibitionist at work that the court be it reluctantly so threw out the case with costs. The point is, as a man it so hard to prove your innocence once a woman accuses you of sexual harassment. In some instances in cases I have read a mere disagreement between colleagues of the opposite can lead to the male being fired or worse on trumped up charges of that. Lindiwe therefore was such a threat to me I was deeply worried!
My wife asked me what was wrong and I could not exactly tell her that I feared my colleague would bring a case of sexual harassment against me! She would ask why and how it got to this? I told her that it seemed we had missed a crucial report but I will see to it on Monday. For now I told her that it was all about us and we had to make up for days I was gone. She immediately said she was on her periods. I looked at her again not sure whether to be angry or laugh in her face because there was no way she could be on her periods. Come on! She had been on them about two weeks ago. I remember distinctly because she had sent me to get her ponstel at the pharmacy. I think women genuinely think we don’t check such things and truth be told some men do! I don’t but I remember the pharmacy. I asked why she was lying to me and reminded her of the day. She blushed and apologized before saying she was just tired. It had been a long day she said. My wife has always been anti sex! It does not excite her that much for some reason! This meant I was not getting any tonight. That was not new. She asked me iif I could rub her feet because she had been on them the whole day. I wanted to say no but some fights are not necessary.
At some point we slept. In the morning I woke up early to make her breakfast in bed. My wife had left her phone downstairs for some reason and I could not help it but go through it. There was nothing incriminating at all. Maybe I was freaking out for nothing and she was not doing anything bad. When I was done cooking there was cricket on TV. South Africa was playing in New Zealand so it had started really early around 3am. I am a big sports fan maybe because I never got to play any. I took the breakfast upstairs and as I entered I noted that my wife was on the phone! Hold up? Did I not just use her phone downstairs? Since when did she have two phones? I understand at work they give you work phones but why I did I not have this number? I pushed my way in and she continued talking. Her speaker was loud enough for me to hear. It was a woman on the line and they were discussing some project they had to do today. My wife told the woman that no she could not because her husband was home so she will not be in the weekend. I was not sure whether that was meant for my benefit as already I was suspicious about her having two numbers.
I asked her why I did not know about her new number and she said it was because she wanted to surprise me with her new phone. Surprise me with a phone? What are we? Teenagers? She said she got it the day we had fought and she had wanted to tell me but the fighting got in the way. That’s one of the most common excuses to anything. If you fight with your partner something always happens that they then say because of the fight the word never got back to you or worse, I cheated because we were fighting! Women absolutely love that line! It aint even about being lonely or sad about the fight when that happened and truth be told, its plain and simple revenge!
I asked her how she thought I was supposed to feel about this because we are a married couple and such small things build up to us fighting and eventually divorce! The way she changed colour! The word divorce is like a white elephant in any marriage especially if you are having an argument. You never bring it up if you know what’s good for you. Divorce you only mention if someone else you know is going through it otherwise that’s a taboo topic. She asked me if was threatening her of which I obviously told her of course not! Why would I?
Either she did not believe me or I had played into her hands but she stood up went to the bathroom, opened the shower to bath and closed the bathroom door! She never closes the door when she showers! What the hell was going on!
She left the phone on the bed and it was flashing. So the phone was on silent. The caller I.D. said …Boss!
The temptation was too great to resist!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I have three guys in the last five years and all have cheated on me. Two of them I met at church and the other I was introduced by a friend. The last I actually discovered I was his mistress two years into the relationship. He was still with his girlfriend when we started dating and still is. Two weeks ago she called me and asked me who I was because she had seen my call records on his phone. Obviously I told her confidently and not with the intention to hurt her. Last week we met, the girl and I to discuss our situation. I love this guy dearly. When my mother was sick he paid about to 60k to get her treatment and help. Who does that if they do not love you? I don’t see him often because he works far from me but he takes care of me and calls every few hours to check up on me. I told all this to his original girlfriend and she too had similar stories of his kindness. Turns out we see him on alternative weekends and he sleeps with us both on those weekends. The girl is a nurse so she said we should go get tested and fortunately both of us are fine. Now the issue is what to do we do? We both agree that he is such a good man yet betrayal is betrayal. I am so scared of us going to him and asking him to choose because I am the mistress hence the bad person I reckon. Please advise because part of me says we can share him at the very least!