Chapter Seventy One

Have you ever read the book Great Expectations I think its by Charles Dickens. Pip the main character in the book has all these expectations about where his life will go and has all these dreams of how it should happen. He even goes to the extent of forgetting his station when he falls in love as well as when he gets help from a criminal and wants to rescind it. Well I had great expectations about my coming to Johannesburg and there was no way in hell I was going to allow anyone, my dad included to ruin those expectations. I had sweated for my matric grades and I had not gotten that bursary because I was pretty. I was here by the sweat on my brow and the conviction I had had to study till it hurts. I was not going anywhere even if he threatened to disown me. He will get over it. I was not going to Durban to blend in with another 3million Zulus! I was going to make my stand! Zulu culture dictates that a good young Zulu woman cannot speak up to her father even if he is wrong. For all intensive purposes when it comes to academics I was a brilliant child and this is one field I was not going to compromise on! Punished because I had come home with a weave! They must just be strong shem!

I don’t know about rules but I do have morals. Rules are meant to be broken and everyone will call you a rebel for it. Morals on the other hand, well the same people will call you names and disown you for it. My father had that one rule that his decision was final. I guess we were about to discover what happens when an irresistible force meets an immovable force. That of course being me and my father respectively. I met the soccer players friend by the elevator. His first comment was “A sestre, dia dang ne e le mischeck e serious blind, mara fede”
I had no idea what he just said but it sounded like a threat. I thought the police had their man? Anyway whatever he said it was not as though I gave a fuck. He didn’t even speak proper vernacular or English so I wasn’t even sure what he meant. I don’t know why these township boys think its cool to speak this funny talk but its really crass. Even a Cape Coloured spoke to you in that tsotsi equivalent of Afrikaans you would run like hell. It just makes them sound like criminals. I just ignored him all the way down the elevator. I don’t know him! I have no interest in knowing him! Don’t forget Gorilla had not yet done his part. I had even forgotten. I needed to call him off.

When I got downstairs I tried to forget all my problems and be happy to meet Tebogo’s girlfriend. I did not know that Tebogo drove. He had a silver Polo and you know when someone says a car just suits a person’s personality, this one was perfect him. He was wearing a tangerine cardigan. I say this because I was noticing the trend. His girlfriend was actually quite pleasant. Her name was Tlhologelo, complicated I know, they had to say it three times for me to figure it out. Eventually we settled on using her other name which was Natalie! Its not my fault that every South African can’t speak Zulu. We are the dominant population and we win every competition that needs you to vote in on Tv. Turns out she was also studying Law but at UJ that’s why he had been so eager to make us meet. Every guy has a fantasy of his girlfriend having hot friends. I know this for a fact. My exes would even ask at times why I was friends with some girls over the others. They would not directly say it but I noticed the girls they wanted me to be friends were girls even I thought could compete with me. Its very rare to find a girl crew of just beautiful people unless its some kind of a music group. We would kill each other with egos and jealousy. In every crew of girls there are only one or two stunners then the rest of the minions stand to compliment the stunners. Girls won’t readily admit it but its fact and the same goes with guys in university. One guy they hang with drives whilst the rest are scrubs ready to flag him down for a lift! They then make sure that they have enough influence to remain relevant in that passenger list.

We decided to go fo McDonalds by Campus Square. I hadn’t had McDonalds’ in ages and I quite looked forward to it. It was my suggestion and I offered to pay for it. She seemed fascinated by the fact that I had offered to pay and teased about having turned down her boyfriend’s chicken licken. I had even forgotten about that. I told her chicken licken was only good when nursing a hangover not when you still had to walk home. I loved this couple. They genuinely found each other funny, had a good banter about them and held hands even when he drove… In a manual car at that! It was scary. When people are in love you can see it! Maybe I had been quick to judge South African guys. Here was a guy who clearly totally adored his girlfriend and was not even threatened at being introduced to new women by him. You could see how he paid attention to detail and fussed over her. In return she seemed supportive and just as loving as him. Most of my friends and I am afraid to say myself included would not stand for this shit! We want to own the man and make sure that we throttle him so much that no one else must ever befriend him ever again. If I date him I should be the last girl he should ever talk to because I feel so threatened by every female he will meet after me. Even colleagues at work must not call him because he is my man! Its a wonder how he got to this age without me!? That’s our mentality.

We hung out a bit longer and when we let I bought some food for N. That girl hardly ever cooked but being pregnant I figured her appetite would change. Natalie and I arranged a “play date” for this really was what it was. I had already said I needed a wider circle of friends so this was working out in my favour. It could be tricky though if they broke up for I would have to pick a side and follow one friend. Eventually they took me home.

When I got to my room I responded to my father’s message. I think this was my first act of open defiance! I was in open rebellion. I had to make my stand otherwise I would end up by the coast!

“Baba ngeke ngikwazi ukuya eUKZN nginethezekile lana futhi nomfundaze wami uzothathwa uma ngishintsha ama Nyuvesi”

Loosely translated, “Baba, I will not be moving to UKZN. I am happy here. The bursary will not allow me in any case!”

I knew this would not be well received but how bad could it be. I spoke to N a bit and offered to make her food

“Uma ufuna ukuqhubeka ube yindodakazi yami futhi ube yilunga lalomndeni uzoya eThekwini ngizothatha iLoan umakudingeka”

Loosely translated “If you want to remain my daughter and part of this family you are going to Durban! I will get a loan for you if I must!”

I was screwed!

****The End****

@diaryofazulugal
Michael Nkululeko Maphoto

Question: If your partner has bad friends you found already there when you first met, do you think its your right to make him choose between those friends and you?

I WILL POST THIS WEEKEND. TOMORROW EXPECT CONFESSIONS….

298 Comments

  1. Jabba

    When is the story coming to an nd mike honeng rebala sware hai.. :-) but anyway you doing a good job boza big up

  2. naledi

    Thanks in advance for posting this weekend!
    I read a lot and the blog is my in between book light reading, very intriguing I tell you.
    Keep up with the good work of writing and I applaud you for all the good causes you support, I am very keen on being involved with the charities and will email you

  3. Nancy

    Cannt wait for the next chapter. Can you just publish the book. This is killing me to read a chapter after every two days. Otherwise keep on keeping on. God bless

  4. Anna English

    shit that’s bad her dad is so not cool and answering your question i think it would be unfair of you toil make him choose why not walk away if you got a problem. i mean you found the friends there and who knows you might leave them there. just tell your bfax that you don’t like his friends and he must make you hang around with them or expect you pretend because you won’t be able to. that’s it

  5. paige

    Nevertheless, my family made me choose as well. .i made my choice and im living with it..though its hard at time, u cry and ur tears gets dry and u continue with ur life..We will all die but our bravery will never be forgotten. .Rather dies for something than to follow the crowd. .

  6. mmathapelo

    Tx Mike. Looking forward to tomorrow’s edition. As for ur question, as human beings we need to learn to accept life as is. U can’t choose peoples friends. Wud u b happy if u were told to cut ties with ur’s? U shud accept that ur partner has friends and u don’t hav to like them ’cause they r not ur’s in the first place

  7. AyandaM.GP

    hummmmmm. thanks Mike! usuya robha manje. such short chapters!!! Happpyyy birthday to me. Ubaba ucasukile ke manje. akafuni uku lawulwa yi ngane straight!!!

  8. Kay

    im so happy to hear dat u’ll b posting dis weekend thanks mike weekends can b so long without de blog u know

  9. Phindi

    I’m not so impressed Mike. Not much content here, very short and quite dull. Maybe I’m just expecting a bit more cause uve given us better chapters in the past

  10. Keitumetse

    Your writing is exceptional Mike. It really allows one to be in the story along with the characters. Thanks man

  11. Zee

    This blog has been really exciting till a certain point, Mike is a good writer but now you are just dragging the story, and its losing its TOUCH. There is no thrill anymore.

  12. toolz

    well lobaba kahle kehle akawudonsi ushidi,yazin Nkululeko dont waste your time,u can say a lot about a person once youve seen her freinds! she is no good.

  13. sewela

    I have also been in this situation and i had to make a decision. my dad was deporting me back to limpopo. he threatened to stop my allowance. i made a decision that i was gonna stay in gauteng, he disowned me and he stopped giving me money. somehow i survived the streets of jozi without having to sell my body and today i look back and im happy i ddnt go back home. i stood for what i believed in and i finished school and today im working :’)

  14. Lerato

    Thandeka is really screwd. I think she should just forget jorbug and start all over afterall she really hasnt had the best of luck since she got here.
    I dont think its fair to let a guy choose between long time friends and a girl he had just met. He should know what type of people hes ‘hanging out’ with.

  15. Yolo Tolokazi

    Still dissapointed,.,,kanti Mike y mara? Too much interpretation n less action hay udlale ngabantu kule ichapter chaa bandla…# sad#

  16. lisa

    Lol I once made my bf choose, coz I found out dat he once had a crush on dat friend, aftr ey separated da calling n texting stopped if they were friends I doubt da communication wud stop…she even bought him perfumes an all n at dat time I ddn really have money so u can imagine…

  17. Mpume'Les Diiva

    Mmmmh baba ka Thandeka seyawona manje lomcimbhi, aaargh. These are the things us Zulu girls go through each day ngampela! How will she see Gorilla and Python now :( – Daddy dearest please…khumbulekhaya

  18. fifi

    this girls father is justnot giving up bathong…..i mean he is coming to work in JHB after all, should give her a break… an to answer your questions, i dont think i will ever make my patner choose between me or anyone, let alone his friends, should they be a bad influence i will let him know how i feel and it will be up to him to decide….thats where he should prioritize

  19. Yaaa papa T ona le hlogo ya bothata tjoo……lols

    I told him that I don’t like them @first….. tym went by and he left them eventually as 4me ke tlogetse baka even changed numbers coz really sum frnds r nt worth it ba re ratela menate fela so nw we happily married and our friends are our families nd we happy with it

  20. kgaugelo

    What u gonna do zulu gal*ur dad want u out of jhb*ur full of stories keep thnkng,ul get somthng nothng is imposible with u gal**

  21. thuto

    why is she stressed? not like she had to pay rent and shit, and seeing as she needs not stress bout getting cash, she could just stay there, keep here bursary and make sure she passes! thats all she needs shem. she hasn’t needed her parents allowance thus far so stress keng? ke hustler mos gal o! lol llol

  22. Fulu

    So Benny and Thandeka are siblings? Are we going the incest route?

    It would explain the strong attraction between them and also uBaba’s insistance that Tgo to KZN .

    He wants to carry on with his baby mama also known as Aunt lydia or is it Linda.

  23. T girl

    Thanks Mike,my husband when we met had bad friends and he had to decide between me and them and as a result he realised they werent good friends because they couldnt be happy and except that he had decided to have a family and settle down, good friends would of been supportive and encouraged our relationship instead of wanting to invite him out alone all the time.

  24. In the first 50 this time hhahaha.
    Anyway Mike I will say this again..u r good. Every1 I hv introduced on this blog they r hooked. But u will break marriages here because the husbands r compalining abt wives being glued on their fones. Thank god mine is long distance:)

  25. kamo

    Malebo buthi Mike, cant wait for tomorrow. Nna mara ke sa emetse go bona gore Python o nyaka eng ka ngwana batho. Baba ga a diri shap, I would rather he disown me. At some point in our lives we need to cut the cords. A wise poet once said, “For love is in the letting go”. If we dont stand for something, you will fall for everything. Thandi stand your ground girl…u have a bursary and a sugar daddy, ur sorted.LOL*hidesface*

  26. Kholo

    Kudala slindile, its about time i have been checking after every five minutes to c if the new chapter was posted already………..im hooked like that!!!!!!! Thanks Mike.

  27. Kwena

    Really I mean posting tomorrow wow you are the best Mike no wonder u made us panic for this chapter you knew that u had an ace up your sleeve wow wow wow happy and dancing u know that BBM dancing smiley that’s the one that’s how I feel right now

  28. Lolo

    Good stuff! Really enjoy your writings!

    I wouldnt make him choose between me and his friends, rather discuss it and make him see how his friends are instead.

  29. lilLady

    About your question: The only thing your partner can do is make you aware that they don’t like your friends or they make him/her uncomfortable. Only you can me a decision as to continue being friends with them or not.

  30. Nthabs

    Thanx Bra Mike,can’t wait for the confession. To answer ur Q: I’ll never make my. partner choose between me and his frinds,but I’ll rather make sure he sees their bad side.

  31. Nthabs

    Thanx Bra Mike,can’t wait for the confession. To answer ur Q: I’ll never make my partner choose between me and his friends,but I’ll rather make sure he sees their bad side.

  32. Wow Mike u r too fst dis days i cn c u r really crious.I would neva make sum1 choose bt wil make him c dt his frnds r bad den he’l decide 4 himslf n i wnt rush him.

  33. nono

    no he wont have to choose unless he is doing what they are doing,sometimes in a rship you have to be a patnr monre than being a parent and its up tp him hey ,yes I might hint on it that’s if hs duing wrong things but if he wont stop then im gone

  34. Tippy

    nah! Think it’ll be stupid of me to make him choose..
    And as for Thandeka,ai shame. I feel 4 u dear, ur papz is stubborn lyk that

  35. I’m really not impressed Mike. There is no content. You gave so much interpretation and no Drama. This should be intriging. I hope the next chaper will be interesting..
    thanks

  36. Mike now ur hinting u scared that SA woman will run away fom SA guys u quickly come up with Tebogo..I must say i like..giving hope there..lol

  37. Deathby tsotsi-taal. This is by far the most interesting story I’ve read since Steven King. Mike..thank you for keeping us engrossed; keep up the good work. To answer your question..you cannot change your partner’s friends. Friends are forever, partners come and go. As long as they mind their own business and are not in mine I’d leave them be. Have a great weekend! Waiting for confessions …bought popcorn already..lol!

  38. Thulz

    She is really screwed. Daddy dearest is not being fair. Looking forward to the next chapter of confesions. Thanks mikey

  39. Nelly

    To answer your question…. I would talk to my partner about how I feel about his friends.. Encourage him not to get involved in their bad activities. To make him choose between me and his friends would be unfair. I can’t judge his friends nor him. After all he could be a good role model to his friends and inspire them to change from their bad ways. Unless the situation seems hopeless then I think its best to let go after trying.. Anyway thank you Mike Maphoto for yet again another great chapter. Its good news to us that you will post over the weekend.. Something to look forward to!

  40. Hlubikazi

    Yeepeee a post 2 moro is very welcome !!! Enkosi Mike

    To those qho think the blog is now boring . . . Why r u still reading it. . .Didnt ur mothers teach u ro keep ir comments to urself if they r not nice or constructive. Nx!!!!

  41. Nana

    As a person you can never control things that involve a second person. you must just be strong cz ingxaki izobakhona once he starts telling you to choose from your own freinds as well…………….

  42. john

    I appreciate such a chapter. The story was moving too fast and characters need to be built up. You have never watched a movie where there is action from the first minute. They build a storylone. People don’t appreciate. When last did you write a story that ten people wrote and asked for more! Come on now encourage Mike and not be so negative. Well done Mike for making these ungrateful losers read!

  43. miss t

    hi

    mike loving this books , I wish you could write them both everyday, for a person with girls. I cringe by just a thought that they will be going through these decisions

    love your books big time

  44. lebo_geeez!

    wow hey…i cldnt help bt dance when i saw that chapter 71 is out LOL eevrybody here at work thinks that im goin mad….Keep goin Mike plzzz!!! tthis is better than an addiction :)

  45. Miss Dee

    “irresistible force meets an immovable force” Mike Maphoto is bat man lol or the Joker, I love that line. Good one Mike as always…

  46. diva

    I find that Thandeka is a bit harsh on her own people what does she mean she cant go to KZn coz it’s full of Zulu’s? I think these are dangerous stereotypes that you are fuming in your work. I dont enjoy this as a Zulu person coz it’s like you’re constantly attacking us. I just don’t understand why I as a Zulu wouldn’t go to study in KZN because there are Zulu’s there it’s unrealistic and spreading tribalism

  47. Countess Namibia

    Its very difficult to change someone, let alone change his friends.

    By the way Mike, thanks for the heads-up. Looking forward to 72!

  48. Carly

    Gr8 read Mike and I can relate, My then Bf now husby had a good long time friend of a female variety, I saw her as a threat I never asked him to break off the friendship but it fiZzled out of its own accord( ashamed to say I had a part in that..Lol underhand ofCourse) tnx to all the Critics for supporting the blog, We look at you all positively U still reading( ratings going up)#bbmtongueout

  49. KG

    Ai ai ai uBaba is on a mission mos as for loan e le hore motho o na le bursary ai shem I’d also not go to UKZN,,,for ur Q I’d talk to my bf and tell him that I don’t like the friends buh I wouldn’t make him choose between us,,i mean I found the friends ba le teng mos and he’s jus a bf not husband buh I’d make he knows exactly how I feel ka his friends

  50. teesibe

    Charma if u r bored ,write ur own blog coz mike his doing everything he can not to impress u alone but he’s doing what he loves , anyway a people never appreciates

  51. I wanna say thanks for this chapter for it was simple, no drama and hopeful, the coupla things standing out:
    Thandeka wanna extend her circle of friends , I find this refreshing
    Thandeka offers to cook for N, this shows some humanity in this girl: for a change
    Paying for their food at Mac D’s, that was super super cool,

    Mike as if you heard my thoughts that we need more positive writing and some normal daily occurrences!

  52. Amanda

    There is no way that you can make him leave those friends… I’m in the same situation where he even let’s his friends interfere not only our business but my sons life too! Making choices for him and whatsoever! I’ve prayed about it Lord knows why he chose to stick with them!

  53. Mike!this chapta did not give it to us thez no drama,creativity u jst wrote 4 the sake of it hope tomorrows 1 will make it up to us! Anyway am ur biggest fan hope u can take constructive critiszn! Cnt wait 4 moro big ups!

  54. since i started reading this story…..Tebogo n his gf are the only two ppl hu are ideal……n i hope ur nt goin bak to UKZN i wud realy b disapointd

  55. phumi

    He has 2 choose cos If I cnt tolerate dem den we won’t have a healthy relationship cos I know one way or the ada dey will influence him negatively n we will argue n dats not good

  56. @Mike too much dwelling hun sori but I’m more interested in the actual events…but nice one can’t wait for next chapter till monday then.

  57. Brownie

    Great writing, intriguing storyline, thanks for not leaving us with yet another cliffhanger to ponder on the whole weekend!

  58. I dont get why some ppl aim @ being the 1st 2 comment,i just think its plain childish. Uhmm 2 ansa ur question mike honestly i wud nvr let my man choose between me and his frnds bcz fact is they were there 1st,4 all we knw i cud be just passing and he will still have his frnds. He knw’s his frndz beta than me and maybe he has reason 4 sticking with them. But w@ i wud do is make it clear 2 him that i dont like his frndz and state the reasons why i dnt like his frndz. Its up 2 him whether or not he wants 2 cut ties with them or not and he must have his reasons 4 that. U dont go inbtwn a guy and his frnds,u myt b on the losing end. And mike im so psyched that u r gnna be posting this weekend.:) lots of love mikey.

  59. “I guess we were abt to discover what happens when an irresistible force meets an immovable force” yhaaa Thandeka… Great improvement mike can’t wait for confessions chapter 21 weekends were boring without diary hahahaaaa

  60. gerri 1wp

    Jissie Bro mike man!!!!! Just one!!! please please I can only wait so long..next chapter please ASB brother.

  61. gerri 1wp

    Don’t read the story if you think its offensive towards Zulu’s Mike gooi “n Coloured with no front teeth in and see if I wll get Offended.this is reality baby.it happens everyday

  62. Thozama Maphekula

    I DIDNT REALLY MAKE HIM CHOOSE, BUT WHEN WE STARTED DATING HE STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH SOME PEOPLE AND HE STOPPED DRINKIN EVERY WEEKEND. AS FOR THANDEKA DAMN GIRL, U MUST THINK OF A PLAN TO STAY IN JOZI LOL.

    WAITING FOR CONFESSIONS, IM READINGS BOTH BLOGS LOL IM OFFICIALLY A FAN

  63. smurf

    Big up to leewhite fo bng the first to coment and nt bng cocky abt it. As fo the rest chumani cz bng first class dnt mek yu any smarter!
    Thanx fo the luvly read mike

  64. smurf

    Big up to leewhite fo bng the first to coment and nt bng cocky abt it. As fo the rest chumani cz bng first in class dnt mek yu any smarter!
    Thanx fo the luvly read mike

  65. LINDIWE NXELE

    Tnx mikey fr posting on weekend,I’m a final year student@UJ staying@res n blv me dis book of urs is reality

  66. pretty lady_

    I started reading this blog yesterday and I gotta admit,I’m hoooked!! Can’t wait for the next chapter.

  67. MamaKholo

    Thanx Mike,brilliant,o lapisitseng ke go bala, a fologe bus.Mike do what you do best…keep on writing.Thank u very much for an excellent read. As for putting pressure on ur partner, its wrong, u can’t do that, they are not ur friends.

  68. Dee-p

    no its not right to make him choose, u might b the 1 dropped jus for bringing it up, so I wud gradually paint a brighter pic for him…if u wana grow u gota mingle with peeps that will keep u focused but then again if he’s strong willed he’ll reach his full potential whilst amongst the same friends

  69. Thinhie

    But Mike yo chapters are too short, but hey its addictive, the sweetest drug bhabha! Thanx hey keep on doing the good work

  70. Bozza

    Yoh nyeke shame Thandie must stay in Jozi,phela there no likes of Gorilla and Ython in durbs it’s a lot of indians and muslims,she will not survive a day there,lol…

  71. Brenda O

    Negative comments we don’t need rather stop reading and get a life, Mike u the best u will get ppl who do no appreciate and who do not know what they want just ignore them and keep on doing the good work.u the best I am enjoying both books they both have different roles nice mwaah

  72. Mike I believe u r a writer here and we r de readers not de otherway round. Anyone hu feels other chapters r boring let dem go write their own blogs. From me Big up, continue to do lezi odume ngazo.may God bless u and increase ur Talent.continue to write baba. Gud work I mst say.

  73. Lee-Anne

    a friend told me about this blog n i have been infatuated with it ever since, ur truely gifted Mike n we are most lucky to have ur talent shared with us GOD BLESS YOU

  74. fun-somenight

    can this book come to a conclusion already though!!!tjo reading a book for over 2months dont make sense. but its a good read mara conclusion plz tog.

  75. triple threat

    Uhmmm really?? Awesome read but like you should be leading us to the end already though. Rather have a part two of the book than u prolonging it.

  76. Okay for staters tnx mike for being generous enuf to feed my hungry addiction tomoro *big smile* @ tht of bad friends pls don’t mention m about to b admitted into hospital for high blood pressure or stress stroke etc pregnant as I am.Yoh!ths guys r bad news for my man I tel u thy got him wrapped around their little fingers n thrs nothn I cn do cs apparently thy all his mates since primary its gettin worse by the dday tht I hv to step out n say no for him cs he jst sees gud frnds in them even wen thy use him,he hardly has tym for his sons!! I cd take the whole day if I had to xpln the situation.

  77. Guys pls dnt send rude comments if u fil the novel is boring jst dnt go to the site m sure we all reading ths by choice akere? Karabelo or whteva ur name is m sure u cn b nice tnx!

  78. Lydia

    Something tells me that this friendship between tebogo and thandeka is not going to end well. Since we all know trouble is thandeka’s middle name…what if tebogo starts sleeping with thandeka, whilst the gf thinks they just friends….

  79. Lydia

    Something tells me that this friendship between tebogo and thandeka is not going to end well. Since we all know trouble is thandeka’s middle name…what if tebogo starts sleeping with thandeka, behind the gf’s back whilst the gf thinks they just friends….:-/

  80. uyanda

    Damn this diary is so doing it for me I even 4that the are things to be done here at the house I don’t even care about eating as I’m still new to this diary and I always have my own book and its nice bcz its about life,the way I am I’m sure I will even lose my man bcz for two days I’ve been busy reading and I don’t know what’s his prm bcz now I don’t talk much and I let him be but I’m sure he thinks that I have a men but he wouldn’t wanna read mos

  81. Nez

    ohkay here’s d thng, if u dnt like what mike is writng, pls go read ada blogs if it was on tv i would tel u to change d chanel, dnt tel us u dnt like it, its nt our problem nor is it mikes problem dat u dnt like it, there is no gun on ur heads 4u to continue reading so jst shushh read nd b grateful, Stop actng like 12yr olds. If there is sumthng borng its Generations go complain to d writers nd leave mike alone hawu… Nxa niyakwatisana straight.

  82. TK Mandy

    Most of my friends and I am afraid to say myself included would not stand for this shit! We want to own the man and make sure that we throttle him so much that no one else must ever befriend him ever again. If I date him I should be the last girl he should ever talk to because I feel so threatened by every female he will meet after me.Even colleagues at work must not call him because he is my man! Its a wonder how he got to this age without me!? That’s our mentality. So relevent to me

  83. MoWmOw

    I’m soooo in love with your blog. You never disappoint and almost every chapter ends with suspence which is further incresed by the waiting period and anticipation of the next chapter, quite intriguing I must say!!!!

  84. Minkie

    Yoh…Thandeka usenkingeni ntombazane!
    Bored readers…this is a blog…a build up story ,not a soapie or series dat yal watch…this jst shows how less u read…life aint always abt drama its also abt taking dcsns.

  85. Tebogo

    Shoo uDaddy really set in his ways. To answer your question. No I will not ask him to leave his friends. However I expect him being the adult he is not to be influenced he should be able to make his own decisions. I do not take kindly to people who don’t know themselves. My expectations are simple are grown man should just know themselves and not follow the crowd

  86. Dinnoh

    This is just one of dos storys u wish dont end… It keeps getting better nd better.. I love dis yoo, more dan my bf. Lol

  87. lulekwa

    Thanx alot Mike.This dad should just let Thandeka grow up&learn to be responsible for herself&her decisions.I’m suspicious ingathi kanti unomakhwapheni eGoli;why is he so insistent????

  88. fikz

    Shem Thandeka wabatho.
    Well I wouldn’t make Him choose really,cos I have bad friends aswell n don’t wanna b made 2 chOose.

  89. uyanda

    @lulekwa maybe he has a gf and now he sees her being on his line or maybe his ben 10 pa,who knows bcz hee sana I don’t unsdt klk

  90. Mbali Dubazana

    Hilarious how there’s always a gazilion ppl claiming to be the first to have read ur chapters it realy bowls me over maybe nami I should claim to be the firat some day.

  91. breyonce ;)

    Mike we love your work and we enjoy these stories a lot……we also know how difficult it must be having 2 keep up with the demand 4 more chapters…..mara can we at least get 2 chapters a day…..*Thandeka Shouldn’t go 2 Dbn!!angivumi!!

  92. Uuuu aaaah ur dad is so boring n dominant I thank him pls teach him a lesson dat u can make it here eish nxa its lyk parents who take out kids from school saying they wana extend the house family mxm

  93. boinelo

    I recently lost my unborn twin nd I’m required 2 stay strong 4 the remaining 1 as she’s not born yet and I needed 2 find something 2 keep me busy. I just wanna say thank you 4 the diary has played a huge part in my healing…

  94. gerri 1wp

    Bra mike great work.I don’t wanne sound lik a Nag but (REALLY) please post 3 to 4 chapters iim no Writer but seriously I need more i can’t do one!!!!!

  95. luzile

    I believe that one dont have to make a friend choose between good friend or bad. One choose friends because of what he or sees in a friend. When one is uncorfotable around her friends they usually stop friendship without even saying goodbye.

  96. Gugulethu

    Wooooohoooo! Awesome! I totally think she should go to Durban! She’s a girl with a lot to explore! She’ll be away from dad and will create more drama! New Gorillas and Pythons! Lol! Can’t wait for the next chapter, thanks Mike!

  97. Ongezwa

    I really enjoyed reading ds blog but pls keep Thandeka jus 4 once out of trouble and let her sort her life. I ws reading ds since 11am and the tym is 00:35 (damn you’re a good writer)

  98. TeeKay

    This book is very interesting but the wait for more chapters to be loaded makes it really boring…Haai Suka!!

  99. Well its nt easy to make him choose, u will neva win anyway, coz u found them together its clear your man doesn’t see anything wrong with his friends. Take my situation I’m dealing with 1 closest friend of my man who have bin afta mi since the day he (my man) introduced mi to him. I tried everything to make him stop coz bt he won’t stop, nd I cant tell my man about he won’t believe mi as they hav bin friends since forever so I won’t win. Nd worse thing we hang out together all 3 of us most of the tym nd it makes mi sick to see him pretend like dat to his friends. I’m sorry with the essay.

  100. uyanda

    Hee sana I don’t like weekends anymore bcz ta-mike doesn’t post and that hurts a lot,but I would like to thank him bcz this has chgd my life bcz ke jozi isn’t that bad for me if you go there go and do what you went to do ja I’m not saying don’t go out don’t date but for you to be in line remember your r.son why you went there same for pe ke ja I know that dez are two dift plcz

  101. bee

    Lmao. I started reading ths diary 2 days back nd I was so angry I couldn’t find chapter 72 bt ur comments made realize dat da diary is nt a finished book bt a continuing diary like any atha diary. *waiting*

  102. Tumi

    Well, i would not make him choose as such but I would make my concerns known about his friends and my reasons. I believe it is only fair that he knows what kind of environment I prefer for a relationship, I would not be a true girlfriend if I don’t advise him of bad choices I think he is making. I can’t just be a Yes girl. it’s not like he is married to his friends mos

  103. buyi

    hi! MIKE, interesting blog and educational too. When i met my partner he had friends that i did not lyk, i always spoke about the advantages and disadvantages of having such frnds and let him decide on his own wether to keep them or nt. Today his the one whos telling me how much tym he waisted on that frndship.

  104. buyi

    thank u Mike for a wonderful blog and educational too. When i met my life partner he had frnds that i did not approve off. I never pushed him but i would talk about the advantages and disadv.of having such frnds. Today he always tel me on how he waisted his tym on such frnds. Do not force things on ppl, let them c by themselfs after advising them the wrong and da right.

  105. Goetsimang

    Shuuuuuu…..finally I read it…. Gaape yesterday was my bday bt all I cud think abt was when m I gonna read the nxt chapter…#hooked#… Fantastic work…continue doing ur best… Thanx..

  106. Fortunate

    Its been forever since i commented …let me just say to mike u cn hire me and i publish Four chapter everyday, and in dat way almal is baai bly!!… To answer ur q: i’ll share my feelings to my partner about his friends but no ultimatums in my love life…

  107. Bra-Den

    Wow bra Mike, this is awesome you must create a fan page/group on fb specifically for this book! U r really talented baba, while u put up together new chapters I shall read the confessions. Tx

  108. BukieM

    Great work Mike. A lot of us are learning from the block. A lot of info u share talks to most of us. Maara ubaba ka Thandenka, haibo, that is unfair. I am still waiting to hear the job Gorilla has for her. I hope it’s not drug related. I am starting with Confessions, and I bet in 2 days I’ll catch up :)

  109. Nthabi

    Please tell me this is not the last Chapter you are leaving us with so much anticipation… Great work I must say

  110. Slie

    Awesome read, it really is an eye opener!!! Can’t wait to read chapter 72. Couldn’t find chapter 52, displayed msg page not found… Pls help

  111. ImAStar

    I like reading these blog posts of yours, both Confessions and Zulu girl.
    I like them so much in fact, that I thought I could ignore all these grammar, spelling and other general errors.

    A couple of chapters in, though, and they’re starting to really get to me :/
    I’m no english teacher, or linguistics expert, but I do know a few basics that I wouldn’t mind helping out with. Hit me up if you could use some help from an ‘editor’. :)

  112. Palesa

    I’m not much of a reader bt I must say this is sooooo good, it got me glued 2 my phone for the past 2 days, now I’m just waiting for the next chapters to be published….Bravo

  113. Andy

    I think daddy dearest is no different from T’s uncle (cheater) he doesn’t need his daughter around to disturb him as now it’s his freedom time…

  114. Nimo»07

    Wow I must say I culdnt stop reading immediately as I heard of this……keep up da gud work hey….cnt wait 4 da nxt chapters damn. I kinda in a very weird way find myself relating 2 Thandeka yho!!!!!

  115. nthabilicious

    tjo hayi ntate oo wa bora,n to ansa yo q no i wouldnt make him choose,ke di tsala tsagwe and who am i to make him choose

  116. lalla-lee

    Ah dude I’m heartbroken for real, like please post @ least 3 times a week tu, or give us a schedule @ least coz I feel like crying when I check on the blog on both books n find nothing… Please feed my habit pretty please

  117. Bathabile

    bur you said you past Zulu girl every second day, you last posted on the 21st now it’s the 24th.
    I feel like your making promises you aren’t keeping

  118. Annie

    i dnt think is right to make anybody choose in such situations but to advirse your partney abt his bad friends not bad but i would not hang around with him when he is with that bad friend i would call it a boys day out

  119. Maishibe

    Trying to change someone always backfires. rather accept him as he is le dii chomi tsahae. You dont have to like them but well gotta make it work for the sake of not having to expect your man to take sides!

  120. sithole

    I have a problem with the men, most of them the jst use our sistrs coz they knw south african women they like money n da other thing dey do most of dem dey turn destroy our country, we don’t have future leaders anymore coz of them.
    Look at Pretoria streets n tell me how many ppl r slpng da, dose ppl they left their homes n went to town coz they will have easy access of drugs from dose brothers

  121. sheila kabelo

    Wow mike oh I ddnt knw dat guys want deir gf to befriends wth da hot frnds lol interest kip up da good work m impressed

  122. pres

    Good read but think ur loosing the mojo on this chapter and the previous chapter. By mojo I mean the creativily and that taste that makes one laugh or smile alone like a mad person. I didn’t get that on these last two chapters. I found myself skiping some paragraphs cos I just wanna get to the end.I know ur good but give it a bit more time.

  123. Tlholo a.k.a lulo

    Lol I know the name Tlhologelo is difficult…so ppl end up calling me Tsholo…worse my friends call me Lulo coz white ppl pronounce it terrible. I had a problem during my high skul

  124. savvy

    Tebogo, and the girlfriend are looking to spies up their sex life…. they are looking to swing, I just see 3 some on it’s way!

  125. antso

    i belive that men give us woman s reoson not to trust them around other woman.
    1, if ur man has cheated and u decide to stay with him .u will never trust him around any other woman
    2, if ur man is the cute,clean, or uggly but jollable attractive guys then obviously ud want him to be all yours

  126. Most of my friends and I am afraid to say myself included would not stand for this shit! We want to own the man and make sure that we throttle him so much that no one else must ever befriend him ever again. If I date him I should be the last girl he should ever talk to because I feel so threatened by every female he will meet after me. Even colleagues at work must not call him because he is my man! Its a wonder how he got to this age without me!? That’s our mentality…..True…True and so true…..embarrassed

  127. slindilicious

    Aiy ubaba why does he wanna ruin our good strory or has he found hinslf a sugarbabe*isincanekazana egoli n does nt want to be found out? What’s his story….

  128. lesego wa mandla

    My boyfriend made me leave all of my guy friends .it hurt a lot but he said he did it cause he cared ,I knw he dd it cause he ws insecure.loving this blog book(:

  129. meme

    hey Mike! my sister just introduced this diary to me and its awesome,thnx…i wish i found about it earlier so i can have a break and sleep…lol but its still ok cause now i dnt have to wait to read the next chapter.

  130. Tzozo

    Imani Kanti whats this big deal about who comments 1st and who makes it to the top 10? seriously you guys are defeating the purpose not even reading the chapter first and filling up the blog for no reason…

    Mike thanks a million this work is treasure… I can so relate to the stuff Thandeka is going through (maybe not to the full extent – but to a great degree)

    First year, tho ages ago – was indeed a dramatic roller-coaster and im having such fun realizing that i wasn’t mad, these things do happen.

    Thankfully Im saved now – God came to the rescue… LOL i hope Thandeka meets him :)

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