I don’t think any child is born as a problem child. Circumstances are what usually cause them or us to react into being a so called rebel. Just last week this girl did not exist in our lives and in a space of seven days she had not only wormed herself to being my fathers favourite but also taken my potential man. How does that work? Everyone wants to blame me but try having everything taken away from you with your eyes fully open like a fish then you will see why I was fighting back. What did he mean getting married? Just two days ago when I was in Jhb he had asked us to work things out! So when did he get to have this heart to heart. I was not angry because I was selfish I was angry because this guy was playing with my heart.
For black people being a doctor has to be one of the greatest pride for a parent. Back in the day when black people were policemen, nurses and teachers a doctor was a rare commodity. I think for my father, as he was old in any case, this meant that his new favourite daughter had done so well. Forgotten was the fact that his favourite daughter had gotten pregnant off a one stand. I am just putting it out there. What kind of a good girl does that? Opening your legs to a man you met a few hours ago! That’s just nasty. Only difference between Dumi and the other guys who do one night stands is that the fool had actually given this bicycle his real numbers on the day. Most guys would give you a fake one and walk away. Let’s see if she would have kept the baby then. Hypocrite! Like her father she only wanted his doctor title and the fool didn’t even realize that. Why hadn’t he accepted her earlier? Now that she fully pregnant he was speaking marriage. Clearly being a doctor doesn’t necessarily equate to you being smart! My father was very happy. My mother I guess knowing her place offered to make them tea or coffee. Funny thing is they said coffee and we didn’t even have it I am certain. The dutiful father to be fortunately said no to Sebo about the coffee saying she was to close to giving birth to be drinking coffee. I should have thrown up at that moment.
Angry as I was about all this I held my nerve even when my father asked me “how great is this, not only do you have a new sister but also a new brother in law?” And people say I am petty. This was like cruel and unusual punishment. My life really was messed up. I was glad for one thing though, for now at least, the cheque had been forgotten. Yes, even my mother had forgotten about her daughter who had almost been murdered. Not that I was complaining though. I needed someone to talk to. I don’t know how it got to this but the only person who could understand my frustration about Dumi was Tswelelo. I know she was at work but I called her nonetheless. She said she would call me in two minutes as she was parking. Thank heavens for that for I had no airtime. She called back and asked what was wrong (clearly I never called her). I told her everything that at happened and she listened attentively making shocked expressions at every turn. When I was done she called him a fool and yet again he was making a rash decision. She even said something I did not expect and said there was a huge possibility that the child was not even his so why was he committing now before it came. Typical Dumi, forever impulsive. She said in his head he was doing the right thing because he was that guy that almost always seemed to have good intentions yet never realized it came at his expense. She said she will get all his friends to have an intervention on him but Dumi had this thing of once his mind is made up, he remains steadfast good or bad. Don’t you just hate it when another woman knows your man more than you do? Just saying am not fighting.
Somehow I felt better after that conversation. I had forgotten that the baby might not have been his. I might be a sugar baby but I don’t do one night stands. I have more class than that. For me if there was a hierarchy for being slutty, a one night stand is possibly one step above being prostitution. Ok no let me do my hierarchy of sluthood… At 1. Le panta (when a girl gets done my many guys at one sitting) 2. Prostitute 3. One Night Stand (do you lack self respect for yourself that much. I don’t care how hot the guy is or how nice the alcohol tasted shut those legs) 4. Threesome (yeah I know people think its sexy but think about it, his dick in you then in her then you again. Girl you need Jesus for even agreeing to that) 5. Me… Sugarbaby. See am not biased I just call it like I see it. Anyway, what was Dumi thinking? Like seriously going to wife Sebo after all this? Really. Ah he was stupid as far as I was concerned.
My mother came to my room and asked me if I was ok. I said yes so as not to raise suspicion. For the first time since all this Dumi \ Sebo thing started she acknowledged my relationship with him when she told me she knew we had had a thing going on but this was for the best. I asked her how she could say that because she of all people was supposed to be on my side. Imagine, she pulled out the young card and told me I am in matric I am too young for him. Was she not the one who had encouraged us? I was so unhappy at that comment but again I held my nerve. She told me I had to let it go the decision had been made. She left my room.
We shall see! I was going to get them apart. He deserved better. He deserved me. I was going to dig up dirt on my so called sister and I was even going to church and pray that she gives birth to a white child just to make sure that the child wasn’t his. Ok fine, she was too ghetto to get a white man and too light in complexion because they like us darker. Mmmm, maybe a Colored baby then. Just saying.
I had resolved this to myself,
I was going to save him!
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)
I hope I find you all well. We have a bit of a problem. People requested books be set aside for them and received reference numbers. Now the problem is the people have not paid yet and we are holding books for them whilst there are people who want to pay for these books immediately. Please guys honor your agreement so we can move on to bigger and better things.
I am 29 yrs and in love with some1 whom I got involved with whilst I was still pregnant after the father of my baby left me, he took care of me from then and he is a father to my son. My problem is he resigned from work. About a year ago and his been struggling 2 get a job, his moody and gets angry 4 no reason. I have found employment in MP but home is in GP, I make means to go every weekend or fortnight, I feel neglected @ times because of his behaviour I recently dated someone in MP. The new guy gives complements and moreover attention, this new guy wants 2 marry me but I feel its unfair to drop my bf while his @ his lowest. I love him so much but hate his behaviour.