Shock is not a word I like associating with myself but Lindiwe had just managed to achieve that in me. She was making this awkward for the both of us. Obviously I knew that what we had shared was a onetime thing and at this stage I still was not even sure I had shared something with her. Her bringing this up like this was not only childish but also bound to raise eyebrows at the office. We still had to make our formal report and this could only work if we spoke as a team. Now she was practically saying I must ignore her completely. Was she mad? My instinct was to reply her and tell her to “fuck off” in those words but I read the sms three more times to see if she had really meant it! Wow! There is this misconception that men are the ones that act like dicks but Lindiwe had just taught me a lesson than the age of the lady was a thing of the past. Much as girls complain that men don’t open doors for them anymore, pull back the chair or allow them to walk into a room first, how many things do women not do anymore that men don’t complain about. Truth be told we are now all the same! What men can do women can do better and that’s not necessarily a good thing! I was going to talk to her whether she wanted to or not! I was not going to mess up my career because she could not handle something she had very much been part of!
Khanyi sent me yet another message asking me where I was. I had almost forgotten about her with that message from Lindiwe. Well this was going to be a problem. I smsed her back and said that I was not there anymore was back in Cape Town. It did not even take 30 seconds before my phone started ringing. For someone to come so far to try and surprise her I owed her that much. I picked up the phone and the first thing she said was, “tell me you are joking!” When I told her I was not she was so pissed off she started cursing me off. I had made a mistake according to her and this mistake was that I had not told her I was leaving. Now she had made this grand gesture for me and I was not even there. I found myself apologizing as though it was my fault which truly it was not! That’s what happens when you let a side dish get under her skin! If she found out about Lindiwe and I, I am certain that she would react as though I cheated on her even though she was not even my girlfriend. That’s the problem even when you are married, the side dish always wants to be treated as though she is the wife. I was tired though. I told her it was not my fault that she had left without telling me either. That was the wrong thing to say because it seemed to only get her angrier. She said she heard bought lingerie even and I had the nerve to tell her that! What was wrong with this woman though? I had had a long day so as I tried to calm her down I heard,
Behind me! O crap! I had lost myself in my train of thought in this whole argument. I had forgotten that my wife had gone to the bathroom and now she was standing behind me!
It happens to the best of us though truth be told. You go to a place and you get so attached to that place and in some instances you find yourself behaving as though you are still there. That’s why I had not been extra careful. Normally I would never have picked up the phone knowing that my wife was there. She asked me who was on the phone so late. I chose not to lie and I did not hang up the phone because if I did I would not get time to tip of Khanyi. I told my wife I was talking to Khanyi and she was not happy with me because I had promised her that I would find out some legal stuff for her in Pretoria. She immediately asked what stuff of which I lied and said Khanyi wanted to open her own company and she needed to know what laws applied there. I had promised her I would go on Monday but since I was back now it means I could not. My wife looked at me for a moment and thoughtfully said she never thought Khanyi would leave Cape Town but if she left then she wanted to go with her! I hung up the phone without Asthandile seeing it! That was close! I am sure Khanyi had heard everything. I begged my wife not to tell her I told her because this was lawyer client stuff so I would get into trouble. Because I said that it meant she took me seriously. If you are in the right profession your excuses are simpler and nothing beats being a lawyer or doctor in that right!
My wife said that her cousin was coming to live with us as from Sunday. We had discussed it and I had been a bit against it but family comes first. I am certain a lot of people have lived with a relative at some point. My wife argued since she was now working or rather we were both working it meant that we would have a warm cooked meal on the stove everyday. She also told me that back home had become a bad situation for her as now the doctors wife, the one who made her pregnant had beaten her up and threatened to kill her. Xhosa women don’t normally make idle threats especially if you sleep with their husbands! Be warned!
My wife and I ate the food I had made and our mood had warmed up. I had driven my point across I think. There was no more this my boss business. I did not want her to lose her first job but I also did not want her to be the latest office scandal. If you work you know what a scandal can do to you. The stench of it never goes away.
It was at this moment that Dalu decided to call me. He said he had gone out with one one of the seniors at work and Lindiwe had come up. He was even laughing saying it. He said that he hoped I had not as much as looked at her inappropriately because she was a troublemaker. I obviously lied and said not in my wildest dreams.
He said good. He said the reason why she was so young and second in her own division was because once on such a trip she had accused the other partner she had gone with of trying to sleep with her. She had not only sued the firm but also demanded that man’s job which was now hers. I had never heard about this before and he said it all been kept hush hush. I asked him what if it was true and he said that for a long time he thought that it was true as well according to his source.
It could just be a true story and the guy had tried his luck on her and failed. Dalu should know better I told him. He said he did but this week the wife of the man accused had filed for divorce. One the reason she had sited was that he could not perform his conjugal rights making the marriage not work.
He had been impotent for three years after a boating accident!
I swallowed the spit!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I am a 25yr old young woman who is in a bit of a fix. I have been with my then boyfriend for 6yrs and we got married last year and so it has only been a yr into the marriage.
Mike I have a problem. My now husband loves the bottle and it has been a problem ever since we met. We broke up several times before because of his drinking habit and 2yrs back we were apart for nearly 6months because I couldn’t take it anymore as he got very physical whenever he was drunk. We got back together after he swore he had changed & even managed to convince me that he has dropped his habit, problem is he started only showing his true colours (yet again) when we got married last year. mike it has been fight after fight after fight after fight because of this. On our anniversary last yr he got so drunk when he took me out on a date and started driving like a maniac on our way home, when I asked him to slow down because he was under the influence he swore at me and carried on speeding. and on the same night when we got home he told me that I must pack my bags and get the F**K out of his house if I am not pregnant in a years time. By Gods divine grace I am currently carrying our child but he has not changed now he doesn’t even sleep at home sometimes and when I get angry at him about it he threatens to leave because he cant deal with a screaming woman. I have miscarried in the past and my pregnancy is very delicate so I need to keep the stress level down but how can I if this is what I am dealing with?
Fellow readers please help a sister out as it hasn’t even been a yr into our marriage. I pray about this and constantly ask God to intervene.