Chapter Seventy Seven

Above all else family by definition should love you and you love them back unconditionally. No matter how beautiful, successful, ugly or a screw up you might be, family should be your one sanctuary. They should always have your back. With that said, black families for all the myths we hear about ubuntu do not operate on that doctrine. What? Never! In every family there is drama. No matter what there is drama! It is never the kids either, it is the parents! I don’t know where its written that when parents reach their forties they should start accusing all the bad luck in their houses on relatives especially. All of a sudden all the good Christian folk start believing someone is bewitching them and it is almost always a relative. You have to ask yourself though, if they are so hundred percent Christian, which many profess to be and wear uniforms for at that, who told them that their cousin is a witch because I doubt their Methodist pastor freelances as a sangoma too Monday to Saturday for extra money. Being a pastor doesn’t pay much nowadays neh! Look at your parents when they go a close relatives funeral, if someone as much as looks at them funny, they will come home and discuss about it forgetting that you the kids are old enough to understand everything. You reach a stage where there are some cousins you are not allowed to accept food from because they will bewitch you. That’s a black family. For my aunts sister however to have done this she had crossed the line! This was her sister’s secret she had just exposed and it could ruin her in so many ways. This was bad. I felt sorry for my aunt. With all that had been happening at times it really is hard to figure out who the victim is!

I wanted to shift my focus though to the task at hand. Today I was cooking. I am not a bad cook in African terms but as I had never done Home Economics at school my range was quite limited. On the traditional black people food stuffs I could hold my own. My dad though not overly rural loved to keep up with his traditional food. We used to go to the villages once a month to suffer the indignity of long drops and weird waking up hours until my mother started bringing books to mark at home. Personally I think that was her way of protesting for it is a bit hectic when you are the makoti for in the villages your in-laws make you work. My father had even built his own house there, nothing fancy but clearly we went there often enough if he had to have his own house there. People who think Shaka is dead must come to my house to meet him in the flesh! We kneel to give him his food, my mom does not eat before my father arrives and at seven o clock the gate is locked! At least they don’t share one plate like at Nomaxhosa’s house. I think being Zulu is an acquired taste to be honest, there are so many traditions to navigate and they almost all clash with the modern way of life!

I went to buy my ingredients. My parents had a funeral to attend. A teacher from another school had passed on. We hardly ever have weddings here, funeral are the order of the day. It got me a chance to think through what my aunt had said. I don’t think renewing vows in a bad marriage can fix a marriage just like having a baby to fix a bad relationship. I know they loved each other regardless of each other’s faults but in all honesty too much damage had already been dead. If my own mother would come to my father and say I was not his child he would break her neck. Its not because he is Zulu but imagine raising a child all these years on a lie. How does one recover from that? Why would Malume even agree to such an atrocious ultimatum from a possibly illegitimate child? I felt for him though! With the little family law I know though, to rub it in, even if malume divorced my aunt now knowing the truth, he will still have to pay maintenance! Yeah, I know you people think Thandeka is not learning anything from Wits… Bam!!!

This meat takes hours to cook. My parents arrived as I finished cooking though which is no mean feat for it was almost 6hours later. You could see the glee in my father’s eyes when he discovered what I had made. He was now calling me Thandie, or mntwanami. I was winning. Small things make the biggest difference in how people treat each other. When I dished for him my mother just shook her head but didn’t say anything. She knew I was playing her husband and found it hilarious. She threatened to make me cook all the time because clearly I could! Chance! When he finished eating I went and sat next to him and pretended to watch TV. He asked me if staying in Johannesburg really meant so much to me I had even cooked. At least he found it amusing. I told him yes it did but I had cooked because I had not forgotten who I was and that I was his daughter first. Men love hearing that shit! The fact that they own you and you are totally dependent on them, worship them and stroke their diva egos just make them feel like demigods. If you are opinionated you are considered unruly and ill mannered. In their eyes we can hardly think for ourselves without their input. He told me that he had changed his mind but I was still under probation. Any funny business he heard of in Johannesburg and I would skip UKZN and come home to join UNISA.

Victory was mine, I was triumphant! I had just extended my stay in Johannesburg be it with hectic promises made!

As I was celebrating in my room, doing my happy dance N called me! I had even forgotten about her hey with all that was happening. She sounded a bit panicked. She asked me if it was true that Rodney (that’s what she called him) was renewing his vows. I replied by telling her that yes my Malume (emphasized that bit) was renewing his vows with Aunt Lynda. I wanted her to hear all the words so as to not mistake me for a parrot like she had said I was. Its true, girls love each other until you make that one mistake that will make people believe we have always been mortal enemies!

She then said something so calmly and yet so vile that I changed my mind about N forever!

“Well if he does I am going to go to the police and say he raped me! I want to see if your precious aunt can forgive him from that!”

I was genuinely scared of this bitch!

****The End****

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Question: On metrofm they discussed the outrageous costs that women expect men to pay for a ring and weddings? do you think its fair that she must get everything she wants for “her big day” and the fiance must make it happen? Whats the craziest expense you have ever seen at a wedding that you considered unnecessary?


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hey friends. I received a large quantity of furniture to take to the orphanage from Polokwane to Soshanguve. I realized that this furniture can only be delivered by a truck. To hire a truck from Value Logistics we are looking at a deposit of around R6000. I know its my responsibility as I started this charity thing but please I need your help to raise it. The Event is on the 13th of July and this furniture came Tuesday. Please email me mike@diaryofazulugirl.co.za if you have a bit to spare. I will get the official quotation for you or you can do it yourself to confirm this transportation costs. Its imperative we get the furniture to Soshanguve next week.

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334 Comments

    • Kebs

      Personally i dont believe in speanding so much money on a single day. I would rather we take the money and travel the world, just the 2 of us, eish mara the families wants or should i saw demand a wedding so you see even that Big day it’s not about you. you do it to make your parents happy.

      • Tumique

        My sentiments as well. I would rather prefer that money to be saved for the couple to try and make the beginning of a new life together, than spending all that money. (Apparently, a lot of divorce happens due to financial reasons). Unfortunately, i don’t have some literature to support what I’ve just said out of the top of my head)

        How about investing the money for the kids or for a new home to accommodate a growing family (if not already have kids).

  1. naletsana

    Mara N o stout….lol.i hope this situation ya Rodney teaches all the married “sugar daddies” wanna be,a few lessons.now he could end up with charges of rape because he was fooling around with banyana.

  2. cleopatra

    Eh u N uyahlanya manje mxm stupid nyatsi njee she mst accept ukuth uMalume Rodney will never be his she chose 2 b a nyatsi nw she mst jst deal wit the consequences ayekkele ukuba yiscefe nje hawwu!

  3. Maite

    Although I wouldn’t mind a lavish wedding (if my partner can afford it lol), I wouldn’t exactly throw tantrums if he can only afford a simple one. As long as I get the BIG DAY!! He has to do this for me since I will be making his dream of being a father to football team a reality. lol

  4. nono

    nxa haibo ukudakwa kodwa kanti he pays lobola and buy evrythin n anything to please her? umsangano then he must be prepaire to be diggd for the rest of his life.

    I blv since we planning on starting a life together we shud help each other ka the BIG DAY hawu

  5. Wanda

    In Angolan weddings the groom’s tie is auctioned at the reception and it can be auctioned for thousands of rands I was at a wedding where it has been sold for R10 000 but at other weddings it is even auctioned for much more close to a million rand

  6. N is a bitch thanmdeka ur write,talking abt being desparete and naïve could she really go dis far 2break someone’s marraige, now I know y people call u nyatsi

  7. Mnxm dis gal N is 2 much n shez selfish,2 answa ur Q one of da ladies I knw she hired a Comedian in her weddn whose perfomance wz hardly 2 minutes bt she paid r5000,2 me dat wz ridiculous amount n sum ppl ddnt even knw da guy.

  8. boipelo

    thande
    ka must jst tel her aunt wat N said. Nd to answer ur Q my uncle nd aunt renewd their vows last yr sep nd they had 4 weding days, nd they bookd an entire lodge 25 ks frm home, nd d followng day hird a helicopter… Everythng at d weddng was importd

  9. Tsakani

    So cruel of N but this is reality…be careful who you hook up with… Some flings are not worth it…thank u mike

  10. lil mama

    Oho N is doff, has she forgotten that they took pics together while on holiday and didn’t she buy lingerie. Psssh evidence will work against her. To answer your question, if he has the money and is willing to spend it WHY NOT!!! Don’t do things to impress anyone , trus me , you’ll be broke after the wedding if you don’t plan carefully.plan well and save up and you’ll get your TOP BILLING wedding and communicate with your partner and make sure the day is extra special for you both. I mean it is the beginning of the rest of your lives together…

  11. Tumi

    Tjo hai N must just get her own man maan, wa tena wats up with her? does she really think that Rodley would leave his wife for her/ who does she think she is? nxa she is getting on my nerves

  12. T_lady

    Tjo! I must say I feel for Thandeka to be in the middle of all this its too much, as for N it teaches her a lesson “A married man is just trouble, he won’t leave his wife for you and if he does chances are lento ayenze kumkakhe uzoyenza nakuwe! End of story”.

    To answer your q: Nowadays man tend to feel offended if you contribute financially, I know what I want for my dream wedding but if we cannot afford it we can do just a small ceremony, either way we will still be Mr & Mrs mang mnag, and if we wanna spend a lot of money on a wedding izingcondo zethu zizobe zingasebenzi coz kusasa sizobe sisele sodwa sidla isinkwa esi dry with no butter just b’cos we wanted to impress people.

  13. sibucie

    This “N” girl is just pure evil! She should have succeeded in committing suicide, the world would slighlty be a better place without people like her. Keep up the good work Mike!

  14. thanks Mike
    A: i think we should both chip in – it is unfair to let him pay for everything and if you (both) cannot afford a big wedding then don’t do it; rather a small wedding without dept and knowing after this “big day” you’ll have a roof over your heads, food on the table and clothes on your backs.

    • Tumi

      …and you still haven’t learned anything? No matter how madly you’re in love with him he still won’t leave his wife for you. Get a grip girl, before you also turn into another ‘N’.

  15. woman la virtue

    N is fast becoming a biatch!!
    She needs to be solved the Gorilla way.

    To your question it had to be the umbrellas and chocolates that were given to attendees of the wedding

  16. Phago

    Mike in our cultur(black tat is) the money 4 lobola is used 4 wedding prepartions n if is not enuf makoti must make a plan.

  17. Sexy Lips

    Hayi suka I think its time Gorilla taught N a lesson khona ezohlukana nezinto zabantu. Yazi lengane usathane uqobo lwakhe. Thandeka nawe you need to move out and distance yourself from all this drama.

    A: for him to give me my dream wedding day shows that he will be able to take good care of my needs for the rest of our lives.

  18. i think N is evil and Thandeka should tell her Aunt and Uncle together about what N said, so that she has them working together to bring this bitch down. also Thandeka should tell both her parents about this so that her father doesn’t use UKZN to try and bring her down, at the end of the day there wont be any respect in the house if he keeps doing this….

  19. Binky

    Haibo N kodwa! Didn’t she read the nyatsi handbook?! You don’t play such games xem, I don’t get how one gets so spite. I think she needs another beat down,lol. Finally King Shaka/Mkhize got his senses back, doing the happy dance nam! Can’t wait for the next chapter!

  20. Noxy

    To answer ur Q: if my fiance can afford to make our big day special then I wouldn’t hold back but if it mean retlo sotlega after the wedding when all the guest are gone hayi shem I’ll settle for a normal wedding nje.

  21. Okay let’s not forget gore after the wedding we still have the rest of our lives to continue with,so i say spend wisely le ska tlo rotolelana matlho after lenyalo le kgamilwe ke dikoloto…well done T,å way to å man’s heart is through his stomach

  22. miss_kay

    That little biatch #N .. Who does she think she is? You are pregnant with his child and even your parents know that and thandeka is a witnesses that you were never raped..

  23. Ayanda

    Gosh! This torture when are we getting the next chapter? Your reativity is over whelming thou great staff! Keep it up♥♥

  24. Web

    This girl is putting herself in a dragon’s den, one thing women fail to realise is that men are vile when we realise we have been made stooges by people. Rodney could be impotent hence Benny is not his and there are no other kids when pressing charges N will realise she’s actually the perpetrator and Rodney can have a field day with her for damages and crimine injuria….Great story Mike

  25. Gugstar

    Yazi this is really sad, this what I don’t understand with some of these Tertiary Girls. What in the world makes you think u special and a man will leave his husband for you? Look at his behavior and judge for yourself whether or not this person is worth the effort. If he is quite willing to violate a trust with his wife/girlfriend, what would prevent him from doing the same to me later on? Any person who could violate boundaries, break a trust, and ultimately disrespect his relationship with his wife/girlfriend doesn’t seem to me like prize anyway. We can’t control whether or not we’re attracted to someone, but we CERTAINLY can control how we behave.

  26. Nikkita

    I honestly think it is uncessary expenditure….. N is a witch shame on her…she is a disgrace to the women kind

  27. Thandeka

    Its not fair that he will have to pay for everything unless he is rich and really wants to do it. If i were to get married the most important thing would be the marriage rather than the wedding, lets plan our marriage before we plan the wedding. Weddings are a one day event but Marriage is a life time, so when it comes to the wedding cost we both should be able to help each other out cause in the end the debt will be ours to pay not his. We must stop wanting to impress other people and do what works for us, if your budget does not allow for a Top Billing wedding do not do. Anyway less is more these days no need to go BIG on a peanut budget.

  28. Caroline

    This girl is small and stupid. Aunty Lynda shoUld have finished the job, or that stuff she drank in the toilet….SIES man, she is EVIL……

  29. Mxolisi Liphoolo

    wow ths is a gud read, its my 1st tym 2 comment here.
    Mike uyiskhokho, I lyk ur broad thinkn mind. I cnt w8 4 d nxt chapter n tnx 2 my frnd on FB Pontsho Mabontle who introduced me 2 ths blog n made me an addict.
    tnx again Mike 4 such tru n eye opening story .
    KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK ;)

  30. Zandi

    I looooooove this book Mike! Thanx for re-igniting my fire within towards reading,thank you thank you bhut wam:)

  31. have just started to read your blog , you are a good entertainer , i know the wrtting is both fictional and recreational , i also might have missed the answers if anyone had asked you this before ,
    1. why not write about a Pedi girl , reason you may familiar with everything Pedi
    2. do you research before you write each chapter , there are some glaring mispelled zulu words,
    3. i am concerned about prejudices that may form ,remembering what happened after white people wrote about our history.keep up the good work though

  32. Tumza

    nna 4 my wedding, it wil b al traditional. I’l b wearing my pedi atire. Until my inlaws dress me in the tswana clothes. We wil b serving ting, mala mogodu, nama ya thlogo, smiley, kgogo ya sesotho etc. Ther wil only be byala ba sesotho & ginger ale.
    Complete with metal/zink plates & mugs.
    The rings well… Im thinkin of a tanzanite. Lol!
    All this wil b covered by “magadi” of btwn 20-30k
    Except for the rings of coarse…

  33. Chocolatah

    Love your work Mike, keep chapters flooding in, am all eyes! Well…. School work stuck alright! But like Thandeka, I’ll sleep @ 3:00am! *chuckles*

  34. Norma

    I just hate N for her bad deeds. I mean what did she expect dating a married man? Not using contraceptives nor protection. Now he wants to punish uMalume as if she was uninformed of the happenings in her life whereas she was well aware. These things really happen yazi and its totally wichtcraft…………….

  35. Matty

    Ai marra,would people stop ranking themselves saying they first or they in the top 10 kodwa you number 21 -_- … Next chapter Mikey!

  36. karabo

    OMG its getting more n more interesting…
    as 4 my wedding buying expensive clothes i will never wear again …

  37. Kayra

    I’m still curious why Python insisted on using a condom, is he perhaps positive? Omg I love da blog, da book please abuti mike.. Thanx 4 daily fix!!

  38. NsG

    Women grow up with the idea of a fairytale wedding and if a man can afford to pay for this fairytale without getting himself into debt, then he can go all out. I think women who want an extravagant wedding and expect their partner to take a loan are not thinking of their future. Why start a union in debt?
    Unnecessary expenses at weddings are alcohol, ice sculptures and a live music band.

    • new girl

      tots agree with you. umshado yikeke nenyama!!!! some bubbly to toaste—yes but people can bring their own alcohol (depending on the set up obviously)

  39. ZeeZ

    Ayo….N is a bitch, she should have read the nyatsi manual ka nnete. But that is the problem with stealing what is not urs, u end up thinking u’a entitled. Sugar daddies seldom leave their wives for de nyatsi. I bet its 1 in 1 million who will make that mistake. N must just take a chill pill and roll with the punches afterall she brought this to herself. Stupid gal……..moron! The bitting from aunty was not enough.

    Mina i dont care about the Big Wedding, but the rings has to be expensive. Not compromise there. We can even go siyosayina ka ndabazabantu as long as the ring is expensive ……… note not big but definately expensive.

  40. Tholi

    Its funny how we too a white peoples culture of making a white wedding yet we expect the men to pay.. whereas with white people the father of the bride should pay. Im not saying who should pay, things are the way they are.. but we have a tendecy as people of adopting cultures and making them suit our needs…strange… I personally prefer a traditional wedding

  41. Mandisa

    u N uyaloya stru!!! ubaba bamshaya ngomohodu wa melter awe ma!! the most extravagant was when they had an open bar for anything you want to drink,mara they both work in London and we had pink salmon fo starters

  42. A friend of mine insisted on buying a wedding dress that was too expensive not because she loved it or she looked great in it,she bought it because her cousin’s dress was R5000 less to hers.That was trully unnecessary.

  43. kgeel

    How stupid can N be … I mean there is evidence yoba uyajola nomalume. malume’s friends . Thandie ,Benny and the hospital record aunty made by beating the crap out of her.. Tshooooo ntombaza u tr more trouble than u worth

  44. honey bo bo

    crazy chick but unfortunately women pull that rape card all the time ,poor Malume Rodney .thanks Mike

  45. Lulama Mukhari

    Mike,i absolutely love your work,its unique ans something i have never read, as a writer myself,i just have one concern, spelling mistakes,wrong use of words and all that, i believe that you are growing and that these books will be published one day and i offer myself for proofreading so that you can give us the best work ever.

  46. MsB*

    she will say he raped her and then what,ther are so many people that can prove she was having an affair nendoda etshatile,i dare her….. little bitch

    A: bride came to the chapel nge helicopter,her dress was imported from italy,cant rmbr the designer though,that wedding was jus a show off and a spectalcle realy,they weren”t show casing uthando lwabo and true to wedding like that,the marriage did not last.

    hay mna shame,i wouldnt waste money on one day,small,intimate and cheap is the way to go,invite only ppl who mean something,people you will gain from,who will giv u words of wisdom and strengthen u for the years ahead hay abantu that will go to the lew and leave all your expensive food there and forget

  47. Shonty

    “Their Methodist pastor freelances as a sangoma too Monday to Saturday for extra money” loooooooooooool really?

  48. teesibe

    If you choose to b a nyatsi be prepared to be treated like one forever , cause married man never leaves their wives

  49. Fulu

    ” I know you people think Thandeka is not learning anything from Wits… Bam!!! * Kwaaaaks #DeathbyThandeka! Nice one Mike

    N mara, being a sugar baby can turn you into a mean and bitter old hag! play with boys your age sisi!

    Q&A

    My take on this is each to their own. Weddings are expensive and if one can afford to have one then one must be willing to pay. As for who pays depends on the couple and that will speak to the nature of their relationship. if you marry someone who loves things and is materialistic then you know what you are getting yourself into and just pay to make it happen.

    Never been to an over the top wedding, but the expense on food that is wasted! My word! Relatives fighting over who get to take what when the wedding is fi nished….

    My pet peeve would be a bride who wastes good money on an ugly wedding dress! so unneccessary

  50. Magatshnie

    iyahalisa kakhulu nansi indaba, not really when we got married we i bought his ring he bought mine, we contributed towards our ceremony, its starts from the wedding ceremony to work together as a team, and its very nice experience….from handling of funds………..

  51. Lee

    I find the entire process too expensive from the lobola of R50k up, then usually you can’t have just one wedding need to have two or three. And you’re so financially drained you don’t even go on honeymoon or can afford to buy a house after. Honestly it’s down to your priorities, if a big fancy wedding is what you(bride)u want save up for it so not to be huge burden for the groom, however the ring and lobola is guy’s responsibility get over the cost, dude should have saved too.

  52. Miss M

    Let her go girl,you have connection in the SAPS so that won’t help her,and yaah nee,you really know your father,thanks mike goooood 1

  53. Lee

    I have a relative (teacher) whose wedding cost over R200k, it was somewhat of a destination wedding, close to the in-laws but far from the couple themselves. No car, no property of their own. Need to ask for lifts to see vendors, asked family for donations. Insisted they need 200+ guests on the day the venue was half empty, printed out hundreds of invites but didn’t have anyone’s address so they handout and they asked you to take extras for friends. Hired a venue, got caterers all the works including three outfit changes, the whole thing was too much.

  54. diky

    iyooooo! N is crazy she thinks Rodney wants to marry her…. Wake up n smell the coffee he wants to earn back trust from his wife…

  55. Nomtha

    Gal’s been doing this since 18yrs Thandie, she know exactly what she’s doing! Hai N thou unesdina yaz

  56. nthabiseng

    Mare N does nlot learn anne now she deserves a beat down shame #so sad for her like u said nyatsi should know her place man

  57. yes… Women only want to get married once…. We deserve all the best and we should ofcourse get what we wan on that special day…….!!!!!!!!!!! :-)

  58. sphiwe

    N is a real biatch yoh how could she do that. Good thing is daddy changed his mind n drama continues can’t wait
    Thanx Mike

  59. Rebecca

    Hau mara some Makhwaphenis ?????????????? She thought she was going to get the house and the man? shem LMAO
    I dont believe i just said “shem”
    eish this better that 50 shades serious

  60. Katso

    I can’t remember where I firstread about it (rules of engagement): The amount he spends on his car is what he’s supposed to spend on the engagement ring (Ayeye bama Golf 7!). Now that I’m ready for that it does make sense to me. He clearly loves his car and he loves me so if he can afford to splash on it why not splash on me too? Hell I will not be second to a car WA bona? The wedding is my baby as long as he does what my family expects him to do ( proving he’s worthy of my hand in marriage) its all systems go or we can share the cost if he wants to.

  61. Tracy

    Sisibhanxa u N marora, “stupid girl” with a Nigerian accent, stupid 4 falling pregnant by a Sugar daddy, stupid 4 falling inlove with him, stupid 4 wanting him 2 leave his wife stupid stupid stupid!!!

  62. Lydia

    N is one ruthless cold hearted little bitch I tell you and at the end of the day she is the one who is going to suffer the consequences as well as paying the price for what she tried to accomplish by allowing herself to fall pregnant thinking that she might break up Rodney and lynda’s marriage..the little bitch is clueless and has no idea of what thandeka and her friends my do to her . She might as well ask the soccer player

  63. viwe tshangela

    Nelisa is slowly turning into a bitter witch. Cant believe Im saying this but hayi khona, Xhosas are bad. Not just bad but bad bad

    • Miss B

      This has nothing to do with Xhosas, its got to do with woman and man. How about judging the Zulu man who cheated on his wife with a crazy girl, all of a sudden people are feeling sorry for him. How about judging his wife who for years made him live a lie believe his a father ?

      So up to now only good people in this story is Thandeka”s parents , and some extras .

    • nasqi

      really now why do people *other ethnic groups* cant stand Xhosas, its not our fault that we all beautiful and strong and back boned Yhini Bawo!!!!

  64. Sanza

    gees is a bitch of note and mike you brilliantly keep us your readers glued and waiting for the next chapter all the time…..BIG UP man

  65. Cheddie~sumthing

    Well this is one of the best stories i hve heard.i thnk drama is following Thandeka everywhere bt hey her life is kinda interest even though thez a lot 2 handle

  66. LMAO death by “Methodist pastor freelances as a sangoma too Monday
    to Saturday for extra money”…@ nomaxhosa’s house they share one plate thats just BS!!….funny thing is the marriage doesnt last as long as th payments

  67. Khensy

    Thandeka must relax, uMalume can prove that N was willing to have sex with him, the pix on his phone…

  68. My friends and I are so hooked, I started reading your books 3 days ago but I’m done with both and now I’m anxiously waiting for the next chapters to be posted. Help here do they post these daily?

  69. Dee-p

    malume deserves everything that’s coming to him…men & woman stop being greedy cherish wat u have

    Aunty needs to let go of her hubby he ain’t even worth the fuss, I don’t know wat kind of “love” is this, look @ it this way now ur even

  70. Miss B

    Funny how people are calling N names when most people will go to great lengths to keep “their” man or sugardady . On the confession same people were feeling sorry for N being cheated on by Jack. Nobody cared about the fact that she was cheating with Jack as well.

    It will be interesting to rad your answers if Mike can ask a question – what length have you gone to , to keep a man ?

    To answer the question , your lifestyle and access to money will determine what kind of demands you can make for your wedding. If while you were dating for date night or dinner outings you went to Spur or Steer then sorry you demands will go as far as having a big tent at the back yard. But if his been taking you to high end places and flying around the country or world for holidays then you can demand the Top Billing wedding.

    So you know what kind of a man you marrying and how deep or shallow his pocket are . So you demands should be aligned. You marrying a security guard unless his won the lotto stop dreaming , you marrying a CEO then dream big .

    So if your friend can afford a helicopter , a singer and a limo for her wedding , don’t be jealous stand next to the limo take pics and post face book . Just let her leave her life you chose yours as well.

  71. Nice buti love it,owk me,myself nd I think it’s sexy,eligant,meaning full if a man does everything dat shows he can take care of u once u married I can buy a man d ring as d symble of my love,but really I luv a man who knows how to take of his woman period

  72. Zuki

    Haibo nver blved in witchcraft bt haibo N is showing me just how its 4 real, ligqwirha lomtana yoh. To answer ur quizz yep a girl should get all she wants on her big day coz a wedding is a woman’s life time dream…thanx 4 yet another grt chapter Mike kp em rolling!

  73. Mathapelo

    I personally believe that Lobola and the ring should fully be paid by the Husband and the rest we can go 50/50. Coz its our big day not mine nor his yet our.

  74. Hai cha! N ungumlingo girl, des no way u can own Rodney, for the fact dat he told u u can date other guys ur age, u should have known dat hia marriage comes first nomatter wat, he chose lydia amongst all woman, so wat makes u think a pregnancy will bring him to u? Iyooooooo! Good work mike I can’t wait to c it live on television dear.

  75. njonjo

    You are So right about black famalies hey, ditshele and all the negative talks ka mekete…Weeee.And yet we emphasie ubuntu but we fail practicing it in our own famalies,mxm. N is just playing with fire hle,she must just accept her defeat…Great chapter Ta-Mike*acho with a xhosa accent*,lkkk

  76. Mavee

    shame poor stupid N! Thandeka’s aunt is a strong woman who wants to keep her family together especially after the whole paternity debacle. N will lose this battle, she was just a plaything for Rodney and is nothing close to the real woman that Auntie is.

  77. ndumIe .M

    Plz plz dnt let thandeka go tell her anti wat N said tO her coz N said that well knowing that thandeka will go tell them then they will strt panicking nd blve this bitch when its obvious she wouldn’t do that 2 His” sweet heart” (Rodney)

  78. N.A.M

    N neva gives up shem,does she 4gt tht thr r picz of thm both happy? Nd de sms she sent hm de day de aunt saw it….ur case is weak gal

  79. mondlihamed

    I feel like Bbm N en tel her that go ahead bitch dig your own grave. To be honest N’s character is of real girl in reality wonke amantombzane anje ngaye.

    Bbm: 265A3BAE

  80. Sundae

    I found out about this blog via a friend only last week Friday. She asked me to go on it but was so reluctant because of the monotonous nature of blogs. They’re all about fashion and gossip.
    When I eventually gave in, to my surprise it was a story. I was already hooked on the first chapter and couldn’t stop reading. My gasps kept getting bigger and louder with each ending of a chapter. I just reached this chapter and was so disappointed that my reading marathon was over but at the same breath so anxious and excited for the next chapter to get uploaded.
    I love this blog because its so relevant to the world that we’re living in today. The storyline is not fictacious and definitely not exaggerated because all these things take place daily. I for one felt I could relate to this story- if not on a personal level then via friends and what I myself have witnessed with these two eyes.
    You know how they say a television series can have the best production, actors and actresses and directors BUT if the STORY is not good then all of that doesn’t matter. You’ve got a hellava story here Mike and can only hope that the television series will be just as awesome.
    Good luck. :).

  81. Ohh N, u 4got ukhuti uRODNEY found u wit Juju, naye Rod shouldnt b making a fuss wit wife who made a man of him, obviously cant make babies N is playn u. He should deal wit rape issue alone mayb dat will wake him up!! Sori Thandie just let N do her thing idiot! BAZOTHOLAKALA the 2 birds must fly 2geda. Go Thandeka lov ur stlye.

  82. I realy find ur blog educational in so many ways
    Being emotionally involved wit ur sugar daddy is a BIG NO-NO.1st thng he wil neva leave his wife 4 u,no matter wat da situation is.dats y m tryng my best NT to b emotionally involved wit mine…coz it will end bad.as 4 N nc nc nc no words 4 her shem

    Tnxx Mike

  83. Gladstone

    Can any1 help? from diary/zulu homepage I can c tht he posted 2days blog 2hr ago bt I only c ystrdys post

  84. Licious

    Yoh hayi girl u have been through so much from day one up to the end but what I liked about u it was yo responsibility and now I’m left with lots of questions like what’s gonna happen to your uncle and aunt, will they divorce and what’s going to happen to u nw that u are going back to jozi and to Python?

  85. mamaP

    Wow great work mike.just reading confession its equaly great. I also came across a note that they going to make this an inscripted series and thandeka will be played by one of the bloggers that will be lovely would do anything to audition the part but I’m not a yellow bone but I’d like to play yandi I fit her description lol but it will be lovely if the whole series was actually played by new faces from your block they addicted to it and already relate to your characters I relate to thandeka so much that nelissa from confession sounds exactly like her your bloggers can take this series to your hights think about it..just a suggestion after all I bet these “known faces” are to busy reading their generations scripts to blog in…and their comments…lovely I believe they direct you to your next chapter don’t they lol speaking of which can’t wait for the next chapter will there be vows after all can’t wait…keep typing Mr :)

  86. tsholo

    Ok ke fela pelo yanong,kante when is charpter 78 coming,I’ve been waiting for the whole day….bra mike o dira bjang bjanong?

  87. Pee'

    Where is chapter 78 :( m used 2 reading everyday but now its different.. But N tho people. Like her are not gud I trusted her

  88. People r always claiming that they r 1st 2comment when actually they r not. Yol should sit down! Malume must just marry N as his second wife bcoz his the 1 who dated N when he knew very well that his married now N is emotionally attached… Malume is the 1 2blame 4everything

  89. ozzy

    N girl you are such a bitch…..I hate wat you dng,you gonna burn to hell. Bra mike,you ar gud write buti.we realy appreciate wat you dng and gudluck to the future.

  90. KayCee

    Brilliant work bra Mike, I really cnt w8 2 find owt hw ths story ends. I get the feeling tht Thandeka will hv a happy ending, she is a smart girl, nd with all the mistakes she’s learnt frm others, she should end up on top… Got faith in u gal.. Ths was a very insightful story I must say… Next chapter asseblief!!! *On knees*

  91. Noks_key

    Ur dad is almost like my dad but all I need to do is make him coffee rather then cook for him… Nd watch soccer with him which I hate. Then “Bam” I’ve won him over

  92. I love d N part ingenza ngibe nomfutho wokufunda ngibone ukuthi uzophelelaphi, if umalume uyazi bakithi ngiyamzwela
    Thank for d chapter your work is excellent

  93. I’ve realise one thing no matter how hard u try to be a great parent if ur kids are beyond control nothing you can do just kip on trying, da day I heard da baby all da things ma mum use to do to mi made a perfect sense why she was doing them, nd I glad she didn’t turn soft when I heard a baby I learn da hard way but I’m glad she made a great woman out of mi, ur blogs r amazing everything u write it reality things dat r happening everyday in our lifes thank you but can u try nd post early cos da waiting is killing me!!

  94. Lady

    I’m a South African Indian Muslim Woman and I’m ADDICTED to your blog.
    Please update as frequently as possible.
    I really can’t get enough.

    By the way, you’ve inspired another writer to add her version of events for the Indian girl from the ‘farm town’. It’s much more conservative than your blog, but I think it’s fantastic to see the different dialogues between the different cultures in SA.

    I hope you turn this into a book soon.

  95. Ceesah

    You know I have been dating married guys since I was young,( *gosh I can’t believe I’m telling u guys*) simply because they are mature they don’t play games & break hearts like guys in my age group or youth should I rather say. My intentions though were never like N, to be a home wrecker infact if something goes wrong in his house I encourage him to make things right, therefore if he is happy so am I. And what I’ve learnt from all of them is that they have mistresses simply because their wives don’t give them, *enough, proper,* sex, now this seems to worry me though as someday I’ll get married too, my Q is: is it really not enough sex or they just greedy, when I do get married I want my marriage to work in all angles, from coming to a warm house, food on the table, good conversation to good sex, but if sex is their excuse for having *misstresses, nyasti, homewreckers* does it mean u must give them sex everyday? Married people talk to me, what is that you are doing wrong cause I don’t believe sex is it.

    • nasqi

      i don’t personally think its sex only, i want to believe it is also communication, good timing, respect food, those small exciting things, i too have once dated a married man, i got preggies by him and i stopped seeing him, he suggested that he ends things with wifey and i said no, i instead suggested he go renews their vows off which he did and it went well…

  96. anita

    My Husband left home 6months ago shortly after i found out about his affair.
    During this period i have bought many spells but non has worked for me , but there are no signs of him returning.
    Recently he had send me a lawyer letter stating his wish for divorce? And dissolving of our marriage ,I was heart broken and believe it or not I attempted to end my life several occasion until one day I was browsing google on how to stop a divorce and restore broken relationship and I came across so many comments and testimonies of the great spell caster ASHRA I then decided to copy the email and I sent an email and there was a swift reply with words of encouragement and ashra perform a love spell and cast the spell on my husband exactly 2days later my husband called me and apologize and he came back to the house and he told me it was never his intentions to treat me with the way he did now he treat me like we just got wedded , my husband now show me love more than I can ever imagine , thanks to ashra for the help and assistance , you can contact ashra via personal email address:ashraspelltemple@gmail.com.
    I pray this comment shows some one out there the light as I was showed , never give up until you contact ashra

    thanks

  97. Lindy-blaq-diamond

    Yoh hai ke dis girl,if i wre t i wud also blckmail hr sayn i’l tel hr parent xez nt xo hu de fthr of de bby is n xe also wntd 2d n arbotion.

  98. To answer Ceesah’s question to married people, men cheat because they can and even if you can do pole dancing and all that, if he wants to cheat he will.

  99. phuti

    Wow m so proud of myself for having finished dis chapter!!! Now looking forward to 78 bt de waiting is
    killing me now! Keep up de gud work mike if only de country had more writers like u, big ups

  100. KayCee

    Iyho hai sana, it’s been 3 days ngok… Sum1 plz fnd out if Mike hasn’t forgot about us… Anxiously waiting…

  101. Hun

    This gal is smart neh!playing her dad like dat!#claps once# as for this b###ch. … She obnoxious nxaa! #pissed4dayz

  102. Ntombi mbele

    N is a lousy bitch,Bra mike batho badira dilo. In my hood there was a wedding nd the lovebirds were flying ka helicopter. The landing was far from the venue it jst didn’t make sense. U rock mike!

  103. Posh

    Id expect him to do all that, aferall il be his glorified servant for the rest of my life… Il cook, clean, make and take care of him an the my lil brats… Its worth me fussing over my big day.

  104. Tea

    Tjoo Mike bathong…khane y o re casta soooo…yah neh!I even finished de whole bottle of nedeburg classic.

  105. Nhanha

    This isn’t the way of doing things Mike… As much as we appreciate you,you should do the same cause this thing of making us wait 3 days isn’t fun. . . . At allll!

  106. Ntombi mbele

    Expose her she doesn’t even really really knw who the baby’s daddy is. Who the hell does she think she is mxm. Make drama girl caLl all the suspects nd tell them she is pregnant with their child. Thank u bra mike ur making my temperature to rise,you are very Good!

  107. tummyB

    Haikhona shame dis is killing us! Pls atleast let us knw wen u gna post da ada chapters cos dis w8tng is making my blood boil! Pls dear we miss u lol uve bn gone 4 so long nw it hurt chapter 78 pls *humbling myslf wit a duk on my head*

  108. tummyB

    Haikhona shame dis is killing us! Pls atleast let us knw wen u gna post da ada chapters cos dis w8tng is making my blood boil! Pls dear we miss u lol uve bn gone 4 so long nw it hurt chapter 78 pls *humbling myslf wit a duk on my head lyk uMa ka Thandeka*

  109. N is really out of her mind, she forgets that she is only 20 and she is going to be a mother and the father is 20 years older than her and possible might not be the father. She can go and lay charger I doubt she know the process of the law stupid girl uchitha umzi wabantu and worse she is coming from a stable family how would she feel is that was happening her own family. Does she think uMalume will marry her khona if he would marry her will she ever manage ngoba akahlali nendoda enye kaloku yena

  110. Shordy

    N is such an ungrateful bitch… If I there with her bengizomuthunuka lamanxeba anawo ngiwadlokodle ngento eshisayo ” moving on to the next chapter

  111. lindiwe

    *Clapping for the long skirt and cooking for dad and the fact that you kept the short hair* a good girl never forgets her roots…clicking to the next chapter! :-)

  112. rouxk

    N is totally acting bitchy and as for with the academic knowledge that she’s got,anyway u doing a good job Mike keep it up

  113. To answer ur question Mike….I’m a 26 year old that hs been married 4 5 years.I had a very big wedding.Then it ws jst a show off,bt nw that I’m in it.I did nt spend enough of his money 4 all that I hv indulged in this marriage bcoz of my husband.So 4rm experience we deceive even more(Nt being naïve 2 the fact that as woman also do wrong 2 our husbands)

  114. nelisa

    Hayi a wedding should be planned according to a certain limited budget.. As much as every woman wants the wedding of their dreams, not every woman is prevalidged enough to experience that and woman should more loving, appreciayive and considarate enough to make the wedding more about the unity of two and not just about the bride alone. Woman tend to be too selfish sometimes, i dont know if its becoz they’ve been deprived of monetary valued things or what

  115. Sigoz

    It is unfair on the guys. The thing is we like showing off n expenses. After paying the lobola I believe we should both take time plan for our dream wedding n make sure we r financially stable to afford it, even if take 2-3 worth of planning it so what!

  116. sekwanele

    Lol nice one, welcum bek to Jozi hahahahaha! Yoh! N??? She really mean business neh *Xhosaz” ay bathungu

  117. Zulugal

    N is now a desperado! Hehehe sounds like its competition of demands from Benny n N! Gudluck to Malume no Aunty! N nawe Tdk , lets see how long or how soon will ua Dad be regretting his decion made on an full tummy lol

  118. Ladyluck

    Kwaaaaaaa if u think shaka is death, go to thandeka s house…….
    N is boring, she was makhwapheni. It seems she 4get dat. Thandeka warn ur uncle n aunt b4 its too late.

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