When I told my wife I was leaving for two weeks she was not that depressed about it. She knew how much I had been craving for more responsibility at work and I often complained about it. Any black person in any private company will readily tell you that where there are races involved, the white race always gets the juicy contracts. My story is not about race so no I will not go there but truth is truth. I was more senior to some white guys here yet they already sat in major deals whereas I looked out from the outside. Anyway my wife was happy for me and again she said it would give her time to acclimatize at work without having to worry about me. Everyone who gets a job for the first time works harder than everyone else at work firstly because of the excitement and secondly to get acceptance. My wife was no different. I knew her, when she put her mind to something she tended to be spectacular at it! We discussed my trip and I told her everything including Lindiwe. I expected her to be a bit jealous because in all honesty I don’t think I had ever mentioned Lindiwe before but she did not. Maybe it is not in a woman’s nature to quiz you about a new name in your life because she moved on to tell me about her new project. My wife was becoming me and that scared me! By that I mean that I know there was a time when my wife would tell me about her day and I would half listen. Most men do that to their partners that’s why they always claim you never told them something.
The following day at work it was busy. Lindiwe and I had to get busy and sync with our mission. Women might not know this but men do, most women we meet especially if they are on the young side we “check them out”! There is no other way to put it. I am not sure if its instinct or just sizing them up but we do. Don’t ever believe your man if he says he did not check out some of the females you brought home or you meet together. For us its what we do about it that matters and fortunately for most men we check them out from a distance and that’s it. Again only an overzealous woman would consider that cheating or out of order as the instinct is quite natural. Lindiwe was not much taller than my wife but she was incredibly fit. I bet you she was one of those rare women with a flat stomach that was as close to a six pack as possible without being called butch. Clearly she worked out which is a plus as women who work are incredibly sexy. She was not the prettiest but this was law after all and not a beauty contest. She was one of the smartest people we had in the firm and from what I hear she was quite the bull dog in court. She wore glasses and this I had noted from before, very minimal makeup if at all. I am sure she only had lip-gloss in a her makeup kit if she even had one. Why women choose to look like clowns honestly I don’t know?
She told me she was glad we will be working together and she asked me if she could be frank and I told she could go ahead considering we were going behind enemy lines together for two weeks. She told me that she appreciated that we will be working together because I was the only black guy at work who had not hit on her. Consider this, this is a law firm and she is a labour law lawyer why on earth would anyone be stupid enough to hit on her? Or at least I had always thought. Lawyers should know better! I figured she was telling me this though as a defensive mechanism so that we keep it professional there. This was her way of making me aware that she did not want to be hit on in the first place without coming out forthright with it. Clever reverse psychology. It is like when you know that someone is a kleptomaniac in the house, he or she is the one you give the household petty cash to keep safe. Why? They cannot steal what they already have and everyone knows they have. Lindiwe had just done that.
I never got a chance to speak to Khanyi and ask her about the gay thing but she sent me a text saying how much she missed me. I did not reply immediately though. Had so much to do. At 4pm I made sure I texted her back. I did not want to find her at my gate again. When I got home I walked in at the same time with my wife. She was still excited about her job. She emphasized how Khanyi was special to her and was making her transition so simple by guiding her through every through it. Much as I was dying to ask if her boss tried anything I realized that this would only make her suspicious. All husbands are possessive and if yours is not then he is over confident!
She helped me pack. It was a nightmare because I genuinely did not know how to pack for two weeks. I even suggested. That maybe I should but new shirts there but she reminded me how bad I was at shopping and in fact how much I hated it. Again that is a bit of a mistruth. I don’t want to say lie. Most men would gladly shop the problem is that we do not want to do it with our partners. When it comes to shopping women have no boundaries and do not stick to the budget. Moreover even if the mall is small she will walk you until your feet turn blue. She punishes you for putting her on that budget because she will say for that money she will need to find the right top hence why you must do all that walking. So that option was out. A man with a big suitcase is a no no though. I told her that as long as I had two suits and maybe two jeans for the weekend. I went into my study to work.
The following day my wife came to my work place during her lunch. It so happened that I was with Lindiwe going through a few things. My wife said she was checking up on me to see if I was ready. That was very sweet of her. I introduced her to Lindiwe and she greeted her cautiously. I know my wife very well and that look was of total confusion. I told her again that this was the person I was going with for two weeks whom I had told her about. Her confusion was genuine and coldly and bluntly she replied,
“You never told me it was a woman!”
Right there in front of Lindiwe. Imagine how awkward this was at the moment. I had nowhere to look. I had told her.
“You can’t go with a woman. Hell no!”
She did not raise her voice but her statement of intent was very clear. She meant this wholeheartedly!
My flight was leaving in 6 hours!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I hope you had a great Easter. I did not unfortunately. I have been married for six years. My husband and I have a son. However I have noticed that my husband is not really interested in having sex with me. When we do its labored and his mind is elsewhere. I put it down to the long hours he works sometimes weekends. Even when we share a bed he sleeps fully dressed pyjamas and all. He has a particular friend he is always with and they grew up together and went to university together. He too is married. They are always together. Because of this closeness we know each other, the wife and I. She is pregnant currently. On Friday she called me and said to me that she found our husbands kissing. I didn’t believe her, I mean how can I, we have a son and she is pregnant. Apart from our sexless marriage my husband provides, cares and all of the above for my son and I. There is nothing ‘gay’ about him. I don’t know what to think. The other wife has moved back to her parents. Should I do the same? I don’t know what to think. I asked him and he totally denied it.