I asked her if we had used a condom and she asked me if had any. I said no. She then asked how then I could conclude we had used a condom if I was not even carrying any? OK I felt a bit stupid on two fronts, one for asking knowing I did not have ant and secondly for not traveling with any. Condoms are like getting called in for questioning by the police and you bring a lawyer. You look guilty immediately but guilty or not you are safer this way. If I had brought condoms on a business trip both my wife and Lindiwe had they seen them would have asked why I needed then and I would look suspicious. As a man however, no matter how much your wife or girlfriend does not want to hear this, you must always carry condoms on a trip because should you do the ‘unthinkable’ you at least do not bring it home to your unsuspecting partner. Yes you have cheated you moron but don’t punish your partner back home by bring home disease! She said that she did not like sex with a condom in any case which I think was meant to be comforting but it was not. In fact it made her more scary than before! How many people had she slept with without using one and given that excuse? I am sure she could see this on my face. She laughed and said not to worry she had no disease of any kind. She send being bi and more girl friendly meant that she didn’t get to experience a lot of dick. She was so casual and candid about it. I was not. I was not donating my sperm to someone trying to have a baby. She said she was on the pill and has been for a while now so that means I would be safe. She was not about to have a baby any time soon! At least that was reassuring! Most career women think babies are an inconvenience and tell themselves they can have them at a latter stage.
She said she had to pack and she left me to my thoughts. I also had to do the same so fortunately time flew by. It was time to go home. I just wanted to get out of here. I don’t know when she had gotten the time to call the office but our flights were already booked. If you are flying business class its rare for the flight to ever be sold out for you. Waiting lists in a flight are usually for those wanting cheap seats and to be fair Cape Town has so many flights. Why? Its usually the furthest distance from most points in South Africa that even have airports. When we got to the airport she was making small talk like she had no worry in the world. I had so many things to worry about. On the flight she slept like a baby even whilst I was so worried. At Cape Town International she put on her professional face and we shook hands as goodbye and that was it. Stunned!
The guy who drove me in the cab was quite a friendly chap so I decided that the best thing to do was pass by my GP. I told the driver I would give him a little extra for that. The good thing about staying in a student area is the fact that there doctors and dentists everywhere. Rondebosch is filled with them meaning that I could stop by before I got home. My wife would never know I am certain of it. Lindiwe can get to her own vices I did not care much but I was not exposing Asthandile any more than was necessary. There was something seriously wrong with her. She had told me to ‘man up’ but man-ing up to me is the reason why most men who are abusive are like that because they are led to believe that being a man must be shown by physical strength and an I don’t give a fuck attitude. Instead of us discussing what had happened last night she had chosen to ignore. I know am sounding emotional but life has consequences. Nothing is for free out there.
I went to the doctor. In one of the cases I did I had heard of a pill or pills that can minimize your risk of getting HIV by over 90% if you have unprotected sex. I used to think that they only give it to women who have been raped but fortunately that was not true. The doctor on duty was a white woman. I hate this part. Is it just me or do white doctors especially talk to you like you are a child and don’t know what you are doing. Maybe I have issues. I told her my problem and she gave me a long lecture first before she gave me the prescription. The drugs name, Combivir! She emphasized that it was not a cure but minimized the risk. At least I had taken precautions. I also could not have sex for a couple of days which was not a problem because my wife was a fridge in the bed!
When I got home I found my wife’s car in the driveway. She was home I thought. However after I let myself in I discovered she was not there. She was probably still at work. It was already after 8pm. I decided it would be nice if I made her supper and she arrive home to a cooked meal. Nothing fancy because it would take too long. Grill some fish maybe, make fries, a salad.
45 minutes into me cooking the electricity went. Eskom eskom eskom! We keep paying and they keep telling us they need more money to build more things we don’t even know about. I was so irritated by them. I knew where we kept candles but on my way there I heard a car at the gate. The lights of the car went off and the people inside switched on the car lights. It was now dark so I could not tell the colour of the car but am certain it was a Range Rover! With it dark outside and the lights on in the car I had a perfect view. It was my wife and a man I assumed was her boss I am not quite sure though.
They came out together and he took her things out of the back seat. At the gate they hugged. They did not kiss I am certain of that. What the hell was he hugging her for? As she was walking down the driveway she shouted to him,
“See you tomorrow!”
Of which I whispered harshly to myself,
“Like hell you will!”
And the electricity came back!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto
I am a y22 year old lady dating a 27 year old. We’ve been dating for the past two years & in that two years we’ve had no infidelity issues, just minor & petty arguments. This past weekend I told my boyfriend that I’d be going to see my mother but changed my mind & didn’t inform him. I pitched at his place unannounced, when I knocked on the door he didn’t want to open but I could hear voices.I banged on the door, eventually he opened. I opened all doors only to find some girl hidden in the bathroom. Was so shocked & hurt I did not know what to do.. I just got my stuff & left without saying or doing nothing. Got to my place & cried my eyeballs out. Now my bf is denying that there is something with this girl & it’s making me even more angry cause I saw it myself. What should I do cause I still love him but this feels like the ultimate betrayal. Could he have been doing this behind my back all this time??