Chapter Sixty Six

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How do you tell your friend that the guy she likes is a dog of the worst kind? Dating a South African soccer player is like sitting at the back of an open bakkie whilst its drifting and you not wearing a seat belt. I am sure its one hell of a ride in which he is the only constant and you just an accessory. They like bling just as much as they like the newest freshest thing on their arm. On the one hand he is a PSL soccer player, S-curl clad, ear ring wearing lacoste branded black South African man who thinks when he chews gum with his mouth open he is the coolest thing since sliced bread. On the other he had many other women in his life and wasnt ashamed to show it. I bet you he drives a GTI? In fact lets put money on it! What is it with rich girls and slumming it? I tell you its a trend, maybe they think it gives them a thrill to date beneath their social status angazi but some things just look pathetic. Come on, there was no way this loser was in the same league with Ayanda. She was soft spoken and from a polite society back ground. He didn’t even speak like Bongani Khumalo who I swear is one of two South African players who is audible when they speak English. This guy is straight deep kasi. I would rather get her a rural man than one of this pantsula relic clinging wannabe. People who say “eckse” “es vaar” “ola” then whistle are a dying breed because most of them died a while back of diseases linked with promiscuity. Yeah I said it! Call me be biased I don’t care this moron was not going anywhere near my Ayanda!

He nodded his headed to me and said heita. The nerve. This guy was really going to stand there and pretend that not two hours ago he was walking out some other girl. Why do men always think that girls will have their back over other women regardless of whether she is your friend or not. I was so insulted. I know at times you want to stay out of it because your friends business because they don’t react well when you intervene. Ayanda I loved. She was what I wanted to be like when I grow up and I was going to protect her as much as I could. Fuck this guy. Women need to warn each other when they date abusive lying cheating bastards like this guy. Why would you wish him upon another woman especially one you know?

I told him straight that stay away from my friend. I asked him how he could stand there unashamedly in front of me pretend I had not just seen him. He tried to protest but I stood in front of him defiantly. I am a Zulu girl and if he dared to strike me I would moer him shem. Ayanda was confused about all this and tried to argue but when I told her she was going with me to my room right now she didn’t even argue seeing how pissed and steadfast I was. I didn’t hear it coming nor did I see it. I heard a sharp “ppa” sound as his hand landed comfortably on my cheek Wayithela mpama. Ngezwa izindlebe zam zinyakaza wajike wathi “sies ucabanga ukuthi ngoba ugijima nama kwaang ungcono ku nathi”. ( He clapped me hard and said “sies, you think now that you run with foreigners you are better than us”” then he walked away.). Two things happened at that moment. One he had connected with my ear and I could hear a sharp w-i-i-i-i sound and a burning sensation. I even for a moment lost sense of where I was. Secondly this man had just slapped me for telling him that I saw him cheating on my friend! Why is it men think they can hit women and get away with it? Not this Zulu girl shem!

I went after him as he was walkng talking on the phone as though he had done absolutely nothing wrong. I think thats what made me angrier, the act that it was so casual to him! The fucken arrogance of this skinny man.!Have you noticed that it is usually the skinny ones that think they can hit women! I kicked him hard from behind connecting with his knee. He just went down saying knee injury but I didn’t care. I had never been hit by a man before and this random guy who I doubt was even a first team regular thought because he was a soccer star could do that to me. I told him that I would like to see where he was going hide when my “kwaangs” came for him. Kwaang for those who don’t know is the derogatory term which Johannesburg people especially use for foreign people mostly West Africans. I told him that with him slapping me had just further emphasized why most South African girls thought that he was not half the man my Python was. I walked away. Ayanda who had just stood there too shocked to move just stared. I told her she was going to my room immediately and I was not going to hear no for an answer. That’s the thing with rich people; they are cowards and will never get into physical confrontation. She didn’t argue and she followed me quickly to my room her arms crossed across her chest. I had just dumped my friends boyfriend for her. Deep.

By the time I got to my room I was shaking. I had defended myself out of raw emotion but now that I was alone it overwhelmed. I just broke down crying. I know it doesn’t seem so strong considering what i had just done. I didn’t even have a short temper but for some reason seeing that idiot with Ayanda had just switched a light in me. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut but what kind of friend would that make me. I am not violent and have never been in a fight ever but I was not even two months in Johannesburg already a brawler. What has happening to me? I was still so angry and crying. Ayanda i think was too scared to ask what had just happened.

I picked up my phone and dialled.

I told the person everything that had just happened inclusive of the derogatory terms.

The person listened attentively and calmly.

He asked me if I was ok but because I was crying I obviously said no.

He then said I will see to it tomorrow I shouldn’t worry.

Ayanda still shaking asked me who I was talking to!

I said,


****The End****

Question: Have you ever been hit by a man you were in relationship with? Even a slap? What did you do about it?

Michael Nkululeko Maphoto (fb)

Good Morning

Thank you so much for the responses we have received for Soshanguve Orphanage. I must say I was pleasantly shocked by the responses, humbled and honoured to have received all your support. I would like to set up collection points as logistics can be a nightmare for all of us. I am seeking volunteers. I already have Pretoria East, Pretoria North, Springs, Braamfontein and Polokwane. Please if you can help by allowing people to drop off by you it would be greatly appreciated. 13 July we all drive to Soshanguve.

Thank You

463 thoughts on “Chapter Sixty Six

      1. Gorilla is gonna moer this boy yhooo, ndamsizela vha, he messed with the wrong girl. Ndifuna amkhande angaphinde akwazi nodlala loo bhola

  1. 1ST TIME EVER READING SUMTHING SO GUD,OH SIYABONGA THANDEKA FOR MAKING OUR MORNINGS,AFTERNOONS N EVEN FAMILY TIME(DATS EVENING OFCOS) SO INTERESTING…and to answer ur question iv neva been hit but trust me if it were to happen,id hit back n go report him,lol

    cnt wait for da next read

  2. “Dating a South African soccer player is like sitting at the back of an open bakkie whilst its drifting and you not wearing a seat belt”…LMFAO!!!!dated a few myself and that z so true #dies

  3. This is very interesting, Can I post some of the chapters on my facebook status, so that some of my friends can read from there so to get them interested?

  4. hehehe poor Ayanda…

    eish Gorilla is going to kill the soccer star …

    eish the boring part now…waiting for the next chapter…

    can we get hard copies already …..

    thanx Mike,

  5. Bathong!!!thandeka o sebete bjwang tjo!!!!hee…this gal aint here to play neh!!!tjoo gorilla is gonna deal with him…!!but why not call python??haebo!drama galo1!!

  6. I have neva been in dat situation, however if dat bastard dared lay his hands on me, I wud cut it off. I’ll moer him to death I tell u

  7. wat a nice read thnx.
    to answer ur question yes i hv been slapped by bf n i slaped him bck he jst stood thr nt knwng wat to say or do. after tht i never heard frm him ever again

  8. Yho!!!!!! this guy got off easy I would have moered him blind. Even if I had lost the fight atleast I would have left him a few long-lasting scars that he will forever have to explain to anybody who asked

  9. yep my ex pulled me by my hair 2 years ago, i picked up a stone and hit him with, we had a fight it was lyk he was fighting another man, just because i ddnt take him back…

  10. Yoh what a chapter and I’ve never been hit by a guy I wud never let it happen I’ll fight back I grew up with boys so I’m a bit of a tomboy. Hell no!!

  11. Tanx Mike for the chapter … My ex slapped me and I ended things with him cz once I forgive him and again tomorrow he can hit me more but it was so hard cz I loved him

  12. as much as im addicted and lov this blog,these chapters are just getting ridiculously shorter with each post.

  13. This is deep Mike. Amazig how your writing is so real it places one in the situation a if it is happening to the reader.
    I know chapter 67 will only be out on Tuesday so I shall be patient til then.

    Well done son, great work.

  14. U go that moron what are women made of.bravo Thandeka.wish all the women can do that kuleylima zamadoda who think they are clever…

  15. That was quiet short, high5 to Thandeka for fighting back, no man shall lay their filthy hands on me, I’m the kind that fights back with all my might! And I make sure I leave marks one will always remember me with.

  16. Oh well,jah! Dis oda stupid ex fiance of my slapped me nd I tried to fight back! Heh! Lol I should have not tried that I tell you,beat da hell out of me but I was a woman enough to dump him,I still dnt understand why he ppa! Me any way,coward!

    1. Babes, you did the right thing to try and fight back. He needed to know that you were not a coward and was not prepared to take his beating lying down… Big Ups to you.

  17. yippeeeeeeeee!!!!iv NEVER made even top 20 before! and now im one of the first! *totally overreacting* …..go thandeka, that’s wat real friends do!stupid guy

  18. dankie mike, to answer your question yes I have and I stayed with him for a full 3 years and don’t worry I never let it go. I’d let him have it that moment and when we happy and over the incident, I’d break something valuable to him, ngimuqed’amandla. last time he hit me I stabbed him lol he never did it again!!! I told him I’d teach him a lesson he’d never forget oh and boy he never forgot, he hasn’t hit a woman since!!

    1. Hehehe Thuto, I know what you’re talking about. My guy claimed to be the unabusive type but whenever he demanded something it would get to that point where he physically hurt.
      I stapped him once and ever since then he has never laid his hands on me again. I became terrified seeing what I had done but I also felt a sense of accomplishment. He uses the scar to remind me but frankly I don’t care.
      I’ve never reported him for all those other times, and yes we’re still together.

  19. Eish Pirates Players kodwa …lol ayeye OUPA MANYISA GORILLA IS COMING AFTER YOU….KWAAAAAAAAAA nice 1 Mike

  20. it wasn’t a right move to call Gorilla I mean she already kicked the guy so they equal….. Now probably this youngster won’t even play soccer as Gorilla will remove his leg Hehe
    Good read though

  21. Lmfao haha ayeye Girl good move call the Gorilla fr th@ idiot,loool great morning to u all…phambili ngoZulugirl awhoop whoop..

  22. Wat thandeka dd was not ayoba xe xuld hav tld her friend in private rather than embarrasse her infront of dat guy yes xe is her friend bt mennars count as well so think b4 u act

  23. Woo but Sis we Yellow Bone,u’re so torn apart between Gorilla and Python Bathong.U need a thorough check up!

  24. Gorilla is gonna kill someone ke manje? lol dankie Thandeka, if uneback-up hai go for it sisi. He’s gonna learn ke lo nge s-curl nama earring. uyakhohlwa ukuthi asiPSL le, ke life. and kuyanyiwa emhlabeni. you don’t go around hitting women, especially abloma namakwaang. uzokaka son!

  25. Lol yoh ai Thandeka she always makes my morning… Can’t wait for Sunday so that i can read chapter 67… There is never a dull moment in her life… Am sure no one will mess around with a zulu girl after reading this….

  26. this the first time i make a comment since i started reading,mike this is very good man ,i am hooked i tell you ,keep them coming ,but like most readers ask,please endulge us with atleast one chapter a day,but ilove it anyway,my fiends call me python by the way……

  27. What is it with people wantin 2 comment 1st,so immature. Whether you comment 1st or last ul still be getting the goodness of the chapter.. Thanks Mike.. Hamba Thandeka, ngiyayithanda leGirl..:D.. #MyDailyFix

  28. No. I’ve never been hit by a man but if it can heppen believe me, i will bite him where it will hurt most cause i know that i dont have that much power compared 2 his.

  29. Yes not only once when it got ugly an public I made a case but u know saps ja neh delayed I withdrew it I think those were his worst 3 months of groveling the abuse turned emotional I called it quits I deserved better

  30. I am addicted shame. . . I was hit by my partner and did nothing i guess i was too ashamed but i also gave him a clap . . . . but we r not like that anymore. . Sibadala ngok! i wish u cud write an entire book overnite i swear ndingafunda yona ndingasebenzi tu! Fantastic read Nkuli!

  31. lmao… i cant wait for the next chapter, she just injured the “GHETTO” soccer player. I doubt the team management will take that lightly. But on a real point ladys dating foreigners make them, disrespect South African man… I once heard a nigerian guy say “all south african ladies are virgin because SA’s man are not loaded down there”, just imagine the disrespect!!!

  32. i have been slaped at the party even worse and backed down. But when he did dat again at the assebly i slaped him like BIG SHOW does on wrestling,he bled though his nose and from that day i was a bosso at skul. Moering man like dat>lol

  33. OMG, thank you so much was dying to read Chapter 66, looking forward to the next chapter. I must admit, NO GUY HAS EVER LAID HIS HANDS ON ME and THAT day…HELL will break loose :) I love this blog :)

  34. Nice one Thandeka he deserved that kick, it should have been a flying kick the one Jet Lee and the likes do

  35. This is hottttttt. I am not south african, but my girls and I have been glued to this book since chapter one. Fantastic read, well done. Please keep keep them coming, faster than one chapter every two days…please…u killing us here.

    I have been slapped by a guy once…but I slapped him straight back, and called the cops on him. He ought to have known better than lay a hand on this woman…Shem.

  36. This by far de shortest read Mikey. :-( I’m not complaining dear I’m just too hooked to dis dat I can’t take waiting anymore can we get the book already plzzzzzzz.

    Big ups to T that’s a true friend. I’d also want to know.

    I hv been beaten up by my current boyfriend/fiancé but when I wanted to go to de police he ran after me begging n apologizing n for some reason I didn’t go anymore and dat was de end of it. We’re still together bt it’s not de same like it used to be.

    One thing men don’t realize is that once u beat up a/your woman the respect automatically falls away for dem and dats not nice for any man.

    1. True dat ex slapped me 1nce @ a party infront of his cuzins n best frend coz ddnt tel him ima b @ dat party…neva dd anything then bt wen we got 2 his place,boy dd i moer his ass n left him ryt then n ther…….loved him 2 mch tho coz gt bck wit him a couple of wiks later n thngs wer jst neva da same again…da RESPECT 4 him was gone!

  37. another good written chapter, you are doing a realy good job Mike,m so waiting for the next chapter..

    To answr ur Q, I was in a relationship wth the father of my son who started to beat me on the 12 June 2010 whch i’l neva forget *’it was fr the 1st tym ke bethwa ke moshiman*’, at 1st i ddnt tel any1 because he apologsd n said it wil neva happn again n it was a mistk… I belvd hm bt it then became hs way of disbpln me for evry mistk tht i made.
    I neva cheatd on him bt fr sm reason he thot i was, i then became pregnant wth our 1st chld n it was in Dcmbr whn he askd me to vist hm *i ws 4 mnths prgnt*, i thn wnt to hs ‘house’ he came bck frm wrk n strtd to beat me… I then clld it quits bcs i thot of the bby i was carryn. He was so abusive n even today ga ke nyake go bona le mo a fitileng

    1. Thats a sad story dear but thank God for giving you the courage to leave him and protecting your unborn baby. U should be very proud of yaself* big hug*

  38. Aowa ah pls describe less and get to the point more. u robbed us for real here.. We wait for these chapters but we’re left unsatisfied due to them being short coz of too much describing.

    Otherwise, zulugirlgoes2jhb rocks!!!

  39. thnx again 4 d chapter bt reallly it was short fot the friday morning. Ey ths gal in period of 2 months but alredy s mch damage. to ans ur Q , i once recived such a gift bt i realise i cant liv lyk dat s i ended d rltnshp.

  40. Thanks Mike kgale re emetse this chapter now Thandeka has started something else by calling Gorilla but why not Phython or ga se batho le dintwa bo Phython maybe ka gore Gorilla wa tshosa that’s why she called him. Thanks again I can’t wait for another chapter wish we could have hard copy nkebe setse motho a feditse go bala the whole book.

  41. Hahahaha!!!! This is the coolest chapter ever Mike! Enjoyed it! Thanks for making ma morning! Tjo! Thandeka is ma girl right there! She reminds me of maself….Aint gonna stand there and watch some skinny arse nigga slap me! Thanks Mike! I love you I love you I love you!!!!!

  42. Tjooo I like you Tandeka yhazz, uyandichaza sisi. Well to answer your question, ive never been hit by a man and if that would happen “I WOULD KILL HIM SHEIM WITH MY OWN HANDS”Men think they rule this world, stupid idiot.

  43. The number of women who have been beaten up by man even if it was just only once is alarming but its good to know that most of them stood their ground and either hit back or ended the relationship. S/O to uol ladies , uol all deserve a Bells

  44. Hawu bandla sengiyazibona izidlathi zikaThandeka sezibovu shame she should’ve kicked the idiot on his balls fool

  45. Oh my word,i hope Gorilla doesn’t break his bones but teach him a lesson.I always tell myself if my bf hits me m done n find women who stand that stupid,but then again,m not in their shoes n dnt know their reasons or fears.Yoh Mr Maphoto,i forgot my tab for two days n ws so irritable n couldnt wait to read 64,tjo,know iv caught up n that small gap is closed,ha ha ha

  46. I’m so proud of Thandeka for protecting Ayanda. I would do the same for my gal friends anytime.

    Soccer players dont make good Boyfriends xem….they make a good lay to brag to your friends about *hides*#in my younger days.

    Thankfully i have never been moered by any guy and i dare them to try!

  47. im so addicted 2 dis story jst dat upostin 1 piece a day its a T.T.O the waitin kills me… Keep up the good work u outdeed yoo self…

    I would lyk 2 see the story live on tv some kinda tv series…

  48. This is so interesting I wish I could read more about your life Thandeka, keep it up girl and take care, I would love to buy hard copy if that’s possible 😉

  49. Hahahah washa khekhe shaya T serves tht fool right hw dare he slaps I and think he cn jst walk away like tht, Gorillaaaaaaa ayeye tht skinny fool wil know wht is kwaaaang

  50. Eish this is so interesting, jz wen i ws enjoying bang there goes my nxt button

    Bt cn u pls inboxe me mo info abt the orphanage in sosha cz i stay ko sosha n i would like 2 help, my fb handle is Doreen Sathekge


  51. Ayeye soccer player de big kwaang is on his way n his gonna hunt u down! Fortunate enough I’ve neva been hit by a guy in my lyf n dat is sumthing dat I pray may neva occur to me.

  52. I have never in my life raed something so intriguing, I’m at work thinking “i cant do my job till i have discussed this chapter with my colleagues” thanks Thandeka for an awsome start to the morning :)

  53. Tjo ay angisho soccer player..waze wabizel’ukufa..coz gorilla is gnna brake u lol…now we wait for chapter 67…
    Person waiting….person waiting….waiting….waiting….waiting nd waiting…;))

  54. Great chapter dankie siyabonga,I stay in sinoville(pretoria north) always welcome to come and drop off anything.»»»Woza july 13th»»»forward we go backwards never»»»these makes me sooooo happy bcos its for a good course!!!! God bless the hand that gives!!!!!

  55. And how r the Academics ku Thandeka? To answer yo Question I’ve neva bin bitten…bt I wd kill him he mstnt dare..

  56. Hehehe serves him write. She shud have kicked his junk so he won’t mess with women. This chapter was too short Mike ao. Looking forward to the next. Made top 100 (achievement) dancing in the office

  57. Thnx again Mike. To answer ur question I neva in my lyf been beaten by any 1 even my parents so m sure if a guy beat me yey the hell will break loose n I’ll make sure I left him wth a permanent scare just to remember me.


  59. lol Thandeka. “In fact lets put money on it! What is it with rich girls and slumming it? I tell you its a trend, maybe they think it gives them a thrill to date beneath their social status angazi but some things just look pathetic. Come on, there was no way this loser was in the same league with Ayanda.”

    Those lines just kill me. What must Ayanda do to get the attention of the guys in the same league as she is ?

  60. short chapter but interesting, maara u Thandeka she is something else, confused why she called Gorillla though, why not Python whom she just shagged,

  61. Yes Iv bin hit, or shud I say by my bf n I ddnt do anythng abwt it I continues luvng him instead n evn 2day I cnt 4giv myslf 4 dat, it haunts me evrytym I hear de word “wman abuse” 4 I ws ones a victim, n yes he is ZULU

  62. now that’s wat i’d like to call ‘an african warrior’!! Looooool Thandeka really had mega guts 4 doin that- big ups to her!!
    Flip! Wonder wat G’s gon do bwt this..that’s sum deep sh!t ryt der

  63. This waiting for the next chapter is killing us nd to answer your question,I was once beaten by my high school bf for chatting to a male school mate bt instead of fighting back,I just picked up my bag and laughed away..priceless moment

  64. Oh, loved it! Thank you very much. Thandi did everything right in this chapter (yes, chicks before dicks for once!) except maybe by calling Gorilla… why is he her -damsel-in-distress-moment- go to guy heh? Does she not understand that most, Male protection and favours are never free unless you’re immediate family ?

    A: No, ive never been smacked. Ever, not even at home. Not by anyone, male or female… And its a good thing futhi because i’d probably end up behind bars and the slap(ee) would end up without a hand!

    1. writting is not easy and i think the story is worth waiting for. dont panic just patiently wait for the good stuff coming….. mike keep them coming thou.

  65. Wow T that was brave of you big ups girl, it doesnt matter what you do in your space the fact is he had no ryt to lay a finger on you and you did ryt by protecting Ayanda you are a good friend indeed :)

  66. Been following the story from ch:1 and lessons are plenty for women to learn here.

    I was raised by a man who abused his wife (yes both being my biological pareents) and I vowed to myself that I would neva be a statistic. The first and only idiot to eva threaten me with physical violence got dumped so fast. 3yrs later his head is still spinning (coz he’s still stalking me).
    I love myself too much to be a statistic!

  67. Wel, I was beaten up my my now ex-boyfriend because i caught him cheating on me, like red handed… We had a fight, his friend separated us and took me home, Whn i got there, i luk at myself in the mirror and went crazy when i saw blood… I washed my face and went back to him and hit him with a brick on the head.

  68. thanx Mike for a grt chapter. As for dt skinny guy, he got wht he deserves. Who said us girls are men punching bags nami would hv done da same

  69. This chapter just reminded me of the scar I left on my ex’s forhead when he tried to force himself on me ,thats the last time i spoke to him .He will always have the scar but it will never make up for the emotional pain he left inside of me .Later found out that the bastard was a serial women basher !!!!

  70. I was in a very abusive relationship. He use to beat me up like there was no tomorrow and for no reason. He will lift me up like a baby n drop me to the floor. One time it got so bad that I jumpt out of a moving car on a freeway, I jst wnted to die. I was addmited in Milpark hospital with injuries in my head n body. Guess what, I forgave him n continued with the relationship. I told my family that I was in a car accident, to this day they don’t know the truth. I still have stiches in my head n scars on my body. I stayed in that relationship cause I was deeply in love. God blessed me with a loving man who loves mw with all that he has n I’ve never been this happy in my love. It feels like we just met, am always looking foward to going home to his loving arms. As for my EX, I moved on n forgave him for all the abusive. Am free from him.

  71. lol, uzakukhaba nje umfana!!, ngeke uze ukholwe..nd i hate wt u dng to Gorilla..u knw him only when u in trouble

  72. Wuuu ay nah,i tell u the soccer player is oredy dead.. Buh way 2go T!!these men shudnt get away wth hittin us

  73. Oh poor Thandeka ..has she ever had a normal day since she came to joburg. but nami I would have kicked that son of a b***h, soccer player or not no one hits me and gets away with it…Singaphela habe!!!!!!!!!

  74. Thank you, mike the story gets better everday really enjoying it.

    To answer you question, I have been slapped and at that moment i did not do anything i just said hai cha bhuti ungishayile shame mara i forgive you already no need to say sorry when u no longer angry i knew it was over from that moment. I never went to his place again but kept contact chat to him everyday and after two months when i could see that he no longer brings up the topic he was convinced i am now through it all i dropped the bomb (i dont want you its over) he asked why and i said REMEMBER that day u slapped me? Always strike when they not expecting it at all it always hit them hard.
    To all ladies who get abused by their men all in the name of love “PLEASE THINK TWICE ALWAYS KNOW THAT YOU WORTH MORE THAN THAT”

  75. hayi shame honestly im a coward….when i got slapped the first time i wasnt sure what had happened…and it was public. well lets just say its been almost nine months since ive seen the guy. i ran for hills!!!

  76. hayikhona, what kind of man hits a woman
    and mike come on bra, why are you hating on SA man? lol
    its actually partly true though, but not all SA men are the same, some of us are actually decent and loving and we take care of our women, well let me say I take care of my girl in a way no other man would, cos if I don’t as a loving man who would?
    You are a great writer bra, and for the first time I am reading something (surprisingly enough) I can relate to.
    I have a 14 year old sister and I asked her to start reading this book, I hope she learns something from it.

    1. Did you see how many women said a man has slapped them or worse? South African men really have a lot to learn about relationships and how to interract with women. Mistakes happen but when it becomes a trend someone has to expose them!

  77. LLM death by the comments. Abuti, re kopa a new chapter every day. yati loku lindza kuyasibulala tsine lesi balandzeli bale blog.

  78. Huu fightin she handled evrythin wrong y cnt she let Ayanda hv a bf n 2 b slapped by a man i alwys say wen i mit sum1 new im nt going 2 b ur punchin bag so im lucky i never hd dt.

  79. Ha we ma being a zulu girl myself i was gonna kill that skhotheni,angishaye ngempama? bengizomnyisa…proud of you thandeka singadlala abafana.

  80. Short chapter indeed…..the comments just make this diary more interesting lol, counting down till the next chapter :)

  81. Ma bf was threatened to beat me up,,pushed me around and then strangled me on the bed. I had never bn that scared in my life because he’s big and made me feel helpless. I’d dump him though if he were to beat me up. I wasn’t raised to be beaten by some fucken guy. Cowards beat girls up

  82. Wow,I’m hooked on this,I gr8ly bliv u here to change our mindset n everything,bt wot I aspire abwt is that u r a go getta,wud love to be part of ur team bt my work schedule is hectic,u r a true virtue of honesty n sanity,love ur work

  83. LOL!!! That soccer player must just run kwiiii! this chapter just takes me back to when Thandeka and S went to that club in their freakum and the south african guy who was bashed by Gorilla for touching Thandeka’s ass even when poor thing was not the one who had squeezed it. the image is just too hilarious!

    @ ur question yes I was once hit with car keys. I didnt do anything just stood there numb astonished by what had happened…!

  84. Huuuuuu, and i thought it was Python on the fone….hahahaha…damn Mike, you really knw how to work it hle:::

    Please keep them coming, i wud be appreciated if you cud provide atleast two chapters a day meaning one for “confessions”and one for “zulu girl”.

    Im so hooked…

    Keep up the good work*xoxo*

  85. #deadbylaughter! Hay uThandi noGorilla sana. Hay iyahamba le gal. Way to go on delivering that kick. Umntu makayazi ipunching yintoni. Tshini!!!!

  86. I have been hit once though kade ngiphindisela he bashed me harder I regretted hitting back , from that moment nga sign(er) off shame ngeke ngakwazi ukuba yi punching bag. Anyway great work Mike keep it up. Xx

  87. I think im just gonna wait till you post 5 chapters then read all of them at once, the suspense Is painful bath0ng…so so painful

  88. I have never been hit but my partner nor have I ever been involved in any sort of physical fight. I think Thandeka did the right thing. After all the crap she has been through, she is really a great friend.
    Great chapter Mike… Can’t wait for chapter 66.

  89. I was once given a hot clap (the 1 which makes u see stars in broad day light) by a so called boyfriend, i think i was about 17, i was so angry with him especialy bcoz he did it in front of ppl i respected so much, that was it for me, i (fired) him (thats a term we used then to dump some1) him on the spot and made a decision that i was never ever going to give any attention to a guy who looks like a thug, and told myself i will never let any 1 slap me or put their hands on me again, up to this day, he still asks me wen we meet, that r u still angry over that clap? Moron! he just never understood how degraded i felt @ that moment and it haunted me for years, to even realise that one of the ppl who witnessed that clap was some1 who later became my boyfriend and wen approaching me he said, i wont hit u like that guy, we dated and had a child, he was a gentlemen until the day he passed on wen our son was 5yrs old. Oh, i had lied to him about my whereabouts wen i got that clap, still he ddnt have to slap me across the face like that, thanx to him and the experience though, i met the love of my life and a beautiful son to show for it.

  90. :-) WOW!!I’m so impressed,Mike onketsang mara?shuuu!!!well,I’d kill an asshole 4 my friends!yoh,I so can relate to this story,my ex bf which was den my bf,once slapped me cause I caught him with another girl,yea I know!I couldn’t defend myself as I was still in shock…but den,I left da dump ass idiot,not really 4 cheating but 4 dat 1 slap dat made me fall on my knees!l0l…

  91. As Dee-Nee said, the describing is a lil tooo much. The 1 chapter I read was a matter of moving from the flat with the cops, down to the parkin where she flirted n bck up. Getting into the narrators head is an awesome approach yes. I’m just worried that sometimes its a lil over done and robs us of the actual story, which we have to w8 a whole two days to get. I do the same, even if I’m just telling a story (-_-). Its not a bad thing bt let’s try to decrease it or make the chptrs longer or frequent.

    To answer ur question: no I’ve never been hit and I have aunts that have been in marriages like that who clearly say, if u 4give and stay, he’ll definitely do it again. Knw where and when to draw the line ladies!

    Thanks :)

  92. S did warn Thandeka about South African men and their punch throwing tendencies,a ye ye Gorills is coming!

  93. OMG!!! i was only introduced to this blog two days ago. i read from chapter 1 to 66. During my break and @ home. i couldnt put down my phone. This Girl here is Brave and ambitious. She Dares herself alot. On Chapter 66. she kicked Ass ( excuse my lingo) , i would’ve done the same for my girl, even when some others times feelings wont be mutual. as for that Skinny toothpick Man … he must NEVA underestimate beaituful young girl, thinking he can just slap and a girl and get away with it. HEll NO!! to the NOOOOO..
    Thandeka Girl!! stand for yourself and your friend.
    WOOW !!! i wonda what is Gorilla going to do???? Is waiting for chapter 67 :)

  94. just love this blog cant get over it and you should have seen the excitement on my face when I saw this chapter cant wait for more #addict#

  95. Brave gal Thandeka – i once did the same to to a guy i was dating – man hiting women and think they could get away with it – should think twice when it comes to Zulu gals… im a proud zulu gal who refuses to hit by loosers

  96. Uuuum @KG being strangled n pushed around is abuse (-_-) omw he doesn’t hav to punch u! That behaviour is unacceptable? And wat if he strangled u till u were unconscious? Or died? Thn what? Wow we really need to get (understand) wat abuse is. I blv as soon as u r scared of him or her, best u leave. Love isn’t suppose to be like that. No ways. Respect ur partner don’t fear them. Kusatshwa isilwane hhayi umuntu.

  97. LOL, guys nami, ever since I’ve known myself,I have been surrounded by drama, nje. Thandeka’s days feel like normal to me. I don’t understand why some of you are surprised.

    Yes, two of my exe’s abused me physically and i can tell you that on both occasion it only happened once. I don’t wait for next time because I just could’ve come home in a coffin. The second boyfriend, beat me and threw me on the floor like a potato sack. Luckily, by God’s grace, my friend’s ex happened to be in the same place we were dining at.

    They moer’d him and now he also has a scar on the forehead and he calls it by my name …. kwaaaa!!

    He claims not to remember him beating me up… ya ne!

  98. Yes I have, he did it for the first time n I let it go bcoz I thought I was the one who wronged him n “I deserved it” . When it happened for the second time n he nearly burned ma face I told him to go to hell. I will never be a victim because of his insecurities.

    I just hate the thought of me not reporting it to any1…..

  99. joh mike i jst cnt get enuf of dis, plz plz am w8n 4 da next 5chapters, i dnt even get bored ds days cz of ds wndrful bukz, n also on da confessions of a sugarbby cnt w8 4 da next chaptrz,u r realy j talentd smbody n kep up da gud wrk

  100. Yoh…Gorilla is going to break this guy stru! But ke, why didn’t she call her man mara? What will Python say when he finds out ukuthi his Yum-Yum runs to his buddy when she’s given a hot klap that was followed by a “wiiii sound and a burning sensation” …I see trouble coming from a mile away….lol

    But big up to T for defending her friend right there in front of that skinny idiot! Nice one Thandi!

  101. I was in that kind of a relationship. Still is, actually. I ran away from the first one, he was too possesive, emotionally and physically. I never dealt with it, not intending to… Just that I see some light in this one

  102. Please dont let Gorilla kill that stupid soccer player. let him only rough the player out a lil, just to teach him a lesson

  103. i love everything about this story line, it rocks my world. thank to my friend lebo sentle for introducing this to me. Thandeka is real, has been through a lot, is badluck an entertainer and very strong. as for the Author im speechless, he is so talented. keep up the good work.

  104. How come I only see this chapter now when I have been checking for it this whole morning?? and I see ppl have been commenting since 9:00 but anyways I`m always fascinated by ur punch lines and I must say I wouldn`t wanna be in urs shoes coz u have to come up with story which tens and thousands of ppl wait in anticipation and ready to comment. how do u come up with all of this and do u ever sleep? lol and what abt ur work? do u find time to juggle all of this? thank u for a nice read looking forward to chapter 67….:)

  105. I have. I broke up with him right there and then. He apologised, and I forgave him but there was no way I was getting back with him.

  106. wow…you very good I must say,you tell it like it is ans you have been an eye opener to some of us.Thank you!!!!

  107. wow! Very impressed by wat THandeka dd 4her frnd, after all xhes a gud frnd atlst. 2 answer ur Q yes n I hit him back nd ended d relationship same tym. Its been 2yrs bt He stil wnts me bck nt takn a chance nxa!

  108. i have been slapped by a guy i dated, im one of those “cheesy” girl who went to a private school and i love dating gangster like men and when he slapped me i kind off liked it…as my friends would say drama keeps me moving!!! but again after a guy lays his hands on u it will continue forever and thats not cool i think thats why i eventually ended the relationship!

  109. Hey Mike thank u 4 2 wonderful blogs I really enjoy reading em.As 2 ur question I did date a guy who was abusive and had 2ld him that if he ever laid a hand on me I walk and so when he thot he was man enough and laid his filthy hands on m I kept true 2 my word and walked n kept walkin

  110. absolutely amazing..just discovered this site not too long ago and it
    took me less than a day to read to the last chapter..was glued to my screen..Mike you are a great writer.. to answer the question well,have never been hit by a man but if it were to happen will seriously do it the thandeka

  111. Thanx again! I feel for the guy! What’s about to happen to him! Hmmmmmmmmm! Its unknown! Shame! He must just go and apologise to her!

  112. Answer: my bf once slapped me and I pushed him so hard he fell and I bit him on his chest…he never did it again

  113. HAWUUU uGorilla pho? yini manje Thandeka?
    let me predict what could happen. the soccer played will put her in deep trouble for making his knee injury worse. kodwa uGorilla and Python secretly get him into a mysterious car accident which results in the player amputating both his legs. Thandi then blames herself…. as usual.
    ok next chapter plz

  114. #deathby that soccer player saying “knee injury” after thandeka kicked him hard that idiot deserved it. No man out there has the right to lay their filthy hands on a woman..!!!!!

  115. Eish Kaizer Chiefs players and their lousy soccer tendencies…mxm. it’s a good thing thandeka beat that player to the ground

  116. Eish Kaizer Chiefs players and their lousy soccer tendencies…mxm. it’s a good thing thandeka kicked that player to the ground

  117. yoh, i think she was right to pull Ayanda out of the situation but telling Gorilla at the peak was not a good idea hey. it’s going to go down HARD and i think it’s going to go too far. as for that soccer player, he got what he deserved

  118. Lol wen I was younger than now… I showd the midfingr to a man old enuf to b my paps fr calling me baby n sweety n all those terms insinuating he wanted me. He was drunk at that tym… He came at me n was yelling asking y I did that… Staring deep into his angry eyes I stood there aaying nothing in responce… Nwvr have I seen a man that gurious… He slaps me, n I saw start in broad daylight… But still collected myself n stared at him sum more, not even a single tear… Yho… I thout he was angry befor but wat I saw then… He was going mad n his friend intervened n pushd him off… I went home(granpas house) since he knew my gramps… He got scared n came wazipayisa yena… While I was at the back of the house, crying n ngipholisa i5finger print… Lol, if it were my bf… I wud stomp his ass dzamn.

  119. I have come to love this book so much hey, feel like a junkie already! Thanks for this Mike, great ‘blogging’! lol. Find myself laughing out loud ke le one, tjo..
    Thandeka jus cracks me up.. “People who say “eckse” “es vaar” “ola” then whistle are a dying breed because most of them died a while back of diseases linked with promiscuity.” Kwaaaa!! wa tella ngwanyana!

  120. This chapter touched me, on the subject of abuse. As a child growing up, I witnessed many times, my dad beating my mother. At one point my mom and I actually slept in an outside building at home, coz I think she could sense that, that day was one of those days she was going to get a beating. Late at night there were banging sounds at the door and my dad was trying to bash the door open. I think, I was about 6-7years old back then. My mom and I both jumped out the window and ran away from home, to a neighbor’s house. I know that night, my dad would have probably killed us. We came back home the next day when the situation had calmed down. But the emotional and verbal abuse continued. As a grown woman, I have promised myself, that I will never tolerate abuse of any kind from a man. As soon as I see the signs I walk away. Abazali bethu babekezelela izinto eziningi ezibhedayo, futhi ezinzima. We women of today are more liberated and we live in a society that says NO to Abuse.

  121. Thandeka ke straat meit shem, wat happened to de job Gorilla offered her vele?? *sifun’ukwazi baba*

  122. Yoh, cnt wait for th next chapter *addicted*. I hv nevr been slapped, n i m scared of abusers. I evn dumpd a guy that spoke to me harshly for no major wrong-doing, js within 2 months of dating. I assumed he would hit me soon so i left him.

  123. Wow its my 1st tym posting a comment on dis blog! I’m nt a reader bt dis jst got my absolute attention nd interest! I must say u hav smthng going on here Bro keep up da Good wrk nd hope it takes u far! As for da SA hai Madoda I thnk u must stand up nd stop sitting on top of ur Brains or ul loose a SA woman 2 da “kwangs” as u call dem!

  124. Yeah it happns to me once with my ex I use to hav this circle of frnds whom will go 4 a drinking spree whnever we ar free and 1 day it happned dat we wher out and my phone battery dies in a process so he couldn’t get hold of me yooo it was da first I saw him so furious by da tym he got me I was veri drunk he smaged me twice infront of all my frnds but I ddnt care @ dat moment until da fllwing mrng but den he apologised and promised not to lay his hand on me ever frm der I limited my drinking and I’ve withdrawn frm dose rong road frnds

  125. Lol fot wit ma classmate wen i was 12 ada dan dat nope. Told my bf dat if he eva hits ima dump hm de n den , saw too many women get beat up by their husbands n bf’s around n i promised myself dat m neva gna let dat happen to me

  126. Yes I hv been moered many times by men ,simply bcoz m aggressive n sturbbon myself and wud always throw few fists of my own . But the one time I was moered n felled helpless n out of it was wen my ex hit me so hard against d wall n kicked my stomach all bcoz I ddnt finish cooking on time n h was starved . I was so scared of him for days and I wondered what was going t happen next ,dat I take my baby and leave his ass or just stay . Lol ,the next time h hit me shem I showed him that m worse violent that him ,he told his mom that I have rage problem hahahahaha

  127. It happened once when I went to a family gathering. Later that evening I came back home to find him waiting for me at the gate and he beat me so bad that I was unrecognisable & had broken ribs. Even held a gun to my head. Iyo till today Ive never begged for my life like that before. I was so confused cause I didnt know what I did wrong. He called my mother and told her that he was going to kill me that night cause I failed to take instructions and all my mother said was “do whatever you think is right”. His dad rushed to our house that night and spoke to him and repremanded him and we all agreed that Id go to the doctor and tell him I was mugged. The following day I went to work with my swollen face and one eye and I told them the mugging story. My boss called me to the office and told me straight that I was lying and I needed to press charges. I didnt do it . Following week I got another beating and this time my boss sent people to teach him a lesson and I moved out of that house and left everything behind and started over. Never looked back instead till today he wants me back. NEVER!!

  128. Everyday i come home after work to check on my tablet if Mike has added a chapter. I love reading this blog/book. As for being hit, oh hell its never happened to me, but just like Thandeka id hit the fool will ever try. And ill make sure i leave a MARK!

  129. This soccer player sounds like teko modise 😀 , some men really think cheating is cool but really it hurts ,I once beat up my boyfriend cause he never slept at home claiming he slept in car outside the club he passed out and couldnot drive ,after a minute came in a sms from the other gf saying “thanx for the night” I could nt hold my self I was crying I beat him up ,and later he apologised we married now

  130. Damn! Cn’t really stop drooling 4 more.great work indeed.

    U r not educating Us bt also have a heart of gold n a helpfull hand.May the gud Lord Our God bless U abundantly.

  131. I was in an abusive(physical) marriage for seven years & it felt like i was a slave to a man i loved.I left him 12yrs ago but the emotional scars are permanent.

  132. Thanks again Mike for a great piece of writing.

    I am based in Siyabuswa, Mpumalanga therefore will gladly help in doing the collections. My contact number is 074 588 4974, Hildah Lindi Mabhena

  133. Lol,dat sokha star deserved it,hope u broke his knee so he can neva play sokha again,n he can loose his cheap swag…n m impressed,u stil have morals afta ol,protectng ur friend 4rm a cheating bastard whil u busy slpng around wit kwaaangs,lol

  134. Wooooooooo love love love….Mike my man you’re a true NINjA…yoh this is seriously addictive…thanks so much*excited*

  135. M highly addicted 2 dis blog , in da similar situation as Thandeka ai id also hit a loser lyk dis dude here

  136. Lols, Thandeka don’t waste time, at least not with a guy who is not even a 1st team regular, I see some broken bones on this skinny boy once Gorilla gets to him. #Big ups Mike.

  137. I personally love reading , but for me this has been more than just a story, I’m so hooked its not even funny. i love how catchy, fresh and exciting this whole story is. I don’t care noba bad things keep happening to tandeka as long as it keeps us wanting more, because dats the most important part. i wudnt want you to change anythn about yor writing Mike it your story, own it, write it your own way and keep us excited.

  138. k mara Tandeka batong y is she calling Gorrila and not Python…..Thandeka.., uyaziqala izinto kodwa yhu…..hayshm sowi cant interpret, tz quite hard interpreting Xhosa believe me….

  139. Haha well my bf once pulled me n when i resisted he pulled harder, he hurt my wrist and he was stronger. I have long nails so the second i got a chance i strangled him, pushing him into a corner and scratched him good.. He has never been rough since:)lol makes me proud still..

  140. I have been hit before..and stayed for years and offcos he didn’t stop at once but over the years he stopped but graduated to other more subtle forms of abuse..emotional etc I finally got the courage to leave.

  141. mike mike mike…….. plz can u atleast post 2 chapters a day 1 fr confesnz n 1 fr Zgalgoes2jhb plz so we can be in a position to balance ths thing yaqooooo. plz pretty plz!! gr8 read by way.

    well to answer yr quest…. ndandinga bethwa mna i was being moerd n i was young then. it was like da dude had sum kinda control over my life. eventually i fell out of luv n that saved my ass frm all da emotional verbal n physical abuse.

  142. Lol I once hit my boyfriend n he jst walked away n we broke up. Three months ltr we gt bk togeda n weneva we hd an argument he’d threaten to take revenge….lol I’d laugh my ass of n dat would b de end of out little tit tat

  143. I have read like 66 Chapters oin two days, now im anxiously waiting for chapter 67 come on Mike, this is raw ang great to read because its things that happen but nobody ever cared to write about. A lot of young people will learn from this.

    Dating Nigerians is a no go, no matter how desperate you are they will use you in the name of giving you money but u will end up at deaths door. Trust God always

  144. As for a man hitting me, that has never happened and i dont wish it to happen, if it ever did i would definitely get my revenge. That man will learn to never hit a woman ever again lol

  145. Mike u dng it 4me man,a frnd told me bwt dis a week ago,whn I strtd reading it I jst cudnt stp so plz chapter sisty seven must cum c gng crazy olrdy…u de best man

  146. I have learnt that when you feel (bad or good) your mind switches off completely. I will not encourage to anyone what thandeka has done in the name of justice, I think she ‘moered’ the guy to express her anger to all man in her life including the gorilla(hand job) she shows that she is violent it is the second time she has moered someone first it was ‘s’ now the poor guy. please do not act when in a state of emotions

  147. I actually have been slapped once by a guy I was dating lol funny thing was I slapped him back then dumped him yet slept over at his place left the other morning!

  148. I would have expected Thandeka to have called Python, especially since Gorilla had made her feel cheap & since she & Python seem to have something brewing. And to answer your question, some 4 yrs ago my bf @ the time worked himself up to a fit over a male friend who had just moved 2 PTA. I had planned 2 visit the friend as I hadn’t seen him in 2yrs & since was 1 of very few ppl he knew this side. Bf went ballistic. Saying I was planning to give it up 2 some boy and I was expecting to use his car to go fuck around. I tried explaining but got thrown against the wardrobe, slapped me and tried to rape me. His friend luckily came thru 4 a random visit and took him off me. He said to pack my things so he could take me home. I just scraped it out from there, did nothing about it. Going to lay charges seemed like so much of an effort and every1 would know and probably say it was my fault. So I just left it and left him

  149. I am in witbank Mpumalanga would like to help my with the collection points my number is 0834979348 13 july it is then!!!

  150. Poor skinny retard will be drove over by a african train tomorrow shame pity his boned ass …………ncoooh Ayanda bayamfikisa eGoli ontletle Thandeka hehehe Zulu Girl alifakwa libuya neTackle behind

  151. lol jah neh if there z a fight there has 2 b a zulu guy involved…….soooo true , we zulus r violent lyk that……nyc 1 broo!!!!…………….our lectures always encourage us to read things nt related 2 the course thanx 4 makin t easy #hooked#

  152. If u don’t put up 67 at Least till 75 soon ill call my ” kwaang ” on you! 😐 Am like a coke addict going thru withdrawal symptoms, buzzing jerking and convulsing coz I can’t get a next fix!!!!!

  153. OMW*ClapsOnce* Chineke yoh tjerrrr Thandeka dd well by calling Gorilla, he thinks he is a man let’s see how he will handle another man! Mxm abusive men are plain disgusting nje I’ve been lucky I’ve never dated any! I always get da sweet humble guys who hate abusive men!!!

  154. OMW*ClapsOnce* Chineke yoh tjerrrr Thandeka dd well by calling Gorilla, da soccer player thinks he is a man let’s see how he will handle another man! Mxm abusive men are plain disgusting nje I’ve been lucky I’ve never dated any! I always get da sweet humble guys who hate abusive men!!!

  155. Reading Comments and I must say I’m shocked…Its sad that woman abuse is this bad and still getting worse.Its a sick twisted world we live in.You Ladies are brave,and don’t let another man treat you like that…

  156. I swear if ths book was a drug I wouldn’t be ashamed to announce tht I’m addicted to it….. I mean its 3am en I’m still readin ths. ai nooo… me shem I salute u criously…. Ths book is somethin else en I still can’t believe its a guy writtin all ths….as I saed me I salute u dude keep up the good work that’s some talent you got ryt thr en u is really puttin it into good use….you have opened my eyes on several thngs eg I shld get me a nigerian man papa I shouldn’t play like that mos me eh!….lol naaa man life lessons tht u hv taugh here….hats off to u!

  157. In one sitting I read through the whole diary, that’s how addictive it is! I can’t believe it! I have to wait :-(

  158. By the wae if I fail my exam ai its your fault writtin such thngs en expecting me to leave it hlf wae its impossible…..can’t wait 4 the next chapter though #eyes wide open clock is stating that its 3:14….imagination goin on on how tht skinny south african man will be shown 😀 😀

  159. Kiiikiiiiikiiiiii joweeee this guy ke pudi he cries knee injury . Jooo Mike u r so making our days broe keep up the good work .

  160. Well I have never been hit but been told by all boyfriends that I needed 2 b moered bcause of my attitude,but I have hit several man and once 2 @ the same time and 1 Hobbo u touched my Bum :-(

  161. Reminds me of my “ppaaa”! Tjo I saw flying objects, cheeck tingling lawa pha kude nelocici leskolo. Was still a teen n this boy endi plita ehamba neetshomi zakhe n I was alone. Calmly looked for my earing n put it back n asked him y he hit me. Zange aqonde ba am gathering all strength I cld so he didnt c my “ppaaa” coming. I used both palms same tym. Hehehehe I hit him so hard ngelo “return” he fell over, the shock on his face krkrkr! The friends ran, cowards. And I went to tell my dad…we looked 4 him ikasi lonke. After tht he’s the one who used to nqanda abanye bangasondeli kum hahahaha. I was a quiete child so inoba wayecinga ndinyabile ke…

  162. To the Q of the day
    Yeah I’ve been beaten up by my then bf. He slapd me for the first time in a club (Ftv Brooklyn). I was talking to his very own friend but he looked at it as if I was cheating.
    I broke up with him a few days later. Its funny how apologetic he was

  163. Wow, you just keep getting better. This is brilliant. I’ve not been in an abusive relationship, its easy to say that you’d walk out or kick his ass …but one never really knows what you would do unless you get there. I listen to women I who I counsel who tolerate the abuse, they know its wrong, but they aren’t always able to walk away, and although I feel sad, I cannot judge them. I love that Thandeka stands up for herself, it should teach women to do the same. No one should hit you…ever! Thank you Mike for bringing real issues into your script

  164. Hai Mike me so addicted* waiting for another chapter, as the beating my man want tried but was not pleased i so angry that i fought back he ended sitting on the sofa apologising i was throwing anything a him nd yah neva again he did that to me

  165. interesting chapter, ei Thandeka shame uhlanya, nt even two months is joburg n already useneynkinga eingaka, eish lengane…..
    Answer to your que….. Yes i was attached at about 11pm, i was about 30km away frm my flat. For the first tym ngbulawa ngeympama i ddnt even knw wht to do coz i ddnt even cry nor fyt back, i jc cudnt blv wth was happening. I jc told him to hit harder as if i was anada man, coz clearly he ws seeing a man in me. He walked out, i called a cab, as broke as i was, but he had cash endlini, i took 400 wecab, cudnt gv clear directions to the driver, had to walk 400m at00:30 to get to car. We broke up, he apologised kwaze kwangenela abazal bakhe. Bt when i think bout it, i get mad at me for not fighting back, nx i shud hv

  166. Really… The suspense is killing me. Next chapter please.
    And btw I am one of those so called “religious girls”. And I honestly couldn’t relate to your story in any way. But in any case I’m enjoying it.

  167. This has been by far the most interesting story I have ever read especially local. Thanx alot sisi you have made me realise a lot of things I didn’t take note of in life. till next tym!

  168. yes i was once clapped by my boyfrnd…..and i stood there and did nuthing cz i was shocked but i cryed myself 2 death nd i was angry as hell cz he was my 4th steady boyfrnd mara here he was da 1st 1 2 clap me……i wish i don’t have 2 go thru dat eva again coz i’m still dating him as we speak bt i’m not afraid of him…..and i assured him dat if he pulls dat on me again than he’ll c da real me……

  169. Oooohhhh T, you’ve just started more drama between South African men and aboGorilla! And yes was once beaten by ex-boyfriend, some ages ago. Happened so fast could not fight back, was black blue red within 2 minutes. Laid charges, cops couldn’t stop smiling at my misery, don’t even know what happened to that case or the bastard!

  170. Yes I’ve beeb hit by mA man but I tried 2 hit him bck nd t gotten worse….waiting 4 d nxt chApter nw…

  171. Tjo this is very good hleng, I can’t wait for the next chapter. This stupid soccer player wa tella she should have done worse, mxm. What do girls see in them anyway I mean really what’s so appealing about sa soccer players?

  172. Good read Mike, keep it up. I feel fot the skinny ass soccer player…uyeza uGorilla!

    Back to your question..I was once slapped by my ex who’s my baby daddy, I bit him on his chest so hard n left a scar. He even told his mom about it..Mamas boy tendencies!!

  173. Good read Mike, keep it up. I feel for the skinny ass soccer player…uyeza uGorilla!

    Back to your question..I was once slapped by my ex who’s my baby daddy, I bit him on his chest so hard n left a scar. He even told his mom about it..Mamas boy tendencies!!

  174. Yeah ma ex bf used to clap me more dan once,I wud clap back but den eventually pressed charges and he spent 2 nyts in jail*dat jerk*…I’m loving ur blog mike big ups to u man*big smile*

  175. hate waitin 4 da nxt chapter then again each n everytym i see a nija boi i think of python yho i thnk i hv a crush on hm lol…*winx*

  176. G is gonna kill someone… By the way Sankay is a nyc joint hey…

    Yes my ex once slapt me, but I’m Zulu lyk that, I hit him hard with a broom stick… Lmao…

  177. Tjo! This was a hectic chapter,although it was very short..nonetheless i loved it! Never been hit by a guy before and d day it has 2 happen I’ll break up with him. Bcos if I forgive him 4 slapping me he’ll xpect me 2 4give him 4 punching nd kicking me, until he eventualy kills me

  178. Kwaaaaakwaaaaaaaaaaaa ayeye zulu gal “I’ll moer u” lmao imagine her kickim d skinny as stupid soccer star lmao, u go gal ogo tlwaela gampe that skinny as nxa tltltltltltl

  179. I have NEVER been hit by any1 who claimed to love me esp men, iv always sworn that the day it would happed d coloured in me would raise up n I wil moer sum1 back, so anti abusive men!

  180. Yes I have and we fought. The first time was unexpected and it threw me over but as the adrenaline kicked in and I realised what happened I fought and he too landed with some serious scratches and teeth marks. Problem with us women is that we let the notion of ‘love’ cloud our judgement. He was my first love since 15. When I came out of it alive I just cut him out and stupid me I didn’t even open a case. He apologised, even threatened suicide but I suppose in retrospect he was manipulating me…so foolishly I went back. When he snapped the 2nd time during a disagreement we had on the road and snapped me then kicked me I saw then that if I don’t kill him, he’ll kill me. I changed my number and basically disappeared after telling him its over. I was 23 (had been working since I finished my degree 18mnths prior, was very independent) and all the signs were there way before the physical abuse started. I was just too passive and blinded to
    see. I regret not filing a charge and just being a coward and walking away. I am in a great relationship now, thankfully I ended the violence which I had never been exposed to in my prime. I’m 31 and in a good place :)

  181. So when are we expecting chapter sixty seven? …I’m soooo in love with this book yoh ! Can’t wait to read the other chapters

  182. Nvr bin hit b4 bt i swear wth ma life de day it’l hppn twil b hel of a cat n dog fight en if it means hvn 2 strngle hs neck..u go t dats a zulu hz a sccr plyr nt a wrstler rspct amantombazana.

  183. Woo Gorilla is gonna kill tht soccer guy!!! Yoh! But well done Zulu girl 4 defending urself, he had no rite! (My addiction gets stronger… Chapter 67:) )

  184. [Answer to the Q]:
    Yes I’ve been slapped once b4, by my boyfriend @ the time. And out of reflex I took off my shoe n hit him with it. #ZuluWarrior lol… We broke up that very day

  185. Yoh! + iyahlanyisa yin pho impama lol
    I was hit by my friend ethi uyangdlalisa hah! Kwath angihlanyez, udlala ngento okungdlalwa ngayo aybo

  186. You go girl Thandeka for standing up for your friend! Skinny monkey vs big Gorilla? Skinny monkey (soccer player)going down! And to answer you question yes I’ve been slapped by a guy before. Didnt see it coming that so one can imagine the shock I got! I tried to get back @ him with a slap but he managed to hold both my arms to my side tightly that i couldn’t even move. He told me he’s sorry then and I shouldn’t try to hit him cause Im no match for him.. Ja neh! That was it… Few days later I ended things between us and told him he was no match for me!

  187. Wow wow wow!!!! Some shit is about to go down big up to Thandeka for fighting back mina nje no man will touch me shem!!!! Unless if he wants a death sentencE!!!!! Big up to girl power :) Yooooh kodwa Gorilla is gona break this guy’s legs and goodbye PSL hahahaha

  188. Its so sad to see n hear hw many women ar being abuse daily!Some even ar surprised n think I’m lying when I say I have never being hit by any men!Some think it normal to hit whn in a relationship!!!No no no it not ladies !!love yourself n dnt let anyone hit kick u like football !N get out before it to later!he will never charge!! O tla kwa motho a re”o nale mathata shame o tla shensha”deh he wnt !the day he change it will be the day he kill u !frm hitting to killing!thanks Mike for this !love reading so much !N thandeka le yena y Gorilla jooo!

  189. I’m done 20 chapters in one day tjo, waitt a minute this book is is only half cooked! Hopefully we will get the missing pages glued on as travel on this educational young girls journey to the back cover. Thanx Mike

  190. hahahaha kwashuba! kwashuba kwashuba! hahahaha kwaaaa ! the soccer twit will get squashed like a fly!! heheheheheheh awemah! hahaha

  191. I read thise all 66 screpts of Zulu grl to Jozi and all 15 of Confessions of a Sugababy in 15 hrs non-stop yesterday. This wrks are really addictive. Keep it up with ur works, good to see some pepo stil ivesting on writing.

  192. well i too have been hit by a man and for for me it was like 2 slaps while we were in his car i got so angry that i knocked his noise with my forehead and he bleed and i got out his car and grabbed a stone and for everytime he came closer to me i hit his tail lights until i ran n got a taxi and when home and weeks went by n when we saw each other he called me a crazy b**** n told me he was sorry n we neva dated again

  193. Wow big up to T….@Lebolle gal v been where uve been nd tnk u for sharing ur story….I was in an abusive relationship for 9 yrs I was abused emotionally and physically mostly I even contracted HIV in d preocess….d first tym was just few slapps ,I forgave him den kwanda okwalandela…de were many incidents after dat….d 1 tym I remember I cot him in bed with d ada girl both naked in action….he moved from her came to me wangshaya ngecord ka gesi engshayisa okwengane ishawa ngebhande….waze wangihenga ngayo….kwasiza ukufika kuka mama wakhe….went to open a case for him but when it was tym for him to be convicted I felt sorry ngamhlanganisela imal waphuma ngebail…ngabuye ngamxolela…I know most of u will say ngangthanda but not I was 19 I was inlove so I tot..I beared 2 kids with ds person…I always tot what will happen to my kids if I leave him who will take me with these 2 kids so I stayed….ds he wanted to force himself on me I refused wangikhomba ngombese….d next morning I said to myself dats it went to shoprite ngathenga iratex ..came back to where we stayed…ngapheka tin fish I crushed iratex kahle…he came back frm work ngamphakela ngafaka ucurry ngavuuvuzela impuphu yeratex ngaphinde ngafaka ucurry ngamnika wadla….I watched him eat as efaka ispuni ngangithi” idlanja”…waqeda..akafanga dat night but waphathwa isisu d next morning..ngasaba ukphinde ngifake jst incase eshona…cos sasihlala sobabili….but ngabona ukuthi ngzombulala okungcono I must leave so I day I decided to leave and akakholwanga ukuthi ngyamshiya…never looked back till tdy naye akanaki nezingane zakhe..but m doing just fine witout him in our lives…kunzima to be a single parent but rather dat den being n an abusive relationship…Thanks Mike I enjoy tellin my story cos it feels like a lift is lifted off my sholders everytime I tell it…m still n a healing process but m a surviver

    1. SIS NokthulaK thank you for sharing. Siyabonga that you had the courage yokuphuma. You are strong and beautiful! uyindlovukazi! Isalute you, engathyunkulunkulu angakubusisa nabantwana bakho. Bazokhula bakusize uzobona….Konke kuyenzeka, themba nje wena.

  194. SIS NokthulaK thank you for sharing. Siyabonga that you had the courage yokuphuma. You are strong and beautiful! uyindlovukazi! Isalute you, engathyunkulunkulu angakubusisa nabantwana bakho. Bazokhula bakusize uzobona….Konke kuyenzeka, themba nje wena.

  195. Being coming here to check 4 new post for the past hourz, mara Mike why r u dng this to us? Give us sum chapterz please :”(

  196. Lol and this is all fiction? I use to stay at millpark hotel when I went on courses. I always knew that the events taking place there were most definately kaotic!!! Anyway good read and yes these are the experiences some girls have at varsity

  197. Oh! Man I’m waiting in anticipation for de next chapter. I can’t to hear what would gorilla do to that soccer boy who slap her toy. Wow I must tel u that ur pretty good writer and mzansi is proud to have people like u. So BIG UP!!!

  198. Shoooo Drama nje yodwa haha!

    Yes iv been in 3 relatiopnships where I had fights with my ex’s… I started growing nails so tht I would scratch the face. Leaving bad marks tht one neva forgets and take time to heal. I told myself it ends right there! 3 years later I hvnt had any sort of bad relationship and remained single for a while! NO MORE!!

  199. Yes I was a slap by a guy for my rose garden, after that I was so pissed I wanted to kill him but I didn’t the place we were @ it was far from home and he was the one with the car. Gosh was I pissed as soon as he drop me home, I told him I never wanted to see him ever again for he is a fool “isiphukuphuku somfana” nxa hitting me for my garden come on!!!

  200. Haw kodwa ngsalindele ukuzwa ngo Thandeka noAyanda ne soccer star kuth kphelelaph…pls Mike buya ne chapter 67 to 1000

  201. it was either I become his girlfriend or a hot clap nd u know what I decide for a clap cos it was going to b once off than what I have seen his passed friend went through glade I never gave him a chance,but as woman we should stand together and beating the other woman cos of a man we should beat the man

  202. Next Chapter pls m so addicted to this, n wenza kahle washaya dt good4 nothing soccer player. I hope Ayanda appreciates it unlyk a friend of mine who freaked out on me when I told her dt she was dating a cheating bustard

  203. Ah mike:( whole weekend waiting
    I understand its not easy esp coz you writing two blogs ai but I must say you’ve started an evolution….we love your blogs

  204. Noooooo I’m sorry but the anticipation is killing me….. Please post 67. Its already 2days late *going crazy*

  205. I have not been hit by any man, I would probably hit back. O tla mpetsa mare ke tla be ke tswile ka sengwe le nna, jerr.

    But why call G and not P? He is the one that needs to be protecting you, now that he is hitting it……….I can just imagine gore G wa go modirang shame o ntlhomola pelo that boy. Banna na tella shame, who the F….. does he think is is?

    Next xhapeter, I am begging you.

  206. Lol it was in 2007,I was doing my grade 11. You know girls who get bitten up,they think problem is theirs and the act of being bitten is disciplining ’em. I was one of those girls but for that day only, and I made sure it never happened, not by him not by any future boyfriend. Pitty my classmate saw me,I denied everything,come on who’s proud of being bitten by her boyfriend and knowing myself,it was gonna be drama and people on my case.I had to deny it and it worked cause before we even went to lunch it was silent. Great book Nkulie, waiting for chapter 67.

  207. withdrawal symptoms are killing me here…….. can:’t wait for G to beat the crap out of that boy. ukuthathelaphi ukushaya intombazane nx( how dare he lays his hand on a woman)

  208. Iv neva had that kind of a connection with any 1, but I promise if it should happen he will have the scars to tell the tale. Nice!

  209. I applaud uThandeka for standing up for her girl even though she didn’t know how she’d react. Mina I had a friend I told about her bf’s cheating ways and she accused me of being jealous and didn’t speak to me for 2 years and stuck with the boyfriend. Anyway this friend of mine showed up at my place about a year ago and apologized for the way she reacted coz she finally caught her bf in bed with another woman. She also had STD from him fortunately its the only thing she caught.

    What I don’t get is why is Thandeka calling Gorrila instead of Python??? Can hardly wait to see what happens next…

  210. I have been slapped by a guy i was dating, i broke up with him right there and then and i never looked back. We had been dating for a year. He told me he was playing i told him told him to go find another toy to play with. I do not tolerate such i am sorry. It all starts with a slap before you know it you have bruises everywhere. If you allow him to do it once what will stop him from doing it again?

  211. KHABA LENJA!!!!!! #singing…

    I remember when i beat up some security guard when i was 19…he swore at my mom and i just saw red!. I am half coloured and half swati i reckon thats a dangerous combination. I cried too yet i felt really proud to have protected my Mom.

    Worse part he called the police on me to have me arrested for assault! LMFAO the fuckery!

    You go girl… this is a lesson for all the redundant dolts that think hitting a woman makes you some freaken super hero…#smh

  212. Ai no, I’m running out of patience now, honestly..!! When is chapter 67 coming out!! Got me checking this website every 30minutes

  213. I am from Namibia and I first heard about this blog about two weeks ago via twitter. Needless to say I have not done much work after this discovery. It really is a very good blog and as much as the story is centered around South Africa, I know a lot of us can relate to the story maybe not on a personal level but we all know a Thandeka somewhere and the sad thing is they seem to be more and more of them these days.

    Big-ups on the the blog though its the best read I’ve had in a very long time. totaly something different and unexpected. Please continue to write more!!

  214. Iv bin patiently waintin 3 days nw ngifelani kodwa. Anticipation is killin me!!!
    Uncedile shem thandeka wambonisa kuthi akudlalelwa intombazaneni yomZulu. Fct we r a nation tht tyks no1’s bulshit

  215. Wow what an addiction has this become,i started reading it two days agkeo and now im done,yet i want more,Wow is alk i could say Thank yoy Mi

  216. I have NEVER been hooked on a read like this before. Amazing stuff….now can the chapters keep coming! 😀

  217. I have a terrible headache but the eddiction is playing its part. Thanks for not posting chapter 67 today,I’ll feel very much better tomorrow

  218. I have a friend who to this day is being beaten up..she has always been in abusive relationships from a young age. the bastrd she married is even worse! She called me up one night to help her run away,the following night she told me to take her soon as we got there he had a pot of warm water for ME on the stove!!
    Its so unfortunate that some women put up with this shit! Im afraid of even visiting her now..

  219. I’m not patiently waiting, I’m actually very unhappy. I think it would be best to communicate your plan of action i.e tell us how frequently you want to post it’s very disappointing to log on every day to find nothing.

    If it was a matter of choosing I’d choose Thandeka over the other blog, if your overwhelmed

  220. Hi, from the beginning of this diary, I asked myself questions that I did not even hav answres to.I don’t even know what n how we make decisions as young adults. This is truly eye openning thax a lot I’m discovering myself n getting prepared to raising teenagers soon. But ryt now I’m encouraging everyone around to read this especially those in tertiary n high schools. Many thax. Mrs Maphoto.

  221. What has South African man done to Ayanda kodwa? According to her there is nothing good about SOuth African men. I bet she hate her father the moment she realises he is South African. eeeeeYa!

  222. I can relate to her experience of been hit like that. Good thing she had courage to fight back. What a SHERO, stanfing up for another sister, she gets my appluase. Take my hat off fo her.

  223. Mike I’ve been hit several tymz ubaba wezingane zami. The best thing I did ngiye ngahlukana naye cz I blv beating sum1 won’t solve a thing. Now I’m happy without him in my life

  224. Haibo! What’s happening here now? Chapter 66 doesn’t sound at all like Mike’s writing. Its way too tacky and clumsy. Not his signature tone to it and a lot of errors. Mike, if you’d be reading this please pay attention and do what you’re good at – write! I’m a bit disappointed and don’t take this the wrong way. Criticism can be good.

  225. I can relate to her experience of being hit like that. Good thing she had courage to fight back. What a SHERO, standing up for another sister, she gets my appluase. Take my hat off for her.

  226. Wooow thandi , u r nt a coward n u did a good thng by tellin ayanda abt dt bustard hu really has no respct by showin off wit anothr gal infront of u. *flip nxt pg

  227. Slapped by my ex once..Yoh! I was livid, I hit back strong, full force..kicking as well..whoop whoop! NX!

  228. dont get me wrong i am hooked to this dairy, mara cant help noticing how you seem to look down on south african men and paint Nigerians so pretty.
    for me that tells a story……….. I guess every1 is entitled to their own opinions
    *clap once*

  229. I wonder what is this Pikinini going to do,when he has to confront G!

    Well done T,we r always afraid of interfering even if it places our loved ones in danger!

  230. Good 4 u Thandeka 4 kicking d bustard,i would hv done d same “strong pple stand up 4 themselves,bt d strongest pple stand up 4 others” My ex once punched me bcos i answered hs phone when hs other gal ws calling,i almost shot him wit my work firearm,thank God i missed,id b in jail 4 killing an asshole.

  231. Most women, esp African women believe that a man has to hit you to show that he loves you. And we always stay in these relationships and marriage because we are taught that ‘umfazi uyabekezela’ and the fact that we are scared of ‘ihlazo’what people will say if you leave your marriage.

  232. I am really pleased that you are using your blog to help others less fortunat but most importantly, giving people a chance to be a part of something that awesome. Most people usually want to help and don’t know to. Thank you

  233. I have been slapped by my ex boyfriend who was indeed Zulu, have nothing against them for that matter, and I still stayed with him cause I blamed myself of course… very stupid of me at the time… really enjoy reading this, very hooked…

  234. There is too much talent in Mzantsi….Mike spread those wings like an igle and fly brother….you are going further don’t let any kind of obstacles hinder you…

  235. Hehehehe…. Tjhesa Thandeka ha o tlaelwe jwalo ngwananyana! Iv never bin hit by any man bt if that hppns in future I shal nt even hsitate to dump d IDIOT! WOW IM SOOO ADDICTED TO THIS BOOK NW, CNT EVEN GO TO DA LOO, IMAGIN KWAAAAKS…

  236. Men who hit woma should suffer serious punishment and know their place i wouldve kicked that guys groins repeatedly till he fell flat to the groundtill he begged for mercy nd got back up to his knees and cried like he was begging for life which he would…nxaaaa!

  237. Lmao I jst had 2 comment lmao yhoooo vele vele thandeka avutha gorilla lmao yhoooo as I crawl 2 my grave kikikikikiii

  238. Wooooow Zulu Thandeka goed oe you did well there uyakujwayela yaz but are you not scard that Gorrilla might take it far? Eish mamah goodluck on this one… Love you and thank you for fighting back im behind you 100 on that one dear.

  239. Oh yes and I remember this one time I fought back geeez I hate man that hit women period ,I know most people would think I don’t respect the man whatsoever byt hitting back but hell no ,mama didnt raise no coward

  240. Tjo Thandeka, I don’t blame her for what she did, as for me I was gonna reach the same way she did, I love to protect my vrends as much as dey will do da same for me…..mina bengonshaya ngendlela yokutie ake ahlane few month without playing soccer, wathinta abafazi, wathinta imbokodo…..

  241. The blog is all good and interesting but I’m just scared tht u mke it easy for SA girl”woman” to hurt SA man or as u put it “boys” by the insulting
    And degrading statements u mke of”US”SA man so plz mind wat u say we can see tht u dislike SA guys

  242. I was once slapped by a man I dated, he suspected that I was cheating on him with his best friend. I was so disgusted that he could think that of me. I ended the relationship. He tried to get back with me, but I refused telling him that he’ll surely do it again hoping that I’ll forgive him. Watsho wancama! He regrets his actions up to date. He is now married but still tells me that he will love me forever.

  243. yoh! that piece of crap! even when i’ve decided m going to give him shit when we meet, i shake instead, i feel like this time around i’ll bleed.

  244. I so love ds blog,i once wz hit by someone i love,didnt see it coming,bt whe it happened wz also shocked cudnt cry bt when i got into my room i broke down as i didnt believe it really took me mnths to forgive bt havent forgot

  245. Firstly i have just started reading this series i must admit one of the best reads i have encountered so far. But i don’t get why thandeka was so ready to defend ayanda yet wouldn’t do the same for her aunt.

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