People need to get something straight! In a relationship you are only guilty if you are caught! It is not hypocrisy to overreact to something you too have done if you have not been caught! This is why we encourage one another never ever to confess especially to cheating because that means you are as good as being caught! You do not get a reward for feeling guilty and confessing and usually either the person dumps you or never trusts you again. My wife may just have kissed another man and I had slept with someone, not that I remembered but who cares I had not been caught. If we went to court I would win hands down so I now had a decision to make! I had worked all these years of our marriage and taken care of her every need from panty to hair so yes she was an ungrateful bitch which made very angry! Unfortunately she was an ungrateful bitch I loved with all my heart!
I had to make a quick decision as I could see that she had turned and was walking towards me. My insides were numb, frozen even in spite of the warm of the sun on my back. Its like I had swallowed a block of ice and was hoping it would slowly melt. If I shouted at her or even broke up with her, in spite of her guilt, I could end up pushing her away for good. Second option was to pretend I did not see it but that would eat me up inside to the point of eventually hating her and being abusive. I am not violent. I do not beat up women. I am not trying to be a hero amongst other men I just don’t have time for violence. A lot of people argue that your partner crosses a line of no return hence why you resort to violence but I believe you have time and energy to waste. Thirdly was to remember all the things she said I did not do for her anymore or never did and do them so she could remember why she chose me over all those suitors. Its not cowardice I believe, its using your brains not emotions to reason for you.
When she got back she knelt before me but I don’t think it was to beg but more about to sit down. She said she had something to tell me which might make me hate and look at her differently. Crap! She was about to confess. If she did that and I still stuck to my third option it will be as though I was rewarding her for what she had done by me doing all the things she hoped I would do. Women tend to construe that as though you are so arrogant you do not even care she cheated. Usually when a man chooses to look past your indiscretion its because he believes in your ‘happily ever after’. I immediately told her that if it was a confession she wanted to make it would be most unwelcome because all I wanted was that from now onwards we both would do things differently. Nothing from the past because that won’t build us. She looked a bit confused by what I was saying but I convinced her that this was a good thing for us. She hugged me with tears in her eyes and told me that she was lucky to be loved by me. In my head I was telling myself that all the best cheats cry crocodile tears. She said she did not feel like being at the beach anymore and wanted to go home! I did not want a scene so I obliged her and we packed up and left. It was only three pm in the afternoon so there was still a good five hours of sunshine left. Sitting by the pool at home did not feel the same.
When we got to the house she said I should not take out the things in the car. We will do that later she said. She led me to the pool and stripped naked right there outside. Even I felt self conscious. It was broad daylight and there were people walking on the road some we could even here. The neighbours all they had to do was look into our yard and see everything. She jumped into the water and said I should join her. I was not sure what to make of this but I jumped in. She said I was no fun because I was not naked but no worries, she went under and pulled down my pants. I was naked! Its a lie that cold water makes your dick go down. Mine was hard as rock! She pushed me towards the stairs of the pool and set me down. What was going on here?
I don’t know how best to explain what happened next but from now onwards this will be the manual I will give any woman who will ever go down on me. My wife must have been doing lots of research but how? When you give a blowjob do not start with putting his member in your mouth. Nope that is not what she did. She started from the ball sack. She licked it as though she was licking an ice-cream and she took her time. Its wonder how the water in the pool did not choke her really. She gently put each “ball” in her mouth and sucked it. She was very careful at it so it was not a rushed job. This was not the woman I had married and I often complained about. She then licked the stem of the candy all the way up to the temple but did not put the dick in her mouth until even I could see the vein on the side. She chuckled and said ‘wow so its true’ meaning this is something she had researched! It was only then she put the helmet in her mouth and though clumsy I could feel she making an effort to circle with her tongue. She also made a valiant attempt at making junior go down her mouth as far as possible but when she gagged a little I stopped her. The aim was not to kill her, hello! I pulled her up and made her sit on the creation of her hard labour, junior standing at full attention ready for action. As I entered her secret place, it was warm, it grabbed me like a suction tune and enveloped my dick. I could feel myself throb inside and inspite of all the water it was so well lubricated! We had never done it in the pool and here we were after a huge fight where I found out she was cheating!
As I thrust in gently at first the mood was building up. I was so horny and turned and on! This was heaven until I heard,
What the hell! Who the hell had entered my gated they must wait or fuck off I thought violently!
My wife screamed when she looked up! I turned to see what was going on.
Standing there was my father in law, mother in law and my wife’s cousin the one who was moving in!
Clearly they had decided to not only escort her but come a day early!
Worse, I was pounding their daughter mercilessly, married or not!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I hope you share this and your readers find this in good faith.
When people seek for advice they had to admit defeat. That they can’t solve their problems and are very desperate. How people respond can
either have three effects.
1. Help them. Show them the right way. Give them hope and a second
chance to whatever it is they need to deal with.
2. Change nothing
3. Break them down and push them over the edge.
On that note, what may seem like a tiny stupid problem to you may be a huge uncontrollable problem for others. And how the people they seek advice from respond could be just that little thing they needed to finally end their lives or hate themselves further. Seeking for advice is hard, accepting the truth or consequences is other hard thing on its own. I plead with readers that if you feel you can help solve it have the best advice for those seeking it, do not start of with an insult. Rather keep your opinions to yourself. Calling people “ungrateful bitches” etc does not help.
I’ve seemed for advice from you guys (readers) and I’ve gotten great feedback. But was rather stunned by some of the responses. Name calling is so unnecessary. Not everyone is thick skinned. Not everyone react to situations the same as you. Not everyone is you. Sensitivity is key
Thanks to those who had great advice, sympathised and refrained from the name calling. You make a difference to my life and too so many other people’s. To this who have nothing but judgment and don’t think what their words could do, know this. The rhyme we learns as kids “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me” was
wrong. The harm words can make may not be physical but emotional and mental. So think twice. You just might make a suicidal person actually
commit it thanks to your support.