Chapter Sixty Seven

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I am not sure if its weakness in me for I was starting to panic. Was calling Gorilla the wisest thing to do? I know a lot of people never think through the consequences of their actions. They always forget the “and then what” part. If Gorilla came and harmed this guy it will be on me. Yes he had been a dick and slapped me but wouldn’t I be and even bigger fool if I caused more harm to him. I was angry, true, but when anger subsides it replaced with reason. In high school there were always those people whom if you would mess with their older brothers, cousins or hired taxi people would come wait for you at the gate. Funny enough it was always coloured guys but I swear I had never seen a coloured taxi driver in Mooi River. Had I become that girl whom when there was a problem I would run get my muscle whom when they dispensed justice it was always disproportionate to the original crime. Did this soccer player whom now I was feeling sorry for deserve that kind of a beat down. I was conflicted. I read somewhere of a woman who had cut off her lying cheating husbands dick with a razor after she had caught him cheating. Yeah she got her revenge and woman rights groups supported her but guess what, she spent the next 17 years of her life in jail. His dick was sewn back on and he moved on. Think before you act! Think! Well calling Gorilla was not me thinking clearly!

I asked Ayanda when she had gotten herself tangled with this guy. She was forthcoming. She told me that when she went to Popbottles he had come with some of his team mates. Girls were flocking to them she said but seemingly he had eyed her and her alone. She said she had been surprised because although she was pretty in her own way guys don’t normally pick her out of a group of girls. She said usually guys are after the skinny ones. She wasn’t even big she was a 34 on good days and maybe 36 on other days so why was she so self conscious. She did dress a bit arty though like I said earlier. She also added that when usually got a guy she liked they often got intimidated when they discovered she had money and drove. For some reason men are intimidated by a girl who drives! This guy on the other hand had not shied away and actually called back. She liked him. He had told her he was single which probably was true only that he left out that single doesn’t mean exclusive. I have always wondered why girls feel like if they don’t get enough game the settle for the first thing that comes their way. Its fact. I had never really been the girl that was last chosen when it comes to guys so I could never fully appreciate.

So this moron had picked Ayanda out of a bunch. That was nice and sweet. Maybe he had turned over a new leaf? But nah, men don’t change, if he cheats once he will cheat again. He will be sorry and contrite when you catch him and will work hard even to get back into your good graces but once he is back in he learns from his mistake. With men the mistake they personally acknowledge to is not that they cheated but that they got caught. Amongst their boys its embarrassing and a laughing matter that he got caught. Don’t fool yourself. Ayanda needed to learn that not every man who says hi to you is a good man. I was not an expert on men but I could smell shit from a mile away and that guy was shit! Almost said that in Zulu eish! We slept soon after because I did not want to talk anymore. I was still angry. I had class the following day in any case. Sex and violence in one day had really got my blood pumping hence I totally passed out.

In the morning I left with Ayanda who I am certain was still asking herself what happened last night. She didn’t have class but she dropped me off next to the Ameic Deck and next to where the Wits busses park. Yeah at times I forget I was a Witsie hey! I think she was unhappy with me and that worried me. What if she felt I had crossed the line and ended our friendship? She was in all fairness the only true friend I had since I got to Johannesburg. I remember when i first left home how I had been so excited to meet more people and make many new friends. University I had said is that last place where you truly make life time friends. I had often told myself that I must pick friends well. You cannot come from KwaDukuza, all the way to Johannesburg and make only friends from Johannesburg and even find a boyfriend from back home. That is the mentality that made a lot of people backward. With this decided I must make more an effort to expand my circle. I had a busy day though ahead of me. I met up with Mosima and we did a tutorial together. Lol some girls can gossip I tell you. She told me that one of our lecturers was blackmailing a third year student for sex to get good grades. Problem with Mosima was that she was such a good and affluent talker it was easy to believe her. She says things with so much conviction and detail you can’t doubt her even if you know better. This is Wits I felt, nothing like that ever happens, we are too dignified! Maybe at University of Limpopo or Durban University of Technology not here! See why I didn’t want a funny university. Always drama of the worst kind! Wits we only do sex tapes, Special Assignment and good grades! Beat that! Its funny how we had so much free time in varsity but time seemed our worst enemy when it came to the academics. I was very behind so I switched off my phone and decided that today I focus on academics. In between lectures I hit the library. I didn’t realize how far behind I was O God. All my side drama was starting to put me behind. This week I vowed no more drama. I sat in the quietest place I could find in Wartenweiler so that I could concentrate. Looking around i realized that people are serious about life and I needed to be that too.

It was shortly after 6 that I finally got to my place. I switched on my phone. I had so many messages mostly from Ayanda. Most said “call me when you get this”. I think she had set up that delivery status function on her phone for immediately soon after I read her message she called me! I was even pressing buttons when she called,

“What have you done Thandeka?”

She asked as soon as I said HELLO

“What have you done I can’t believe you”

She said,

O Crap I thought,

What had Gorilla done?

**** The End****

Michael Nkululeko Maphoto


Question: If you are a single mother is finding a new husband your ultimate goal when you enter a new relationship or you still date like any other girl (no matter how discreetly to avoid your child seeing)?

330 thoughts on “Chapter Sixty Seven

  1. Yeppy im the first,lol then I read can’t you also add chapters on weekends coz the waiting is too much dude,big up urself also

  2. To answer your question, when you are a mother priorities changes once you have a child,you cant be selfish and think about your self its about you and ur child now putting some stability on both of you,growing is the number 1 key,can’t play around you had your chance be a role model to the child.

    1. hi phesh does that mean you are going to intrduce everyman you to you child as you said growing up is u’r no 1 key?

  3. I would still date like any other girl…he ( the bf) will be known as mommys bf but he won’t stay with us…

  4. Oh my wonder what gorilla did to that fool! Whatever it is he deserved it,you don’t go around beating woman for exposing your cheating a** behaviour! Mxxxm

  5. oh my word! I hope Gorrila didn’t kill the soccer player…eish trouble loves you Thandeka or you love trouble…..

  6. As a single parent I’m dating like a any girl. My family (dad, brother’s and uncles are the father figures in my son’s life). so I’m not looking for a father figure for my son but I’m looking for someone to put a smile on my face, make me feel girly and just love me… still want to enjoy the pleasures of dating and just enjoy being in a relationship.

    when you have a child you put these things on hold for a certain period so that you look after your child and once they are grown enough you start to take interest in the opposite sex.

  7. Omg wonder wat Gorilla did to the skinny soccer player tleng!poor Thandeka will never have a drama free life nje tjo lol

  8. Wow I can’t wait 4 the next chapter,gorilla has done something to the poor Ayanda’s bf mmmmmmm can’t wait

  9. I culdnt believe my eyes when I saw these words “chapter sixty seven” been foreva waiting for that one..much appriciated yhea wonder wat happend gorilla!!! Ow now we wait for nxt chapter thts the painfull part bt thnx mike..

  10. gosh how Thandeka always manages to be in so much trouble all the time???? oh Gosh wonder ow i would cope, but ey Mike good job keep em coming:)

  11. This is in response to the question about single moms. I think there is absolutely nthn wromg with dating till u find da ryt person to settle down with. just be sure not to bring different men to your child as dis may confuse him/her. be discreet as you mentioned and also when the tym comes for you to make dat decision to settle down with a person explain to your child the changes that will occur. like moving in together etc.

  12. yoh wonder what gorilla did, hai Ayanda must just be strong tuuu #rollingeyes# to answer your question, yes i would date like other women mara my child would only know him like after sometime, when im at least sure we might have a future together.

  13. Lecturers blackmailing students for sex, it sounds similar to Pretoria West TUT campus where a male staff member was using his power to have sex with female students.

  14. very interesting story to read, and i am enjoying every chapter in the book, just finished reading chapter sixty seven.

  15. uGorilla kodwa…..To be continued… Kodwa sum soccer players derisive it if only I had uGorilla I’d send him to the nigga I won’t say his name!

  16. First thing i do when i wake up is to check if there is a new chapter, i enjoy reading the blog and the comments put cherry on to however this new trend of people saying 1st or top 10 is annoying can we just comment on the blog dont think it matters if u read it first or last the important thing is you read

    1. If the soccer player can dish it, then he should be able to handle when someone dishes it out to him. lol. Hope he’s not dead though.

  17. This is a good read indeed. This girl should just go back home or she will see herself in Bigger trouble as she is already is.. Gorilla is no good News indeed.

    Thanks Mike..

  18. Thank you Mike, damn Thandeka hope nothing happened to the Soccer Player, as much as I think he deserves everything that is coming to him, no man should get away with hitting women. Looking forward to chapter 68.

  19. Tjoo i wonder kwenzakaleni,all in all ayanda shud be grateful that she has a friend who stood up for her because such friends are hard to find..cant wait for the next chapter though

  20. Another Drama again..I hope nt..T needs 2 focus on her studies after all she z a 1st year student…by the way what’s happening in her family (Benny aunt n uncle)The pregnant Roomie n her focx?..
    Best I have ever Read..Thanx 2 Grazia Mag 4 introducing me 2 this factual yet realist reflection in life blog..’AmaFinger prints 10 aphezulu’

  21. The truth is ususibhalela umbhedo manje and by saying that im being a true fan. akusizi ukulokhu singcoma because awusoze uwazi amaphutha akho. mina ngikhuliswe kanjalo. i vale lengcwadi b4 uyone ngoba baningi asebephelelwa uthando lwayo.

      1. Don’t mind Fact, that’s his opinion. But what are the majority saying…… As for me I say keep them coming. Am enjoying the language layout and the storyline……am hooked!!,

    1. Mike,you should not have dignified this with an answer… It is obvious that “FACT” here doesn’t know what the facts are,he or she doesn’t know the first thing about writing

      I hate people like you that want to gain popularity through discrediting other people,with negetivity….why did you not write a blog yourself seeing as you know so much

      Wakhuliswa wrong if wakhuliswa kanjalo shame,i am all for constructive critisism but when you insult a brother like you just did,it just shows me that you are a fool after 15 mins of fame,u want a peace of the pie okwakho but awuzolunga,haters never ever do. Stop reading the blog,no one is forcing you to,for when you leave 10 more people will join in your place

      Mike has a daytime job guys haibo,i can imagine he cant be on his phone all the time so that thina sifumane iichapters on demand like im sure most of us would like,lets be realistic people,he is human and the other aspects of his life will crumble if he focuses on just this you also have to remember that writing is not easy,this is fiction yonke lento iphuma kuye,and he has to deliver it perfectly to the best quality so that xa nifunda you’ll be happy with the results….. younreally shouldn’t rush good quality

  22. Good stuff Mike,

    You are probably pretty busy with zulu girl and sugar baby, but you know what would be great is “Naija boy goest to jhb” or “Confessions of a sugar daddy”. Maybe you could get a co author with Naija knowledge and outsource it as part of your blog and create and industry. But quality is. Always better than quantity. That’s why I’m not a fan of ppl saying two chapters a day etc.

    1. Hey. I think this is the umpteenth time i get the request you have made. A Naija Boy story would be awesome lol. I would make him Yoruba from Abuja not Lagos.

      As for the Sugar Daddy story lol i thought about it as well but i still cant get over what profession I would put him in

  23. Uhm… Im private and shy, generally dont believe in PDA and flaunting our “love”/ relationship about… In any case mine is too steady and quite for that. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is dumb and problamatic i feel… And thats just nje without a kid, so id definatly be discreet if my child was part of the equation- cant be introducing said kid prematurely to what might turn out to be any riff-raff.

  24. Y we galz protect busterds evn whn we knw nd hv seen dem do wrng Feelings ar sumthng els yaz bt ey Soccer player yu deserve it yu shld learn dat yu kick ball only on da Fielled nd cnt giv better use 2 ur hands keep dem in ur side pockets or els uzoba yi punching Bag#HADE……..

  25. Oh no! Wat has Gorilla done.. Shame but Thandeka over reacted:(.. She probably damaged the guys knee bad enough already.. Now Gorilla? Oh well, next:).. Thanx for a great start to my day xx

  26. I think single mothers are always rushing 2b back in the dating game…there are good men out there but their kids must always be their 1st priority in terms of exposing them to alota guys…every1 deserves 2b happy but it must be done with an open mind…

  27. nice one again mike…
    on the single mother issue well i still date like any other girl and if i do come across my prince then i will introduce him to my lil princess.
    getting a husband should not be a goal but God has to bless you with one

    thanks for the good work

  28. Python cheated on Thandeka with S but she still went back to him why did she stick her nose on Ayanda’s business? Not that I promote what the soccer player did

    1. Python never cheated on Thandeka. The first time they met at the party they were vibing and kissed. It was then she found Python shagging S in the toilet. They were not dating and in fact had just met that evening at the party

  29. Ooh Thandeka got herself into trouble again.. Your writing is so gud Mike I even found myself dreaming of Python#claps once :-)

    1. OMG, same here, G was busy wanting to touch my rose garden but i stabbed the crap outta him and for some reason he left 10k in my bag..was so happy…it was just a weird dream nje…ai!!

  30. Well won’t lie being single mother and young at that is hard when it comes to relationships because you don’t want take who ever comes along and make the relationship a serious one introduce the kid and yall break-up and the kid is left all confused and heartbroken. I think dating like any other girl is wise until after a certain time when u see where the relationship is going you can then introduce kids into the relationship. *but no daddy calling till he rings that finger*

  31. I love your blog and im a big fan but i just cant help but take offense for dissing Limpopo for the 2nd if not 3rd time.. earlier on 1 of the chapters you said something about limpopo guys and now its University of Limpopo,really now???

  32. speaking from the of a child who is from a single mom who dated and married someone in my teens. there is no secrecy of those kinds of relationships. Single mothers do not shy away from telling their kids the reality of the life they live until this new partner comes along and serves the purpose of being the companion. I for one found it so difficult to deal with that.
    There is no hiding that kind of development in the life of a single mom, that new relationship either creates a drift of the mother and child or it does at times work for the benefit of both parties but its highly unlikely that happy families will be played soon after the relationship starts

  33. How do you know Wits so well Mike? I definitely remember u at UCT.

    Thank you for your blogs, you sure have us hooked.

  34. being a single mother doesnt take away the fact that you a girl and would like all the girly stuff in a relationship.
    i personally enter a relationship because i like the guy, he has shown potential (in all aspects) and shown me that he worth my time.
    parenting in general (single or married) changes certain perspectives, behaviours and expectations. it will make you choose people you bring into your life carefully.
    i just had to end two friendships as is. one chick slapped my son on the head so it was bye bye to her. hey i believe in discipline through the rod but i felt that was crossing the boundary. other chick just decided to stick her hand in my son’s pants. i dont think i have to explain futher on that issues.

  35. Am sho u date like Ada gals bt not forgetting dat u ar a baby mama… As fr Thandeka shame I feel for you sista

  36. Thankx Mike I waited so long fr ds chapter dt I had to read chapter 66 to revive my memory:as for ur question it,s nt easy to let ur child knw if u dating cos u dnt knw hw long it,ll last hw many men u,ll show ur child b4 u find one to marry u somehow ur child will loose respect fr u


  38. OOOOOh my, nut why did she call Gorilla instead of Python? or she wanted the terminator to take care of it? Cant wait to hear what the big teddy bear did. Hope he didnt break his knee caps

  39. I hope u Gorrila messed him up good and proper! If SA men were moered more often for this disturbing behaviour of raisig their hands to their woman bcos they are such cowards then SA would be the better for it!

    As for your question: When i had my child i knew i could never meet a guy and tell him i am single. I am a package…take it or leave it. So i dont go looking for a father for my child, she already has one. I am a woman with needs…thats where i am at the moment. I am sure one day the need for a companion up to my old age will arise and only then will i get married.

    At some point in time you have to introduce the dude to your child, how else will you be able to determine if this person can handle the situation. However its up to you to judge if it is worth the risk of hurting your child if they become attached to this individual who might turn out to be a flight risk!

    Mike not too long with the next one neh? Please i beg I beg!

  40. But Mike!!!!! Anticipation, Anticipation and Mooooooore ANTICIPATION :-( but Good work though, hope the soccer player is still alive, things are bout to get twisted, can’t wait 4 da next chapter

  41. Ah BrA Mike u kept us waiting 4 ths chapter tjo….but all in all lts hope nothing bad happend tah Rudzani…..even though ah soo wish thy chopped his hands off

  42. Great work Mike,single mothers deserve happiness too the way to go is to take time to get back on the dating game until u r ready and are sure your baby is old enought to accept the relationship.

  43. Thiza uGorilla! I wonder what has he done to the soccer player… but chocho shame if Gorilla panelbeat the soccer player. He deserves it….

  44. Ah no! Really Mike? What’s this now? You haven’t even given us an event in this piece. You could have added this one to 66 as one posting.
    Please don’t make me lose interest. We waited so long for this and it was really disappointing.

  45. That jerk deserved a beating…but I hope G didn’t kill him!! So worried bout Thandeka and the only genuine friendship she had!

    Thank you for ur great work Mike 😉

  46. i have never in my life been impressed with a book but your writing took me off and i just simply cannot stop checking for new chapters!! love it tooo nuch very addictive. when are you casting for actors, i would live to be a part! keep on this is just goooood!!

  47. O larwd wat has Gorilla done… Ahhh friend lost now, this is sad I tell u. Tjo!

    Anywho. Great read as usual… 1 chaptr at a tym… Wondering nje wat G has done… *deepinthought*

  48. I am raised by a single mom, I know she is dating, I’m greatful that she doesn’t come home and introduce to me and my siblings her b.f’s. I can imagine, namhlanje ngu “uncle Sbu”, ngomso ngu its uncle Jabu, or uncle jack or uncle joe. Ndizoyigqiba nin mna lonto. Thank you very much I’m fine with not knowing who her men are! Thanks once again for a great read mike.

  49. Ok I hope what Gorilla has done won’t lend Thandeka in hot water. Even though the socceristo deserves to be beaten up by another man, ayeke utsatsela amantombazane. I dont understand y Ayanda is confronting Thandeka about this, the mere fact that a guy who is supposedly into you would beat up your friend infront of you, it means he has no respect for you either and doesnt value you or women period!!!!
    About your question Mike….been there its not an easy thing to do especially when you keep on meeting frogs…so much that I have decided to focus on my daughter and prioritise raising a dynamic confident woman. Would love to have a life partner one day just for companionship…marriage, not sure about that.

  50. As for at wits we do”sex tapes”lol ya hey..thanks mike.a nyc way to start ma day..happy choose-day..make a ryt decision

  51. this is such GREAT, RAW and ORIGINAL story i only pray multichoice does not mess it up with the casting. By casting people we already know. Bra Mike great job boss…wish you all the best.

  52. Ayi Thee gal, women shes had time to think Ayanda thinks u a freak she wants the guy, u must choose friendships n fact, just like uN uphi by the way n the job? Your mum n family in jozi u neglecting all, n yr studies gal wakeup! Ugorilla wont kill him he’ll die running. Mike xoxo

  53. Thanks Mike this book is the best, I myself am a Zulu girl from a small that went to Jozi, yeah 1 can easily lose direction in those big City Lights. I love your work, the way you pay attention to detail I hope to see your book published one day or made into a movie or TV series, wishing u all the best oh and NEXT CHAPTER PLEASE lol…

  54. The intensity is somehow reducing. I was so hooked but now it’s like am going thru rehab. Can go 2 days without diary with no issues while a day with no diary was torture up to chapter 50 something. Pliz bring back the addiction.

  55. In response to this.

    “diaryofazulugal says:

    Hey. I think this is the umpteenth time i get the request you have made. A Naija Boy story would be awesome lol.”

    I am very pleased that u are considering it. As long as the burden doesn’t affect quality. I think its really time that our ordinary african stories be told authentically and well. This may also be what brings our ppl back to reading. I really hope the tv show doesn’t kill the blog. Thanks again Mike.

  56. I wonder f Thandeka wd b able 2 complete her studies, shez gt so much on her plate, uDramagal mst b gvn Bells f she made t,engaty zobuya ngecoffin like her “cuzin” S

  57. How I wish u would post 2 chapters on each blog every week,the waiting kills me really,sad thing is one can’t assume what’s next as Thandeka and her animals are so unpredictable. I’d like u to touch base on N,malume and Benny a bit hey. Anywho great read Mic…can’t help being the reading maniac

  58. Nice read once again, got my friends hooked….they way im so addicted, i even dreamed G wanting to enter my rose garden…Kudos to u Mike!!

  59. Ayanda shouldn’t even complain kuThandeka.. she must stop being a missy. She saw her boyfriend slap her friend. Akukho okudlula lokho!

  60. i’m a single mother, i date, but finding a husband is not an ultimate goal, i dont introduce any guy to my child as i dont feel that i would like a life partner at this stage.

  61. To answer your Question, I’m a single mom of a young lady turning 13 tomorrow, I had sworn that I would never find another man and that men are animals but then I missed the life I had, the security, the cuddling and the sense of belonging so when I met my now husband my intentions were clear I was going to date and marry this guy I was not fooling around I needed to set an example for my child and changing men like a teen was not an option. So yes the ultimate goal is to marry

  62. I’ve got a suggestion for your Mike, how about u add a like and an unlike button so that u cn see by votes how many people agree with the negative points? we shouldn’t be too quick to dismiss ‘devils-advocates’ sometimes they help us to refine our approach and improve our products…#Still a fan!

  63. Great thanx,its kind of normal that when you get into a relationship yur ultimate goal is long term

  64. you deserve what ever is coming to you now you about to lose a friend and even worse go to jail for attempted murder serves you right (lesson to all ladies with kwaaaaaang) lol

  65. Its funny how the first like 15 people think they are the first to comment. Lol. Anyway great read cnt wait for the next chapter. Thanks Mike

  66. Ayanda must be a virgin…she just realised that her friend denied her a chance of giving out her cokie for the very first time

  67. mike! mike! mike! your focus has shifted. i love this blog, don’t get me wrong, but you doing it for the ratings now and Thandeka is slowly but surely becoming a character and not a girl we can associate or the girl we used to meet. don’t know if this makes sense but you need a fresh new angle, a fresh new perspective and a fresh new mind. you are an amazing author but the first 50 chapters we used to chat about during lunch but now we just email each other, to see if out theories on the next chapter was spot on.

    like now, i dont think G beat up the soccer player but maybe Ayanda was refering to her poking her nose into her business and how she can do the hell she wants.

  68. Hay noo Mike , the story line is too wide now , bring it back a bit , back to abo malume and Thandeka’s job from Gorilla now that can be some action. or get to the End. Ngok its too much thinking than action. Like this one the only action was the last bit sogqiba ukulinda kangaka. Overall the book is awesome. Love it.

  69. Mike what did Gorilla do thle????? Please ive been waiting for the next chapter, am so hooked, Please take US ALL out of our misery!!!!! UThandeka mara, uthanda idrama.

  70. Sho Mike, awesome read! 😀
    Tjerrr, these “I’m first, I’m in top 10″ comments are super ridiculous… seriously? *rollingEyes360Degrees*
    I bet Gorrila dislocated mr soccer ‘star”s shoulders, tltltltl.. serves the idiot right for laying his dirty hand on a woman.. looking forward to 68!

  71. i wonder how the people that comment that they are the first to comment feel when they c/find out that they are not….. kwaaaks…. anyone care to enlighten me please hahaha

    1. With respect i beg to differ. Marriage has lost some of its gloss…cheating and HIV aids tend to make this institution not so very appealing.

      Some people opt for a Vat in Sit just for companionship and intimacy. If i did not have a child that is what i would opt for but for the stability it will bring my child marriage would be the better option to avoid our house turning into Park station for different “uncles”.

  72. Yoh! I wonder what Gorilla did.
    I’m a single mom. And since we broke up with my baby daddy, my goal was just dating and having fun like any other girl. But I got lucky and the first guy I decided to date was looking for something fun and exclusive.

  73. Yoh! I wonder what Gorilla did.
    I’m a single mom. And since we broke up with my baby daddy, my goal was just dating and having fun like any other girl. But I got lucky and the first guy I decided to date was looking for something fun and exclusive. My son knows him but I don’t bring him around too much for him to get attached bcos u can never be completely sure about this things.
    Single moms should not feel guilty for wanting to move on with their lives but they should have fun but stil think about their babies too.

  74. Lekker read man! U must just make this a TV series already. Bo Generations and them will just have to move over!

  75. I like this…. Mike o bosso…. Thandeka seems to b following trouble or is trouble following her??? Waiting 4 chapter 68…

  76. Woow mst sy ths is awsome,v neva bin hookd to any book in my life evn in high sku neva used to like literature but wit ur diary Mike u got me hookd,great job u doing…lol chapter10 my hrt skpd a beat m a law student@ uj tho n so is my bf a lawyer in polokwane I actuay lafd..

    Keep up e goodwok Mike God bless you

  77. when u become a mom dating is no longer de same, mina im against exposing my child to any man nd i hav never ever introduced my son to any man

  78. I started reading this novel when it already had 61 chapters, I read it until I was up to date with it, it was exciting. But now that I have to wait for days to read the next chapter doesn’t excite me anymore eish :( at least post more than one chapter u

  79. 2 ansa ur question (I’m not a mother yet but if I was! Then yes I would try by all means 2 find a husband coz if u still try 2 date like any other gal u might be wasting tym. “I mean hw mang boy4rnds r u gonna introduce 2 ur kids b4 u get de ryt 1″ if u r a mother then DATE TO MARRY)

  80. Yoooo Thandeka u shuldnt hv called G mara I knw u were angry bt heee G will beat d hell out d@ soccer player bathong. Thnx again Mike n waiting 4 chapter 68 plz

  81. Im a single mom and i date cos i like the guy , marriage will come one day i knw . I date discretly and hope i wl do in openely the day im sure i want the man to meet my kids. Cant wait for the next chapter.

  82. Im a really fan of the blog be loving this blog ill be soon heading to university so this be giving me an high light on how to live my what to do and want not too what the benefits and what the consequences of life out there without no one to guide and look after you be waiting for chapter 68

  83. it took me 24 hours max to finish all the chapters thus far. this diary feels like my own python its so thought provoking on so many levels…

  84. I’m a single mother, marriage is a bit out of the question with my son who shot at my last potential boyfriend with a pallet gun. Its difficult to be discreet, even more so now that he’s in his pre-teens, 13 in September. I do get lonely and now worrying that in 5yrs time he will ship off to tertiary and I will get more lonely but possibly too old to find a boyfriend! Is it called boyfriend after 40? And am not interested in being a mistress. Already most men that approach me now at 35 are married! Totally against my beliefs and scary jealousy issues!

    Great read once more bra! Big up

    Xo xo

  85. Yo Mike uyasibulala baba all this waiting is going to give us a heart attack. Nyc chapter by the way hope Gorilla didnt kill that poor guy

  86. Wow can things get any worse.T is right 1 should think b4 u act,4 each action there is a reaction.I’m really scared to find out what G did to the soccer player?wonder hw this will affect T’s life in milpark.jozi city lights hve really changed this girl.

  87. Focusing on your question I was still 20 when I gave birth, I found myself a nanny that was looking after my child 24/7 on weekends so I didn’t feel like a single young mom emotionally I felt like I wasn’t very much responsible only financially thou I was very much responsible I made sure thst ma child has everything, I dated any guy I wasn’t chosey until I was 22 my child was growing I had to find a decent man not like the piece of equipment that made me pregnant.

  88. Most girls grow up dreaming about their weddings and yes, thinking of relationships has some possibility thoughts of a person being “the one”. Otherwise why date if not to get a hubby unless being in denial and claiming not to have a need of getting hitched? Who wants to have fatherless kids anyway?

  89. This blog is the best ufact must stop reading, he/she is Bad news. We don’t need such, Mike- Thandeka we behind u this is yr life/book. Aluutah continuah.

  90. Can’t wait for chapter 68, I must admit I’m addicted to ur blog. However I get annoyed by people who judge they must just take a chill pill.

  91. Yhooo Thandeka what have u done now?? Can’t wait for the next chapter.

    Dating is a choice but your kid should not be exposed to it.
    As a single mother u have to always put your child first n make sure u are setting a good example to your kid.

  92. Wow…ds r gr8 lessons 2 us gals, tnx alot hey! But shem Thandeka u nid salvation… Kip up d gudwork Michael

  93. Truth b told Mike u cn neva plis every1 no mata hw hard u may try,so vele abantu abafana noFact akufuneki uye nabo khulu,ada wise great work …wish u al de best in pusuin wat God hs givn u as a gift:)

  94. Mike uyabhala bhuti qha u really do know how to mk one wait yaz. I dig the story even though I can’t relate. I’m really eager for the nxt chapter. Ek kan nie wag nie.

  95. Wat an awsome blog bra Mike!! Keep up the good work hey, everytime after reading a chapter I just can’t wait for the next one. Enkosi kakhulu Bhuti, uqhubeke wenze umsebenzi omhle! Thina singamaXhosa sithi, nangamso!!!

  96. Mike whats with u and single mothers this week?, its hard enough being a single mother, u dont need people hating or critisizing u. Please leave our single mothers alone now. How about you focus on men who abondon their children neh. Cos thts the real issue, before there is a single mother there is a bastard of a man tht walks out on them.

  97. Mike I think its fair that the next button be before the comments because at times the comments are too many and for us using mobile it gets too much.
    Nice chapter !

  98. To all haters … Just sit the hell down, no one is forcing you to read this blog. Clearly, you don’t appreciate ways of narrating a story, especially an African one.

    I don’t see you writing to any authors “I prefer not to name”, who actually tell lame stories but u continue to stay glued to your screens…

    Haai bo, ka vele ka tenega!!!

  99. You still date as normal but some of your priorities change cause u can’t let your child see every man you date. You also try to find ppl that are in your league like single dads it easier that way cause they get where u coming from…as for marriage its comes when I does not all single moms are out to get husbands…

  100. I’m a single mom, n I feel I’m ready for a serious relationship that would lead to marriage and No I don’t date like any other girl cos I have a son n a guy nrrds to understand that he is part of the package , no matter I might love that guy if he won’t love my son then I would rather stay single.

  101. Wooow totally hooked you are talented bro keep it up

    The challenges of being a mom n date though hectic but one needs a life partner once ur a parent u hv less time to play why waste ur precious time but with all that said we need to liv a little. My opinion

  102. Hi Mike. I have a five year old and while I don’t care much for labels, society would call me a single mom and I hardly date, but if I do… I do so VERY discreetly for the sake of my baby girl. I’m not seeking to find a husband though, neither myself nor my child are ready for that… so we’re taking it all very lightly. its hard for women with kids to just date…guys always assume we are easy or even worse that we want a dad for our kids … my baby has a great dad so I just sometimes want to have companionship, doesn’t happen that way though because of stereotypes …………………. BUT back to your script, I maintain that this is brilliant writing. I’m excited each time I read your work. Poor Thandeka has gotten herself into something else now – please keep it coming. Cannot wait for the next chapter

  103. Single mothers who aren’t spending their time looking for a man but spending their time providing for their children are the most adorable, so my kid comes first

  104. Yho some people are just bitter bathong no need 2 bite poor Mike’s head 4 asking just a simple question!…moving ryt along can we get chapter 68 Asap pretty please

  105. great read… nw to answer ur q; personally dating is da same 4 me, but i do admit my preference has changed. nomo pretty boys but men hu knw what they want. i dnt look 4 a bbydaddy or hubby, just a man with a clear path b4 him!

  106. I now actually always jump 3 paragraphs of this story because You always over explaining things that are not necessary and continue with the story at the last paragraph which have become a habit and predictable. I know u not gonna approve my comment but this story is not fun like it used to be anymore. This is my point of view

  107. Well Mike to answer your question having been married and divorced getting married is not something I will do in a hurry. Dating is very descreet I only go on dates when my daughter is not around I have to be very careful who I bring into her life
    I’m hooked on this hey. Great read

  108. Yah Cranium datz yo point of view Hun,,,bt plz do us a favour SIT DOWN ND SHUT UP!!!….
    Mike u ar an acceptional writer, dis z reali brilliant
    Dis z my 1st comment eversince I’v started readin I’m so chuffed

  109. I don’t have a baby yet,I’m so happy that u you mentioned Stanger Kwa-Dukuza,its my home town but I’m orginally from Bizana Eastern Cape,I’m currently residing in PTA EST,I’m loving PTA so much,I’ve made friends from Limpopo,JHB,Mpumalanga,Vaal ,Polokwane,etc so Thandeka must open her circle…I’ve never been a fan of motivational books and the likes of”think like a man act like a lady”why do I have to ACT at 1st place? You remind me of my days when I read “The Sands Of Time”,”Memories Of Midnight”The Other Side Of Midnight”ohhhh I love your style of writting grammer perfect,no need to reach out for a dictionary :-)

  110. Carium – True, I also jump paragraphs this book been good but now u keep us waiting for a day and a half to read more of unnecessary stuff than keeping the fire burning. The deeds of the good writter, never run out of words to say but don’t tackle your readers. Lovely story its getting boring. I prefer being honest than let so much talent fade. Things like “do u remember in high school bla bla bla” and how awesome other schools are and all the rest , they must be there but they ARE not the reason we got to chapter 67″ plz keep the fire burning. Your 1st 20 chapters are way too different from your last 5 chapters. U say so much that’s not part of the story dear. Still luv your book. #honest reader#

  111. Iyhoo! Well she phoned G. Wonder wenze ntoni uG??? Hayi Drama is T’s middle name.
    @Sugar daddy’s profession.. Agree Politician. He must hv mkhaba #hides#.
    @Question: Being young divorced mom, not easy to date.Always discreet. There is no dating like any other girl. Hv not introduced anyone in this past 2yrs. Mi kids r mi priority.Taking it easy.Guy only visit me when kids not around hence guy hs to hv his own place, part of mi potentional BF checklist. This is something I hv control over, I’m not about to mess them up emotionally and every other way… Introduce them to Tom today, then down the line its Dick&Harry that I meet. I aint looking for no daddy for them. They do hv dad that loves them even if we might no longer b together. When I meet mi Prince charming again, who wants an exclusive committed relationship. When relationship is mature&ready then only will introduce. No need to no rush. Aint gonna settle.

  112. Mike @ this point you should be writing a lot more especially on weekends hao!u got us all ADDICTED!Now ur driving us nuts with this!

  113. if I had a child n I had to date I’d make sure my bby dznt meet da bf,because relationships cum to an end so I cnt keep on introducing new daddies to my kid hell no,wen I feel dat a man is capable to meet my bby I shall introduce ,as a gal dat was raised by a single woman I’ve only met 1 guy dats my brothers dad, m sure my momma has dated other guys bt she has protected us from seeing dem n am sure she had gud reasoning for doing so n am gratful for it!protectecting ur kids is important

  114. Thank you Nkululeko, just wanna ask you what happened now to the job Thandeka was offered either Gorilla or Python not sure also to the case of Aunty for assaulting N.

  115. come on Mike… i can’t wait to read the next chapter. when do we get it.

    I just started reading this book last week Friday and i just couldn’t resist it. I am done already and looking forward to the next chapter.

    Good work you doing…keep it up

  116. @Cranium I dont think there will be a story line if all it was was punchlines. Its ok for you to read the last lines you are entitled. I do feel i should build the setting and the mood so that the punchline must be effective. its like going to the movies and watching just the trailer and ending. Its not worth it. The story has to be real and also reflect what she was seeing and feeling because Thandeka is a person who is experiencing a lot of new things. Thank you or comment though it was most welcome

    1. I think people are forgetting that this is a “diary” of someones thoughts and her internal conversations about what is happening in her life and what informs some of the conversations.

      I like being in Thandeka’s mind, and that is what makes this blog interesting.

      As a late joiner to this blog, When i read the book from Chapter 1 to 59, it was such a qucick read i did not stop to overanalyse each chapter( i just enjoyed it for what it is- a very good read) because i knew that the next chapter was just a click away.

      And now because we have to wait for days for the next shot of our drug od choice, I think people are suffering some pshcotic withdrawal symptoms and starting to attack their “Drug dealer”- Askie Mike for comparing you to a Drug dealer but Shem your merchandise is top Notch!#satisfied reader

  117. Mike uyayishaya into yakho, thanx a lot boet. I like ur use of words (like shem) and how u make ur readers think kuthethwa nabo.
    Yes we always have phone on our hands and taking a hard copy seems hard bt we still do it. The best part about the blog is u dnt worry about forgeting ur book at home coz we dnt forget our phones.
    Thandeka is a brave girl and I dnt knw how one person can have so much bad luck, udinga isangoma for real.
    Oh and u are killing us with the wait

  118. Hey Mike, thanx 4 the great work, can we have chapter 68 already, da waiting is killing some of us.. U simply the best dude.. :)

  119. Good read Mike. It seems Thandeka’s life/diary always ends up in punchlines-she always has hectic experiences.

    What are the chances of thandeka’s parking lot ”rendezvous ” going viral on social media?! After-all she just sd Wits is known for sex tapes amongst other things.
    1) what happened to thandeka’s dad moving to jozi coz of the job he got?
    2) what happened to the job gorilla organized for her?
    3) when is N getting discharged from hospital?

  120. im hoping that gorilla didnt do anything to the soccer player coz that would just be too predictable.

    what are the changes of thandeka’s parking lot rendezvous going viral on the social media?! after all she did say wits is know for sex tapes amongst other things.

  121. Shwele Thandeka!! Always surrounded by drama! Almost reminds me of myself during my University days :) Please give us more, this surely is a good read..

  122. guys url are being too obvious now….mike i dont think gorilla did anything to the soccer player.we cant read something that is obvious…just keep us in suspence and surprise us with something different…..great job though

  123. You know what irritates???? PEOPLE WHO FRAKING THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL…
    Y’all keep checking for new chapters n rushing Mike to deliver and putting him under pressure forgetting that he has to plan n take his time to think so that he gives us a great chapter….
    when he finally delivers you talk about skipping paragraphs n how boring the blog has become so if you are held at GUN POINT n told to read the diar

  124. Wow such an great story,I like hw it hs twists and turns..its a marvell to see that uThandeka has just been in jozi for only 2months bt so much has happend.I luv hw u describe n explain d streets ov jozi evn land marks absolute genuis.

  125. Guys like Fulu has said tht this is a DIARY hence Thandeka is writing all her thots nd experiences,its not a BOOK guys,so if u know what a diary is then ud understand bt if u dnt knw just shut up and sit down or leave the room,Mike I’m fallin in lov with yo blog…..

  126. Yoh hai shem the suspense is a killer,,I keep checking in every 5min,please let me know how frequently u put up a new chapter and is there a way of getting notification when uv done so?…now I know what a drug addict feels like when they are taken to rehab….

  127. I agree with Kelz, if there is a way of a notification of a new chapter, plsssss let us know. I am dying for chapter sixty- eight. But i think uThandeka usekingeni shooooo…


  128. Mina personally I don’t think she oover reacted amadoda can’t be hitting women its something that should be condemned like rape,or there won’t be a change.

  129. Omg, I only started reading yesterday and I almost had a heart attack when I noticed I had 2 wait for chapter 68. This is interesting, Thandeka is such a character. Trouble seems to follow her daily. Cnt wait for more

  130. Wow, Mike uBosso vha! Over the past 3 days I’ve read this from chapter 1 to 59 and then went on to read Confessions. Ur blog is so addictive, give us more! I just couldn’t stop reading! Excellent story lines.

  131. im a single mom of a four year oldgirl. well since i had her dating became an all new ballgame. With my ex’s i was dating discreetly and wouldnt let my get near to her. In my current relationship it took a while for him to meet my girl and he only did so once i knew that he acknowlegded my girl and my role as a mom. She is my first priority and i make sure that even on date nights or weekends away that she is sorted. The best part is that i have found a husband and have not sacrificed my daughter to do so.

  132. We all need Gorillas in our lives, I was once in a predicament, where a guy owed me a lot of money and gave me excuses instead of paying me….I phoned my cousin (my gorilla) and poof there was money in my account….and frankly I don’t care what he had said to this bully, who took advantage of the fact that I’m a woman….

  133. I am a single parent , and i am finding it hard to date and to find someone i love . When i date someone , i am looking for someone who is going to be a husband a father figure for my child.

  134. People are funny I tell, a question is asked and the answer is “I’m the first to comment or I’m in top 10 to comment or post everyday the waiting is killing me” stupid stuff.

  135. Please keep this blog as honest as it was in your first 30 chapters. Thandeka is changing too fast. I loved her as the naive girl from kzn who thought of the world as her oyster and still had her fears.

  136. Lovely stuff mike, ok I try so hard to keep my daugther of any relationship I go into to avoid attachments ,could it be from me the guy or my child,I don’t date as I used to when I was not a mum ,am just carefull cause I don’t want to b a bad example to my child.

  137. Hi Mike
    I must say,I enjoyed reading this blog till I discovered its all fiction and that its written by a man. Anyways, with that being said, I find the story to be a little too morbid. Thandeka’s life is too full of drama, everything is a too exaggerated. Not sure what direction this story is headed but its making me lose interest.
    I gotta commend u for ur great story telling ability though. U are a good writer with a really great imagination. I think u’re brilliant!*

  138. Hi Mike
    I must say,I enjoyed reading this blog till I discovered its all fiction and that its written by a man. Anyways, with that being said, I find the story to be a little too morbid. Thandeka’s life is too full of drama, everything is a little too exaggerated. Not sure what direction this story is headed but its making me lose interest.
    I gotta commend u for ur great story telling ability though. U are a good writer with a really great imagination. I think u’re brilliant!*

  139. Mmhm mhhmh mmhm what have you done??? Where can I get its novel because reading it on internet I have to wait for some chapters to be posted and aai I can’t wait that long

  140. It has taken me just under 24 hours to read all 67 chapters……addicted…….please feed my craving……..need chapter 68. Great read, I am not one for reading, but I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this. The White Masai is the only other read that had me hooked to the end. Well done you for a good job on the story lines.

  141. Eish 1 thing we hve in common wth thandeka, z that I always hve bad luck where ever I go things jst go wrong ai

  142. this is not gud nt even a tiny bit ,i wake up everymorning to check whats new now i knw hw it feelz lyk to b addicted lol .why nt giv us a chapter everyday u killing me

  143. Hawema! uThandeka unebhadi shwem.There is not a day in her life that goes by without a near heart stoping incident.The more she tries to do good the more she messes up.She is very brave though coz in her shoes I would probably be in a mental hospital by now. Let’s hope G akadalanga more problems.Thank you for taking your time and giving us such a wonderful eye opening and something we can relate to diary. *waiting in anticipation for the next chapter

  144. hau gal, wats the connectipn btwn u n gorrilla, soon ull have to start returning favours . Reali now? Python is he reali that busy?

  145. I’m a 25yrs old single mother of a 3 yrs old beautiful girl. Since I parted with bby daddy I date discreetly because I believe every child see’s their parents as role models and I want 2 b a good role model until I realizev that I’m in a promising relationshp

  146. Oh Thandeka, u drama Queen!

    Mike, I’m a 32 yrs old single mom. I run from relationships n angisaphathi ke marriage.

    My son is 4 yrs old n wouldn’t want to jeopardize how he sees me for no one.

  147. Thank you Mike! Another awesome chapter – more drama and suspense. Never mind the detractors. You’re doing a brilliant job and are very good at it. Hell, I thought you’re female first time I started reading this blog! Kudos to you!!

    To respond to your question, I’ve never had that kind of mindset; dating in order to get a surrogate daddy for my daughter (12 years). Last time I dated was in 2007. Since then dating has lost its appeal and I find it tiring. I agree with May. Dating is not important at this point in my life. Daily we hear of boyfriend/step daddy horror stories (all types of abuse) and I wouldn’t want to expose my daughter to such.

    My daughter, career and travelling are my priorities.

  148. What’s with this hacking na bethuna? Mine was even taken by the stalker!

    I’ll leave the question to single mothers,I don’t want to speculate!

  149. Ow Mike I really need to get ready for shopping but I jst can’t put my phone down. It gets more enteresting in each chapter… I new though this was coming… Ye! Ye! Tk

  150. What makes Thandeka thinks that she is now amIss perfect? Tlokgela kgoki tsunya tsunya diary tabling tsa batho

  151. I will start by saying I love your blogs Mike, they are absolutely hilarious and entertaining. But the grammar?? I just want to know if its intentionally incorrect because of your characters. There are so many spelling and grammatical (e.g “of which” vs “about/to which”) errors. If you publish this blog as a novel make sure you have a good editor. But great story telling and amazing cliff hangers. I love it.

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