Why is it that it is when you are cheating that your suspicion that your partner could be doing the same is at its most heightened stage? I was very uneasy about him and the more I thought of it the angrier I got. The man had done nothing wrong except compliment my wife without even knowing she was mine but in my eyes it could not go unchecked. I deleted the sms Khanyi had sent because yes I am a big guy but my arms weren’t that strong so with the anger I had towards my wife’s boss I was not in a flirty mood. I am not really one for flattery. I went and sat next to my wife and casually asked what it was the boss wanted like she knew. She said that she had no idea but thought maybe it was a rite of passage for every new employee to meet the boss. That thought scared me. In a labour law case we were given a statistic that made everyone laugh but was quite scary nonetheless. If I recall correctly it said something like in every big company there is one guy who crosses the line and sleeps with half the female employees before a case is even brought against him. That’s why companies don’t allow fraternization. Was he the guy? I hate law for one reason, it often leaves you knowing too much and you are constantly on guard!
I don’t think she realized that I was being jealous. That’s the other about being a stay at home wife. You stop being in touch with what is happening in the real world. For my wife, it was just procedure. If anyone hit on her then I doubt she would not see it until it was too late. It is weird, how does a woman fail to see that someone is hitting on her though. It is not easy to hit on someone so please you better recognize the effort no matter how weak. She said that she needed to go take a bath and just rest. She was tired. I understood. I went and did the dishes. I also had work so after I was done I focused on it. The following morning my wife wore a jeans and flat shoes. I asked her why on earth she would dress like that and she said that at work they were encouraged to do so. It was easier to run around in flats and for many women heels were just a nightmare no matter how used one is to them. It does not take a genius to see that I always say. Women will rather torture themselves and wear those uncomfortable shoes only to take them off as soon as the get into a car or office. No wonder why they are so tired after work. Carrying extra shoes really! For what? My wife was not like that though. She rarely wore heels even at church where women especially make sure they do. She often said that God does not care whether you look tall or not so why suffer. Wise woman. Secretly though I was happy that she wore flats. It did not make her stand out as much as she did on the few occasions she was forced to torture her feet.
I was quite anxious the whole day and what’s worse I could not call my wife as often as I wanted. She had no office line for one meaning that she could not be on her mobile phone as often as she could. Imagine on your second day in an open plan office like hers receiving so many calls on your private calls. My boss called me in and said I was going to have to go to Pretoria for two weeks on work business. It was my account that needed extra work. I was going to go with Lindiwe who dealt mostly with Labour issues. She was a Wits Graduate and her and I were strictly colleagues. She had her own crowd at work and I had mine. This was going to be awkward but I am a professional. What needed to be done was urgent so we were to leave in two days time. Two weeks is a long time though! How do you even pack for such long? That though was not my major concern, this would mean I would not be around long enough to force my wife to quit her job! I was royally screwed as far as I was concerned.
As the day dragged on and all arrangements for the trip and all the paperwork that was needed was being organized I had a bit of free time. An hour or so. I went down to the lobby with the intention of going to grab a bite. At the entrance I bumped into Khanyi. For a moment there I thought she was going to cause a scene because I had not replied her sms. Instead she was very bubbly and told me she was coming to take me out for lunch. I told her that she was going to get us in trouble what if we bumped into my wife or something. She said I should not worry my wife was meeting her new boss now and that usually takes about an hour. This was just torture. I told her I only had an hour to spare and again she played it down to no big deal. I did not want her to get comfortable coming here unannounced like this no did I want my colleagues to get used to her face. She could see I was tense and she kept on telling me to relax. We went to some Cafe on Strand Street. All she wanted to do was talk and see me she said. I was too nervous though so it was not the best meeting. I told her I was going to Joburg for two weeks and she sounded genuinely depressed about it. Eventually I had to go and thank heavens too! I was too tense!
Today she got home before me, my wife that is. She had bought take out and argued that it was because I had cooked the previous day. I joked at how that had came out so wrong and she said no she did not mean it in a negative way! I asked her how it went with her boss and she said it was fun. They discussed a lot of things including family and so on. Harmless enough. She said he was a nice man all round and she enjoyed the talk they had had. Then she said,
“He has a lovely wife with two kids. Pity for him though his wife lives in Joburg. You know Mxolisi I don’t think I could ever survive if you stayed so far away from me!”
I did not really hear most of what she words except for the words ‘wife’ and ‘Joburg’! Did Khanyi not say he was gay? In fact I was certain she said he was gay! Stereotype or not I should have figured out that he was not clean enough to be gay! With his wife in Joburg surely he had all the time in the world to do whatever he wanted with whomever!
My wife was not done! She went to explain that he was actually from Joburg and had been moved here a year ago to run the Cape Town Office. A year is a long time to move away from your family. My wife even noted that who in their right mind would leave their wife and kids for such a long time. She was right! Long distance no matter how mature you are as people often opens up room for temptation and mistrust. Imagine, you cannot even trust your partner if you live with them or in the same town with them, what more if they are towns away.
I had to speak to Khanyi! Why had she lied? I got the impression she was trying to set up my wife with this guy to justify us together! Contrary to popular belief, no side dish wants to stay a side forever!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Greetings. I met a guy sometime last year and we started being together this year, we sort of related( my aunt is married to his uncle) and have an age gap of 19 yrs. He is not married but both of us have a child each from previous relationships. We sort of really complement each other as I noticed we really enjoy each others company, my issue is that we see each other very rare at times due to our job commitments as well as that we are very conscious that what will our families say or treat us when they found out about us, we both agreed that will keep this relationship a secret as a result that we see each other after a long time but problem I can’t no more control my feelings anymore m falling in love and we continuously discuss this but we fear our families as we believe we are related, what should I do, continue with the agreement we had or forget if there will be a future or just go with the flow maybe things will come right?
Kindly advice me on this issue how you perceive it