MOAYW – Chapter Six

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Its weird how when a woman speaks about why she cheats or cheated all other women accuse her of justifying cheating. Not one sits down to look at the contributing factors that led you from saying I do to your husband to saying yes please to another man. Men don’t need a reason, as long as it has boobs and opens its legs its fair game! That’s usually true. With us, instead of advising you all they are good at is bashing you for trying to get a bit of freedom back into your life. Women hate other women in such a way that even if they see your reason as long as you have breast like them you are some sort of witch which must be vilified. The very same women towards their divorce will cheat on their man and say “just wanted him to get a taste of his own medicine and I really enjoyed it!” Double standards to say the least because your girlfriends will justify it with you as they now have a collective hatred for your soon to be ex husband. That’s the only time other women stand with you, to celebrate and cheer on your soon to be dead marriage. We love downfalls more than anything else when it comes to other women. I am not being cynical. If a girl fixes her hair better than how you did yours, yes you will compliment her but tell yourself it will probably look better on you. This therefore means when it comes to cheating usually you have no one to ask or dissuade you without fear of being judged and gossiped about by your confidante. It would be nice to ask another cheating wife how the hell they got into that space and how to avoid temptation. You can’t ask someone who is not married to fully understand the pressures of marriage for they have a romantic and such a childish view of what marriage is. With that said much as I loved Andiswa and all her theories on life and relationships she was out of her depth here.

In the canteen sitting with my other colleagues for some reason the topic on everyone’s lips was cheating wives. It almost felt as though they knew what I was going through. With women when we are in a group we all hate mistresses and cheats. We are vehemently opposed to them and in discussions we wish such women the worst. Advaita spoke the most. She was an Indian woman from Ixopo who was usually very vocal about such things. She was not your typical sari clad indian but more of these modern ones and dated white guys as well. It was very interesting hearing her views because stereotypically you would expect her to hid behind culture and traditions. However she was more of the view that whilst divorce was a means of last resort if he cheats first time you forgive him, second time you make him suffer for it and third time is when you consider divorce. She kept on emphasizing that once you have a family your first resort should never be to pack your bags and leave. It’s so weird because I would expect to hear that from the black girls. They were of the opinion if it cheats it must walk. Is that not the view though of most of these young professionals who now because they have a degree and a car they think they know more about marriage and tradition. Through thick and thin means very little now to these new young professional for if the going gets tough dump each other and go looking for greener pastures. That’s how fickle marriage is today. Advaita had been married now for eight years and she seemed to know about the pressures of marriage. The woman had theories for days and she seemed quite open to talk about it. We all knew when her husband was in trouble because she would vent it out but what I noticed is that she never ever spoke about any other people. I knew people confided in her so that means she must be very discreet. Every office has an agony aunt I guess she was ours.

I was not really close to her but I really needed help and some solid advice. I cornered her at the end of lunch when all the other ladies stood up to leave. She laughed at me but in a supportive way the moment she knew what this was. She told me that she always thought I was so settled and happy but I told her that when you are married that, that is the image you portray to the world so as not to be shamed. I told that my case was different because my husband was neither cheating nor abusive though he was never present. She laughed at me again and said that was a fallacy, most women don’t cheat because he was cheating too nor was abusive. Most women cheat because of the neglect and emotional unavailability of their partners. The thrill of a one night stand is that you can do whatever you want with it and spit it out when you are done but a husband you have to nurse love and care for him even when you think he does not deserve it! She said it was worse if he wasn’t a talking husband because you can never fully express your problems and desires to him because you are never sure when he gets you or not! She reminded me that I was not a school girl so I shouldn’t get lost in stupid school girl fantasies. No relationship is black and white, there is always a shade of grey you all have to manage. My marriage was important I need to spend as much time as possible with my husband she reminded me. That’s the best way to fight temptation There it was again, spending time! In today’s world you take a job anywhere just to make ends meet. It’s not like I did not want to be with him. She said we would speak later as lunch was over.

Now that we had a new project of our own, Cindy and I were moved from a cubicle to an office. On my way there I had to stop by a friends to pick up her baby showers invitation. She had been trying to get me for a while but for some reason we kept missing each other. And yes, the baby daddy bailed the moment she got pregnant so she was yet another statistic. Yay, lucky me for being married!


As I entered our new office I found Cindy sitting talking to someone.

It was Mfundo!

He was always here but where was my husband?

****The End****

@diaryofazulugal
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)

Question: Lebogang 28 (married 3years) There is a guy at work that I haven’t even flirted with but I can’t stop fantasizing about. Yes I am married and yes I masturbate at times but I don’t seem to fantasize about my husband whom I swear love very much. Is it cheating if when you fantasize it is not about your own partner but another man or woman? I know I won’t do anything about my crush but the way I crave for this man I don’t know what to do. I am afraid people will start noticing or worse he will notice. What do you advise Mike? Pls ask your readers.

Hey Hey

Time flies really fast I must say. We would like to do a christmas drive. We would like to collect as many things as possible for different charities. It can be anything from clothes to sweets, bricks to toys absolutely anything. We will package them accordingly and find them a destination this christmas. You can nominate charities that you have in mind to receive these donations. Please give with your hearts Christmas is just around the corner and remember is anything and everything.

Thank You

Mike Maphoto
Charity@diaryofazulugirl.co.za

232 thoughts on “MOAYW – Chapter Six

  1. thank you Mikey for yet a gud read and da time u take off from your life to feed us with knowledge…. i still say, for a guy u know too much about girls

  2. This sound like its going to be one of my best of your writing………close to home most marriages n relationships are going through this thanks mike!!!

    *top ten I guess *

  3. Nice one Mikey, thank you. Can we please continue with the next series of Thandeka? Mikey, we are suffering from serious withdrawals here. As much as we are enjoying these two diaries, they are a far cry from ZuluGirl. Please put us out of our collective misery and continue with Zulu girl. Thank you again for a nice chapter.

  4. I think this top top thing is starting to be annoying people don’t read they comment first and read later hence all they say is *im number one yeppppy * cause they have nothing to say concerning the chapter.

  5. In all relationships r different n I bet both parties shud atleast want it to work. But if its only one person always holding the fort, its all but a sham. I believe opportunities always present themselves to both men n women. However, if we miss de picture of why we married. Den those opportunities will break tht marriage.

  6. Being married young nd temptations r all over d place,seriously I do feel like we as young married ladies we r being tested how faithful can we b 2 our other half,Q&A 2 Lebo I dnt think it cheating whn u fantasies with other man

  7. tnx Ta Mike…esh now we have to wait for Monday…and as for Lebogang ur heading for trouble my dear I am not judging u but y do u masturbate wen u have a man to help u, ane dats another bonus of being married uri wen u want it u get it now even if its 12 midnight…well as for the guy at work u need to practice positive thinking cos its all in your head..u can tell your mind toSTOP thinking dirty things…well sis stop playing with your married and focus on your man and only him…de way u want this guy one day u might end up sleeping with him and dat will be de end of your marriage….ok let me ask u , if yo man tell u dat there is dis girl at work who drives me crazy . are u gonna be happy with him? … u know de answer. if ur a Christian u need prayers u have to pray bcos de devil is targeting your marriage thru u and dnt allow him…

  8. Thank you Mike for a good read, I sure miss Thandeka too hey, hope part 2 is coming soon so we can really findout what happened after.

  9. Mike please give us more action. You are starting to write a looooooong unnecessary story and give us only 2 lines of action and that’s so boring. We want action man! Come on!

    1. actually yes Mike there are hardly any events that have happened and we on chapter 6, i hate to admit but it really gets boring. all we get is just thoughts 6 chapters in…. non the less great read, awesome work

  10. Eish Mfundo…makes difficult 2 resist temptation really
    Lebza its not cheating ur jst fantasising about da,ur panties ar nt on da floor wit ur legs wide open 4 him 2 enter u and hit da g-spot,its a healthy infatuation,ur nt doing anythng about it…think of him as an actor frm tv that u cn hav crazy dreams about bt u knw very well the chances of u 2 evr getting it on ar 1 in a million… Dnt lead him on act normal around da guy no 1 will notice,ur jst admiring a fine brother dats all!

  11. Its weird how when a woman speaks about why she cheats or cheated all other women accuse her of justifying cheating. Not one sits down to look at the contributing factors that led you from saying I do to your husband to saying yes please to another man. Men don’t need a reason, as long as it has boobs and opens its legs its fair game! That’s usually true. With us, instead of advising you all they are good at is bashing you for trying to get a bit of freedom back into your life. Women hate other women in such a way that even if they see your reason as long as you have breast like them you are some sort of witch which must be vilified. The very same women towards their divorce will cheat on their man and say “just wanted him to get a taste of his own medicine and I really enjoyed it!” Double standards to say the least because your girlfriends will justify it with you as they now have a collective hatred for your soon to be ex husband. That’s the only time other women stand with you, to celebrate and cheer on your soon to be dead marriage. We love downfalls more than anything else when it comes to other women. I am not being cynical. If a girl fixes her hair better than how you did yours, yes you will compliment her but tell yourself it will probably look better on you. This therefore means when it comes to cheating usually you have no one to ask or dissuade you without fear of being judged and gossiped about by your confidante. It would be nice to ask another cheating wife how the hell they got into that space and how to avoid temptation. You can’t ask someone who is not married to fully understand the pressures of marriage for they have a romantic and such a childish view of what marriage is. With that said much as I loved Andiswa and all her theories on life and relationships she was out of her depth here.

    In the canteen sitting with my other colleagues for some reason the topic on everyone’s lips was cheating wives. It almost felt as though they knew what I was going through. With women when we are in a group we all hate mistresses and cheats. We are vehemently opposed to them and in discussions we wish such women the worst. Advaita spoke the most. She was an Indian woman from Ixopo who was usually very vocal about such things. She was not your typical sari clad indian but more of these modern ones and dated white guys as well. It was very interesting hearing her views because stereotypically you would expect her to hid behind culture and traditions. However she was more of the view that whilst divorce was a means of last resort if he cheats first time you forgive him, second time you make him suffer for it and third time is when you consider divorce. She kept on emphasizing that once you have a family your first resort should never be to pack your bags and leave. It’s so weird because I would expect to hear that from the black girls. They were of the opinion if it cheats it must walk. Is that not the view though of most of these young professionals who now because they have a degree and a car they think they know more about marriage and tradition. Through thick and thin means very little now to these new young professional for if the going gets tough dump each other and go looking for greener pastures. That’s how fickle marriage is today. Advaita had been married now for eight years and she seemed to know about the pressures of marriage. The woman had theories for days and she seemed quite open to talk about it. We all knew when her husband was in trouble because she would vent it out but what I noticed is that she never ever spoke about any other people. I knew people confided in her so that means she must be very discreet. Every office has an agony aunt I guess she was ours.

    These two long paragraphs were really not necessary. Come on! You write too much unnecessary things now.

    1. I concur 100%, i read the 1st 3 lines and skipped the whole part. I”ve noticed this trend a lot lately even towards the end of DOAZG. Writers block perhaps?

  12. @ anastacia u say dnt wanna judge bt u alrdy ar,so fantasising about anthr man and masturbation suddenly doesn’t make her a Christian really?she isn’t doing anythng wrong its natural…stop judging the poor woman yerr

    1. Yaz Karabo I think most of married women fantasize about other man rather than their husbands, our husbands ‘forgets’ to tell us how beautiful we look and yet the guy from the office tells you everyday how good you look. Mike must do a statistic of married woman who fantasize about other men and I bet 80% of them do that!

  13. The first paragraph was Lebo justifying once again her cheating on her husband… ufuna i-adrenaline rush? go bunjy jumping at Moses Mabida stadium. And if you want to cheat just cheat ungabe usnika i-explanation ende apha.

  14. Interesting chapter, very very interesting….. Thanks Mikeestooo

    Q&A

    Lebo i dont wanna judge shem, i have no idea how to go about advising on this one….. it just seems wrong nje in all corners, ude umcraver lomfana lol….. 3years in nogaal! hayi kunzima kodwa gudluck sisi.

  15. Still waiting for this story to get warm, its still cold. By the way wrong knows no gender, male or female cheating is wrong period.

    Lebohang, its still a fantasy and only you can make it a reality. Its up to you really. Say you make a move and he turns out to not A, like you back or B, you get turned off then what? Think about it, is it really worth it considering you haven’t indicated that you have problems at home. I just think ufuna ukuganga nje ngestayela. If you believe in God, I suggest you start talking to him on a regular basis. Lust is deadly sin my dear, DEADLY!!!!!!!!!

  16. Q2A **Lebo my sister what you have its called *emotional cheating*! Emotionally you are attracted to somebody else and you even crave him. Be-careful that’s how its begins & the next thing you want to see him all the time.(what if he feels the same way & he is also hiding it? Emotions are very destructive & one wrong move you will be hooked! Just fight the emotions and stay away from this guy cause once u start you wont be able to stop…(I’ve been there … I know) All the Best my sister 🙂

  17. Gr8 chapter indeed tnx MIKE, Mthobisi uzohanjelwa umamasekhaya jto mara wena Mfundo wat u duin ain’t fair seriously

    LEBO I dnt thnk dats cheatin hey coz nami I do fantasise about my crush n well, my bf is like never present n he dsnt hve enough time 2 b wit me n he dsnt xpress himself bt he xpects me 2 open up n share evrythn dats happenin in my life 4 him 2 understand wat I go through, so u cnt alwayz fantasize about sme1 like dat

      1. Or even wondered if you and your bf are on the same page? If he isn`t a full package then he isn`t, it`s better off to spare each other the pain of a heartache sooner by calling it off than to opt to cheat and be nursing your conscience for the next donkey years, trying to justify why you had to do it….

  18. Iam not married nor an expert when coming to marriage but what I know is that sooner or later you gonna act on those feelings you say you love your husband if that’s the case what are you doing lusting over another man?? STOP it its not worth it

  19. Lebo my dear, that is cheating unless you husband knows about. I always say, if you do something you do not want your partner to know about, then my friend that is cheating. i dont think theres anything wrong with masturbating,

  20. I agree with one of de ppl commented here Action plz not dis long long history dats not taking us anywhere and another think Diary of a Zulugal is on pose na? U are writing 2 many books now and can’t keep up da pace please finish Thandekas story before we 4get wat happened in da previous charpters U are doing a gr8 job but no finish wat u started den proceed 2 another

  21. Ana I support you on that note.I don’t understand why this society can justify thinking of a another man lustfully.if you find yourself “craving” for that man just remember he too is someone else’s child and possibly someone’s future wife. You wouldn’t want another woman to think dirty things involving your husband that you truly love angiti!!!

  22. Ana I support you on that note.I don’t understand why this society can justify thinking of a another man lustfully.if you find yourself “craving” for that man just remember he too is someone else’s child and possibly someone’s future husband. You wouldn’t want another woman to think dirty things involving your husband that you truly love angiti!!!

  23. This is waaay too common Mike. Thandeka needs to come back… Seriously. The excitement of reading your blog is slowly dying out

  24. Hi Mike

    Great work loving this book.

    Not married but I’m starting to see that it needs a person to be very mature when taking that step.

    Looking forward to reading more 🙂

  25. thank you mike !! i am goiung to enjoy this MOAYW,,,, cos i know the feeling to well,,,when you are married and your husband is nowhere to be found and another man seems to be there for you,,,, life is not always fair when you decide to settle down and the other party still wants to party

  26. To Lebo, in dis world its nt cheating at all, bt if u r more spiritual. Den u need a prayer bcz de bible says by looking @ de other man(in dis case women) in a lastfull way, den u hv already committed a sin

  27. I truly relate to this blog… iv been dating a guy for three years now and I recently moved to another province because of work and he was fine with it until there came a point where I wasn’t coming home as often as I had promised and not chatting to him often cause I am either to busy at work or too tired to even concentrate in the chats…recently we’ve been fighting a lot and as much as I love my man I can help but just wanna give up on the relationship because he refuses to even to even come down to visit me which makes me wonder if his waiting for me to end things or things are already over without me knowing.

  28. Real I don’t get why other people get the right to judge others.for one if u are not married u have no right to judge the next person cause u hv no experience in that situation all u do is to advice on something u think it is only to find its a fantasy in ur head.
    Lebo im a young wife who have been married for 6 yrs , I love my husband and family with all of my heart. Our sex life is okey. How ever I still mastrubate with my vibrator and im guilty as u are cause I fantasies with another man , But I hv never cheated with another man and not planning to.So my advice to u is that its okey to fantasies but don’t turn it to realty cause u will regret the whole thing.and the thrill will no longer be there.and u will spoil ur fun and ur little secret.

  29. @ Tshokodiso think you are stupid bro to even copy dat long paragraph it means u not sharp upstairs.

    @Lebogang girl pray abt and fight it, cos u human temptation will always be there but its all abt how u get to tackle it. Even ur hubby he does get tempted out there.

    Mike keep up bro

  30. Lebo im not judging u but u r cheating cus in ur mind u have already slept wth him, dey say sin starts ka mahlo. You must not defile bed ya mshato

  31. Mike i love your work but i think this book needs improvement, like the other reader mentioned above some of the paragraphs are really unnecessary and as a reader(speaking for myself) im more interested in the actions of the people in the story..yeah maybe a short paragraph of anlysis and your theories on marriage.As a loyal reader when i compare this to the action in Diary of a zulu girl , this book is lacking,, come on mike.. we need more action from these characters..i know you can deliver.. Thanx for the great blog!

  32. thanks for the great chapter mike

    nothing wrong with mastubating or fantasising about someone else as long as ur not gona follow thru with it, u cnt be fantasising about ur man all the time u get bored, lots of factors can contribute to a woman cheating and plz guys lets not judge cz u have never walked in this person’s shoes, the worst kind of loneliness is feeling lonely while ur in a relationship. better to be single then being neglected by ur partner

  33. masturbating is not cheating
    Enving some1 else is cheating cause you create an emotional video of the two doing it all even him entering you the pleasure and all until you come. Its plain cheating sisi. Drop it before you find yourself in deeper trouble.

  34. Thank u Mike!I hope u’ll revisit Thandeka’s story again. Miss her. For those who think they hav the right to criticize Mike, u know no1 is holding a gun to ur heads to read this akere? If u can do better, kwalang ya lona blog! This is his style!

  35. Hi Mike, cant say i enjoyed this chpt, felt like you used all the paragraphs besides the last 1 trying to justifying sumthing nje. Please mike we want to get the story and the juicy details im not even looking forwad to the next 1 to b honest.

  36. Hi Mike, iyooo u hv no idea how much i am enjoying this new book..damn! U hv hit it on the nail, i am saying this because i can relate very well with it. Its funny how ur books really talks to me#SMILES# first it was DOAZG and now MOAYW..WOW. Few years ago i experienced what Thandeka was experiencing, being a new girl in Jozi coming all the way from Mafikeng and doing things that i wouldnt do when i was still at home. I then grew up and ended up getting married and now i am experiencing what Lesedi is going through in a marriage.

    Its true marriage is very difficult as we always hear people tell us, we tend to think OH PLS THEY ARE JUST JEALOUS AND THEY DNT KNW WHAT THEY TOKIN ABT, well i have been married for two years and already i feel like I CANT BREATH..iyooo ya no di a boa! I am not trying to scare or discourage those who are nt married bt wat i am saying is that your story is so true and its on point abt whats going on in many marriages.

    As for Lebogang, dear i understand what you are tokin abt so much and i wont even judge u. I just want to advice you nt to make a mistake of having an affair because you will regret it later. It doesnt matter whether mayb u have been cheated on before or not i just dnt believe in Cheating period!

  37. hmmmmmmm , much as i am a fan I have to agree with Tshokodiso, you are going in way too deep in the mind of the woman and there is a bit too much explination etc etc , this is not to say we dont like the book just dont overkill the whole backround or explination .

    Still love your books though and appreciate your talent 100%

  38. Just what I needed,to read about a book that tlks about relationships,dankie Mike u r da best! :)…cnt w8 to read more*jumping4joy*

  39. The ladies are right, we need more of the story less of the descriptions and in depth thoughts blah blah blah… It’s a great story line though. We miss DOAZ:( and to the lady with the fantasies. You’re young yes, sometimes you need to masturbate… understood but when you encourage fantasizing about other people especially other than your husband, you’re only setting yourself up for a disaster. The mind is a powerful tool, learn to control it

  40. To Lebo: there’s absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating my darling. It’s perfectly fine. I masturbate infront of my husband sometimes. You are human, so you’re bound to fantasize about another man or two. Just don’t act on it. If this goes on for too long though you need to figure out what it is that is lacking in your bedroom that makes your mind wonder to another man. You’re on dangerous ground though so be careful. Communication is the key to any relationship. I’ve been married for 4 years and I do fantasize about a hot guy that I see on the street, but as soon as he’s out of sight, I forget about him.

    People please don’t make yourselves seem holier than though by judging this woman. How many things does the Bible says should not be done that you do??? So called ‘Christians’ are so unlike Christ, they are too judgemental!

  41. Great work Mike. Im gng to university next year and i alrdy feel lyk ive been der (DOZAG), sum of Thandekas experiences r so0o similar to th0se of my frnds hu alrdy r in university. As for (CONFESSIONS), haha, parts dat st0ry z jus a descripti0n of sooo many girls i pers0nally knw, me included. And as 4 MISSTEPS, wow. I, like many other of my peers want to get married, preferably btwn wen i get to da age of 25-27, so im learning ALOT, frm the book. And the constructive comments also teach alot. THANK YOU MIKE. You are talented.

    To the ‘knw it alls’ If u guys go0o0o waaaay back to the first few chapters of DOAZG u wl c dat Mike was stl describing ama character dat we knew so0o muj abt as tym went by. Dnt critisize, he hsnt evn reached chapter 10 of MISSTEPS SO let da nigga introduce hs characters b4 he g0es in deep.

    This style of writng is what has grabbed so many of us into bng ADICTED ds bl0g, n nw u ppl tnk ul r so cleva n cn tel hm wat to do. Ths is a BOOK,, if u cleva ppl knw anytn abt st0rywritn ul wl knw dat descripti0n n goin into detail hlps da reader b able to c the character in their imaginati0n. IM SO0O INFURIATED BY UR C0MPLAINTS, FUCK OFF IF U HAVE N0THNG GOOD TO SAY.
    This bl0g is written for READERS, nd n0t BOOK CRITICS.

  42. I’m just sad that most plp r just being judgemental about the whole Lebogang story.these r things that are happening in our society and everwhere else
    and I think its important to give her solutions rather than judging her.I’m nt married and I wish 2 b married someday and I do believe that in marriege plp
    Do fall in and out of love now and then and Lebo if that’s the case u need 2 figure out a way 2 get bak 2 ur husband.maybe spend more time together and do things
    That would make both of u feel attracted 2 each other again coz as much as one can love a person they can feel unattracted 2 the person.
    If you go and act on he crush you have 4 the guy @ work,think of what that might d to ur marriege.
    Most black women want 2 act all holly and pretend like they don’t go through these things but they do.the important thing is ,is there a way 2 stop this from happening?
    Just bcoz it hasn’t happened 2 u yet doesn’t mean it won’t happen,it might find urself in the same boat.
    Anyway Lebo I hope u wake 2morrow and feel nothing 4 this work guy.

  43. The comments..lol.
    Wonderful work, Mike. I think this story is moving too slow hey *missing Thandeka*.
    A2Q: I think it doesn’t hurt to fantasize, so long as it remains as just that. You will get over it, but it definetely helps boost your libido to fantasize coz I dont think your husband (or the thought of him) arouses you. Also, you may need to talk to him (your husband) about ways he can better satisfy you, I think that’s the root of your problem.

  44. Yah neh everyone gets tempted n its only natural even for women to b in dat situation. The only issue is wen u can’t resist n stay true mostly urself n ur partner.

  45. May I address dis all who say I’m not judging bt still judge. dat it natural to fantisize abt sum1 bt really don’t want to do him. Hw many man in movies have u dreamed abt bt u still love n want to stay with ur slambani. Dnt u think u r making urselfs bo miss too gud shoes js bcz we dnt knw wat goes thru ur minds js bcz u r only thinking dat ppl will judge u harsly. Let us wake up n smell de coffee,wat lebo is goin thru dnt get it twisted it is absolutely nature n it won’t stop js bcz wena u think u beta dan anybody else who goes thru dis. I’m not married bt der r dos guys dat u meet n say damn dis guy is sexy! Ke lame leo.

    LET DE FIRST ONE WHO DOESN’T SIN THROW DE FIRST STONE!!!!

  46. @Gqim hi 5 to you! @ Lebo what you’re going through does happen, you’re human after all. I guess when you’re married you fall into some kind of routine, that sometimes you feel you need some sort of distraction. Talk to your hubby, try to spice things up, remind yourselves why you fell in love, have a HOT love affair with your man! As for the guy at work try to steer clear of him. Goodluck to you mama!

  47. Thanks mike but your writing is having less action and too much explanation than before soo please try to keep it real and original. Sis Lebu to you I’ve some few words to say and advice. First of all I’m tired of hearing people commenting about the negativity of your challenge and again blame the evil spirit instead of being honest and human. I for one I can relate to what you are going though and sisi its just the beggining of many to came and it always happen to most young married woman. When they say for better and worse this is what worse mean but it does not mean you do not love your husband and you are being unfaithful but it is meant for you to master the steps of maturity and self respect. I’m a christian who beleives in being faithful to your husband and sometimes I do get temptation about other mens but God had showed me the only way not to fall is to look at the end results as to how many people will be affected if I fall for them and me how would I fell afterwards. I even picture the sight of my husband’sad and disappointed face if I do fall then I ask myself is it worth it? Soo sisi the first step you need to take is that you must be honest and face your shortfalls, don’t pretand as if they are not the but find a space where you can work on them. Lastly remember if you do sleep with that guy at your work place then you must prepare a line of all the other males you work with because they will shorly find out as you know that men like to glout and at the end even him he will won’t respect you.

  48. To Lebo: your fantasies would be ok and harmless if it was some random guy on TV which you’ll probably never get to meet in this lifetime (Johnny Gill *wink*wink), but if it’s somebody you work with it’s too close cc – it’s dangerous. Firstly pray that this temptation and the fantasies go away – 2. Avoid seeing him as much as possible – 3. If you have to talk to him, it must be strictly business, brief and to the point – NO SMALL TALKS, pls.
    Lastly don’t feel bad about it, it happens to the best of us, and it’s not all the fantasies and crushes that a person should act on. At high school, I had fantasies about my male teachers very often, it just shows that you are human.

  49. As much of a firm believer as I am in true love and as much as I’d like to think that the perfect kind of love still exists ai cha!!! This book is pilling me with doubt!!!:-(…I know its fiction and all but I hear way too many ppl go on about how bad marriages are GOSH! BUT I GUEESS IF I CAN BELIEVE IN GOD WHOM IVE NEVER MET, THEN I CAN BELIEVE IN THE EXISTANCE OF TRUE LOVE…

    A: Its not cheating if you don’t act upon your fantasies

  50. Mike, this is a nice bloig for married women….so this ppl who are busy saying this is boring compared to Thandeka…they must sit down and take a chill pill becoz rona we enjoy it! They must not comment pls..always comparing this to doazg..yeses they are boring hle…better not read at all and wait for part 2.

  51. @TSHOKODISO shem person WASOKODISA for sure…tell me how much you paying Mike to give you action again????
    Swallow a chill pill and take a nap bra…some of us apreciate the long story coz for normal ppl there’s lessons to be learnt there!!! Maybe the book is too big for you!!! START YOUR SHORT STORY, ACTION FILLED BOOK PLS

  52. I jst heard abwt ths blog frm my cuzin n am so hooked y didn’t she tell me sooner bcoz nw its 3am n I hvnt slept. M in chpter 24 kule ka Thandeka n both these ladyz yoh bantu

  53. I wonder where you get the motivation to write such realities and give to the people as it is…. But hey Mike thanx for the good stories that you are telling us. As young as I am I need to hear such things to prepare myself for the worst things that I might encounter in life, can’t wait for the next chapter

  54. This childish behavior is really getting out of hand….very annoying I must say,no one here has ever entered the sabc building to complain about any last episode of their favorite drama but now you feel you’re able to judge Micheal,”YAR’LL CAN FUCK OFF”letlwaela batho man!!!#pissed….

  55. Hi Mike

    I hope part two of DOAZG will be coming soon. This new story is not doing it for me at all. Im experiencing withdrawal symptoms badly. Plis plis plis.

  56. This blog I lyk it. I think its going to give me 1 or 2 tips abt my marriage as I’m going through taugh times. It been 2yrs bt tjo I think I had enough drama already.I think abt going bck home. My hubby is no longer that man I felt in love with years before. I jst mic the old him. I don’t know what to do now.Really marriage is not an easy thing.

  57. M amazed @ how ppl r always competing @ being 1st 2 comment,,really isn’t there anythin 2 look 4ward 2 than being 1st or last,,,#dissaponted

  58. Yooooh guys could you just stop with your childish behaviors that I’m number one to comment so what haai man tjrrrrrrr!!!!!

  59. Guys this not like on tv where you can see everything. Here Mike has to use words to paint a picture for us and that’s why he has move between active and narrative. It is important to note that what goes on inside the mind of a cheating wife is also part of the action/story line. What I’m begging from Mike is to bring the Zulu girl back to life. How? I don’t know but she has to be alive in a coma in some hospital and coming back. There has to be one girl at least from Mooi River who does go back home in a coffin. One at least

  60. Only those who can relate to this book are enjoying these chapters….just as much as the younger generation was enjoying Thandeka Mkhize`s dramatic life. keep up the good work Mike, there`s a lesson there

  61. Good read Mike

    The husban is cheating n I know 4 a fact dat most man r good @ hiding such thing. #bathulelaIsiqoko#

    I think He started cheating da day he lost paying attention 2 her, his interested in sum1 else. If he hadn’t started neglecting her mayb she wouldn’t b cheating wit Mfundo n sister gal I dnt blame u 4 cheating on ur hubby even if he isn’t cheating on u. The fact dat his neglecting ur women, I jst pushing her 2 ada mans arm

  62. Thx Mike.@ Lebo, my dear thanx for asking this q, I always thot thr ws sumthing wrong with me so I guess I’m jst human. Been married for 5yrs n temptations gets worse every yr, somehow I believe it’s a phase and eventually we will gt over it jst as long as we dn’t act on the fantacies and all those crazy things. Be strong sister.

  63. As for the mastubating part, I never thot I’ll ever do it I always thot it ws nusty n shameful bt ya life is life. Now I do it and I am not hurting anyone jst giving myself pleasure and no risk involved.

  64. @Nqobi FUCK YOU. Stupid bustard! I’ve got the right to express my feelings. Whether or not I’m paying the writer. I was not talking to you, but Mike. So you were not going to be killed by anyone if you would have shut up. Bloody fool!! I don’t know you and you don’t know me either. No one including yourself will dictate to me what should I write on this blog. Bloody Agent!

  65. Tshokodiso please relax. Don’t mind what Nqobi is saying. We are all subject to our own opinions and some people understand that better than others. Lekker Read Mike* though I’m still shocked and flabbergasted at the abrupt end of Thandeka’s diary.

  66. Mike my love.. Thanx 4 the read ey ur tallented baby I like the fact that u hv n idea women n wat they think.. Unlike the book I read n it had 100 blank pages now this is dope # as to the commets *dead* yoooo haaaai mike its a sugestion boo I think you should stop this comment post thing on ur chapters or you can read them b4 u publish so u can illiminate comments with insults in em on a serious not # otherwise big up to love

  67. Ppl u mst kno dat 1can’t pls every1. So if u can’t relate, bettr nt read @al coz nw u killing Mikes spirit with ur -ive comments &many ppl benefit from these blogs so don b selfish &want him 2serve u only. Nt every1 lyks action ppl so pls spare us. It jst goes 2show dat u r stl yung &can learn a lot from dis blog coz clearly u r nt married as no married person reading dis book can comment da way u do. So do us al a favour &w8 4Mike 2do his thing, no1’s stoping u from starting ur own if dis rily duzen interest u. Big up Mike, oh &by da way I am a yung wyf myself &I’v jst resently found my self enjoyin porn videos of which 6mnths ago I cudnt even stomach da thot of my husband watching dem, let alone makin me watch dem with him. I guess dats da norm 4yung maried couples nowadays, jst glad I’m nt da only1 feeling dis way. Bt men pls stop negleting us, we also hav nids u kno.

    1. Totally agree with u Miss T , ppl are being selfish jst bcz u dnt relate dsnt mean the book is bad, not everything is about action, ds story talks about what young married woman go thru each day and cnt talk to anyone for the fear of being judged. if u want action go watch Rambo

  68. We r nt leaving a fairytale lifestyle. What Mike iz writing and expressing iz true n happening. I do ask or speak 2 my self when there iz temptation. Mike this MOAYMW is gonna be interesting. For those who hasn’t experience wt this Young Wife iz going tru, yes they might be bored. I beg u Mike, plz plz plz next chapter, u r building a nation here. I am learning a lot as a young wife. Plz plz plz,,, Mr Maphoto Chapter 7 dnt be discouraged wit hursh comments, for a person who doesn’t lyk MOAYMW or who post negative or vulger please block that person. I think u shld start screening comments. If u dnt enjoy dis one, no one iz forcing to read. Read DOAZG only. For me I’m yo 100 per cent support, anything u right Mike, I wl suport u my brotha. I’m a Zulu Girl from KZN, thumbs up Mike, u brilliant

  69. Plz mike give us the next chapter, ds book really relates to me, as i am engaged to be married and already experiencing what ds lady is going thru, plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

  70. # Testing Testing. .?? Wana see if the site is still functioning, been waiting eagerly for the next few chapters… Was starting to think that maybe the problem lies with me… Haha I enjoy reading ur blog very much, hope to hear from you soon, and more often.. Lol :p

  71. allow me to utilize my freedom of speech… Gosh people this is a different book, what’s so hard to understand about that, I feel like am surrounded by typical south Africans who clearly paid for the their matric certificate and im not talking about the fees but bribe!… I am annoyed by most of your comments, and please don’t tell me to stop reading them if that’s the case but Please keep thandeka’s stories out of this one hau, some of us haven’t finished reading that book and to be informed by you “mini-mike-wanna-be”s as to what the ending is like SUCKs….
    and once more everyone is entitled to the own rational judgement HENCE the ‘comment block’ for all not for only those with positive feedback, Nonetheless I love this one too. cant wait for more of MOAYM
    good job

  72. can ppl stop compairing “A DIARY OF A ZULU GIRL” , “CONFESSIONS OF A SUGAR BABY” n “MISSTEPS OF A YOUNG WIFE”………cnt ppl undastnd dat all 3 books hav samthng diffrnt 2 teach, share n show….its nt fair comparing, bcs we gvin our writer wat we call a writers block, as he s trying harder n by all means 2 myk de oda 2 books as gud as de Diary….plz lets stop dis…..n cn we plz stop wit de nasty or judgemental comments n watsup wit “yay i’m no1 2day”?….mxm xame….. as 4 Lebo, no sista u nt cheating, u jst gvin urslf wt ur husband cnt giv u…..bt u shud @lst try 2 tok 2 him n make him aware dat his nt satisfying u…xap

  73. these characters are going through exactly what i am going through with my husband….i really cant wait for the next chapter! give a bit of action…its been a while since we had a steamy passinate sex scene boh weMike!!! give it to us plzzzzzz.

  74. Hao mara Mike, kanthe what is happening with misteps. I know sm people might not like it coz they can’t relate. But what about us who love it nd cn relate to it. Please start posting, it’s been really long…..

  75. More chapters please on this blog bra Mike & tanx for bringing Thandeka back…I know the pressure will build up with having to update all 3.

  76. Bathong Mike!!!!The last time you posted for MOAYW was on da 25 October!!!do sumthing please!!!I can’t deal! Please…pretty please consider this a complaint…asseblief…ke di 05 tsa Novemver 2tay!!!Ps Happy Gaifoks!!!*hiding face*

  77. Can I ask you why are all my comments not posted, always waiting for Moderation and the next thing they disappear ? Even if u r not gonna post this one , just reply & make me understand.i think conments that must be moderated & not shown are those that are ‘I’m 1st to comment’ ….I won’t ask ke uba when are you posting , I’ll wait for the reply to my 1st question then ndibuye ngayo.

  78. Hau Mike and then?!? I’v been checkin optimistic to find d latest post but nothing, this is killing me. I even wonder if this book still exists.Does it? 🙁

  79. Hawu kodwa Mike, kunini ngibheka ngi-checker ukuthi usuqhubekile yini ne-Miss Steps of a young wife kodwa doh, kuthulekile nje.#crying. Hawu kodwa ungayenza kanjani into enjena? Please carry on with the story it is getting interesting

  80. mike I love your books… but to be honest with you, I had to browse through all the 6 chapters of this book because you writing too much unnecessary history/flashbacks… I had to look for the real action lol. I love the story line though but inbetween your story it gets too boring!! thanks though for these amazing books!! let me get back to work now 🙂

  81. Mike please, pretty please can we hv a chapter or atleast 2 chapters of misteps, m begging u. It’s been 2 long xem…asseblief, I understand it’s 2 much of a workload, bt hey pls jst try.

  82. I have been waiting for the next chapter for the longest!!!! I started readin ur blog 3 wiks ago-it took me a week to catch up with all the books and I can proudly say I’m a die hard fan and I’m hooked!!

    On that note, I wna say all three books communicate to a different audience and if you can’t realate to one then its not for u, so stop readin n stick to the one that speaks to u!! I for one ke di rata tshotlhe-COASB cracks me up n scares me at the same tym,Thandeka ene her life is a circus, and MOAYW is interesting to me as a young wife!! Sooooo please bring it bak. N to the people who say there s too much narration, thy clearly aren’t readers because every book has a foundation to give the feel of the book! Gape we are not even at chapter 10 so can u people give mike a break so his creative juices can flow

    A to Q: there s nothin rong wt fantasies-bt my advice wud b that u channel all that energy into ur husband. I’m a newlywed bt we dated 10yrs, and my university years were tough bcos it ws long distance…so I knw wat u r talkin about-wateva u do dnt act on those feelins, its nt worthit n will only bring u pain n misery!! As for mastubating-do it infront Of ur hubby,spice thngs up!! You wil b surprised at how great it wil b for both of u….cheers and gud luck

  83. Mike,if you are reading this,please think back from the day you posted your first chapter of MOAYW,what was your intention? To write six chapters n leave us hanging? I guess not,please stick to your plan,don’t let comments direct you.or @least post and let us know if you will continue or not,just so we can stop checking,the suspense is killing me. we love your work,it be DOAZG,confessions,anything! Just dont punish all of us for other peoples negativity. ndikhoto humbela

  84. Leko, have u forgotten about this book, koze kuphele inyanga ungaphumile u next chapter….hope u r still alive en buys with it or Thandeka, part2

  85. Hawu Mikey I’m patiently waiting for you 2 continue with MOAYW. Please toe I miss it and I really enjoy reading your work. You are really talented.

  86. Mike your loyal fans have been crying out for you to post the next chapter. Atleast reply to just one comment via admin and state whether the book has been canned. Come on bra Mike, people are loyal here and the comments say it all. The are negatives with everything inlife. Not everybody likes coca cola, yet they are the biggest brand worldwide.

  87. Hau wen r we getting a new charpter its been long enough!!!!!!!!!!

  88. Hi Mike. I do not know what made you to stop doing what you do best, but please come back. You are creative and a great and dont let people spoil what you do best!

    I am enjoying all your diaries ( Diary of a zulu girl, confessions of a sugar baby,and Missteps of a young wife),they are informative and makes one to learn one or two things about life.

    I will keep on checking!

  89. My Plea

    A lot of people have been asking why I stopped Missteps. Its a difficult story to write if I don’t have wives in “situations” not sharing their stories with me. I do not write fiction because it bores you and me both and all my story-lines are authentic. Please WIVES come share with me all the drama that takes place in marriage. Mike@diaryofazulugirl.co.za 0835905147 whatsapp or 2931DC39

    Thank You

    Mike

  90. Mike,y did u discontinue this book,its like making love when you r about to climax then your partner decides to pull out his toy and leaves u hanging.Re-think yo decision asseblief tog Ouboet

  91. Hau hle mike plz update this blog too. We’ve been waiting plz. I understnd you have two other blogs but atleast updte this one on weeknds…great job by the way

  92. Hi Mike, I’ve been waiting for Chapter Seven. When can we expect it? It’s been too long already and I’m dying of curiosity, can’t wait to find out what happens next.

  93. Hi Mike think this Diary should have been aunty Lydia’s persepective. What drove her to cheat on Malume uRodney, then all 3 Diaries would tie up. Women don’t cheat out of boredom, we cheat after we’ve had enough and can nolonger handle his own infidelity. I’ve cheated before, I’m not proud of it but I needed to hurt him as much ad he’d hurt me. For us women cheating is also a different ball game, as we can keep a secret. We can easily allow a man to raise another mans kid and take that *ish to the grave..

  94. I like how Mike narrates his stories…it always puts a visual picture of what’s happening in your mind. As for those who have a problem with his writing syle, they can start their own blogs too. Oh but we need another chapter now, its been too long. Hit me with another doze puleeez!

  95. Hi Mike, i really love the storyline and your opinion piece inside the story. i’ve been married 7 years and i’m 30 years old. personally i think the target readers are not connecting with the story because it does not narrate their day to day challenges. i would advise carrying on with the DOAZG – Thandeka’s story and open another blog-website for the marriage story. Reading this story i could connect with every part of it and to me it made sense but to an unmarried youngster its out of depth.

    Lebogang girl, u are very normal, almost all women masturbate and have fantasies about other men and girl so do i, live your life be free just remember every action has a direct consequence, i’ve cheated a couple of times and i had fun until he found out and cheated on me too. My other punishment was i fell in love with a married man whom i cheated with and i can’t even have him. it’s a mess lovey but as for fantasising do what keeps you alive and happy- its your life sweety.

  96. bro mike siyacela plz 1 more chapter. Just 1 more! Dont listen to the negativities. Some people dont know how to separate situations, that’s not our problem. Write as many books as you can!

  97. Mr Mike come on… pls give us more chapters of MOAYW ive been checking this page for I don’t know how long… am married and 27 years of age… I can relate soooo much to this… please I beg.. give us more.

  98. Men cheat, women cheat, FACT OF LIFE! That’s why the best advice you can take with you into any relationship is to “Leave a little room for disappointment”

  99. Mike your books are addictive, I love them all but I refuse to read the new one coz you might drop us again. I really enjoyed MOAYN, why did you stop writing, with Confessions too? I know you have a life outside this but please don’t leave us hanging @least explain yourself, you owe us that much!

  100. yoooo mike your books rocks and teach a lot man ,where do you get the inspiration.i just love all your books man ….mmmmm cant stop reading

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