When it comes to cheating and unfaithfulness I don’t really care what Steve Harvey lied to women about, you can never ever think like a man as a woman. Most women are classy, have standards, pride, respect and above all loyal. Yes you get the few tjatjarag ones who will sleep with anyone but they are few enough for us to call them names. You have never heard a phrase that says “all women are loose” yet it is a universally acknowledged theorem that “all men are dogs!” A simple example is this, most women cannot sleep with a guy they do not feel something for. Their bodies will reject even to allow him to enter her. Moreover most women will not sleep with a guy they consider dirty or inferior to them in some way. Men on the other hand can even sleep with a prostitute, a dirty filthy person whom he has to pay for it just because the moment arose or the drinks hit the right spot! How then can Steve Harvey say you can think like a man! That fool must just calm down and stop lying to our women and also woman stop believing everything you read! Men are competitive by nature and conquistados. We hunt and can sense the presence of a beautiful woman long before you even identify her. Where you see a rival we see a challenge! That’s how we identify women and why we see things differently! If you are married and don’t believe me go look in the mirror and see what his hunting skills brought home! With that said, my wife gone, now having a few drinks I had a beautiful woman sitting in front of me. Temptation personified.
You know if you are married to someone whom you intellectually don’t click with you tend to see that person as childish and lacking reasoning skills. Its not meant to be offensive but most men do not want to marry women they consider dumb. My wife though not working was not dumb. However, because she did not get to talk to other professionals as she was isolated at home meant that having a conversation with her about the world, politics, sports, finance all things that matter to men did not always work well. A working woman can often debate more than one who does not because just by leaving the door in the morning she exposed to these things. A lot of my friends often say that they get really annoyed when a woman says what’s the use of knowing these things because they don’t put food on her table because that has to be the most ignorant statement ever. Chatting to Khanyi now I was fulfilled. She could speak about anything and everything. Yes she did not have the depth I had in some topics but it was so attractive hearing a woman know more than just the Kardashians. Women never get this that watching TV is not always about entertainment but should also be about expanding your knowledge base. If on your pvr all you have recorded are soapies and reality shows of Americans you will never ever one day meet then rest assured your husband and yourself will struggle for conversation as time goes on.
I got to know more about her actually. She had never been married and was focused more on her career for now. She wanted to be established by the time she was 30 then worry about marriage then. She said she didn’t mind not getting married to be honest because men are full of drama. When I asked if she wanted kids she said yes but not now. She said she could even have a kid without a husband because she had a good enough job to take care of a child if need be. All in all she was fiercely independent! Career women are the most likely to have an affair with someone else’s partner. Surprise! Even at work when we discuss amongst my colleagues the women often say they don’t mind having a taste of married men as they don’t have men of their own. A married man will not be clingy and call all the time meaning she gets to have fun without the added hustle of being tied down. Moreover career orientated women because they are still very much in the game tend to look down at their married counterparts hence why what’s theirs is also theirs! Furthermore they make an easier prospect for married men because we know she just wants a shag. Most men in my position therefore cheat because we are presented with an opportunity to cheat with the fear of getting caught hence we take advantage of such situations.
I called my wife to check up on her. She said Zimasa had been found but problem was she was pregnant. She had run away because she feared the consequences. 17years old and pregnant in South Africa is nothing new. We have stopped being shocked in all honesty. I even knew the person who made her pregnant but we were not friends. He was a doctor from the area who was notorious for dating young girls. Yeah doctors, that’s another story! Moving on. My wife said she would only be back on Sunday late as she had something to do in the morning. She had therefore changed her flights.
She asked me what I was doing. I told her that I was watching TV alone missing her. Well that was a lie. The truth was I was having the most riveting conversation with a beautiful woman. She asked if I had cooked and I told her no was going to have take out. It’s not like she liked cooking herself. My wife hated the kitchen and often we would have take out be it from Pick n Pay or what. I was not fussy about a home cooked meal to be honest so didn’t really mind. She said that she could ask one of her girls to bring me something if I really wanted a meal. Newly wedded wives tend to forget that their men were self sufficient before they married them. There must be somewhere it is is written that the way for woman to prove her worth to her man is to slave herself in the kitchen! Its pounded into their heads by their mothers growing up that you are half a woman if you cannot cook. I was not about to accept her friends to bring me food. Come on now. My wife was taking this friendship thing too seriously.
When I got back to the TV room I found that Khanyi had stood up and was getting dressed. By dressed i mean putting on her light cardy. I asked her what she was doing and she said she was leaving. I was stunned. She was leaving! Just like that! I asked her why and she said its Friday she was going to go out partying with her friends. She was not going to babysit me all night. Imagine calling a grown married man like me “baby”. Funny enough I didn’t take offense but like hell she was leaving! No kiss and not even a hug. Was what had happened that night a fluke or maybe I had misread the signals.
“I am coming with you!”
I said firmly the way I would talk to my wife. She looked at me and smiled before she said…
“No you are not!”
And walked out!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
Morning Mike, its Ms T.
I had mentioned to you before that I am 29 yrs, married to a 34yr old &he’s got 2 wives (ngami). Well husband has a problem shame, whenever he tries to cheat we always catch him, like we always find out just when things are starting to get serious. This has happened to a point that it has stopped hurting so much and I have accepted that most men cheat & that’s no reason for me to leave him or my kids as I doubt I will ever find one who will not cheat. He’s a good man otherwise, very good man, loving caring, wonderful father who will actually die for his kids. So me leaving him for his cheating is just not worth all the good things he has done & the good person he is because its not even often that he cheats, more like once a year or something. Now my worry is that he takes life very seriously &this occasional cheating could me that he is serious with that particular woman &he might just say one day that he’s taking a third wife. I don’t think I’ll be able to handle that coz me and my sister (his wife) married at the same time.